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phoenix · 11-26-2003, 03:19 PM

I was doing really good at staying calm and positive after my accident.Then I went to the bone specialist.Now reality is crashing all around.I got a paper that says "No use of the upper L extremity x 2 months".In other words,no using my left shoulder...period.Not limited use,not take it easy...but NO USE at all.Amongst other things,that means I can't drive.Even if my employers could use me as a one armed worker,I'd have to hustle rides back and forth.I've worked hard to be known as a super reliable employee.And now this.I am shaken to the core.

I just keep telling myself that I only need to get through this one day,one small step at a time.God will provide for my needs.I am already blessed beyond measure.Life is good.Thanks for listening.

phoenix

2stop · 11-26-2003, 03:30 PM

Oh Pheonix, I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I know what an accident can do to everything around you.....but I do believe in prayer......and I do believe in miracles. The other day when I was freakin out...it occurred to me that the pain, the crisis, the agony was the whole reason I AM a spiritual person, so it must mean that these times prepare me for two things...to handle great difficulty in my life, and to help another with great difficulty in their life. I could not help anothers broken heart and spirit unless mine had been broken also....Something good will come of this my friend...I am going to meditate/pray and send positive energy your way tonight when I light my new candle....I really feel for you Phoenix.....very ((((gentle hugs)))) are coming your way....hold the arms of that recliner tight tonight...when that blast of positive energy comes your way I don't want you fallin over!

(((((((((((Hang in there))))))))))))) and know......
You Are Loved, and your HP will walk you through this.

DolphinBlue · 11-26-2003, 04:40 PM

Phoenix,

gee you've had quite a time alright. I can only assume there's a reason for all of this though I hate to sound trite.

Sometimes they give the worst case scenario, maybe you will heal faster than that? Anyway, take gentle care. I won't give you a big hug, just a little one.

Amy

**51anna** · 11-26-2003, 05:47 PM

Hi Phoenix, I agree with Dolphin and Tammie. There must be a reason for this accident. It must be meant to teach you something. Although, I guess it's darn hard to see that right now. I guess you need to make a decision on getting back to work and no transportation makes that really tough. I suppose if public transportation was an option you'd have thought of that? I'm sorry for you my friend. I'm thinking of you often and wishing you well.

Hugs and love,
Anna

phoenix · 11-26-2003, 07:17 PM

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Originally posted by 51anna
I guess you need to make a decision on getting back to work and no transportation makes that really tough. I suppose if public transportation was an option you'd have thought of that? I'm sorry for you my friend. I'm thinking of you often and wishing you well.

Hugs and love,
Anna

Thanks Anna

Actually my employers will have to decide if they can use me.I work with preschool kids,and you really need to be able to pick them up.Part of my job is helping them in and out of their seats on the bus.Some of them have to be lifted,and then they have to be buckled in.If there were an emergency requiring the bus to be evacuated,I would need to be able to lift them for sure.It's complicated...but my bosses will do their best.I'm just gonna have to trust that God knows what he's doing.I have already been blessed in many ways

Hugs,

phoenix

zoomer · 11-26-2003, 07:50 PM

((((((((((((Phoenix))))))). OK, can you get disability? Relax and take a couple months off to regroup. You can't help what you have been through,so go with the flow. Sometimes (except in your case) you just got to throw up your hands and say "whatever" LOL. Would you exspect anyone else to go to work with one arm working? I hope your feeling better!

2stop · 11-27-2003, 07:05 AM

Thinking of you Phoenix........

(((((((((Very Gentle Hugs)))))))))))) coming your way!

Hang in there my friend, still praying for you..........

:bluerose :yellowros :redrose

dotcom · 11-27-2003, 01:42 PM

your in my thoughts and prayers phoenix. have a happy thanksgiving!

dotcom

Justme57 · 11-27-2003, 10:23 PM

Hi Phoenix , been thinking of you today ! hope you are as well as you can be !

How goes it on the employment front ?

Gentle ((((( HUGX)))))))
Lee

bikerprincess · 11-28-2003, 07:57 AM

Hey Phoenix...I hope today finds you in good spirits!! It is awesome to hear you speak with confidence that what you are going through is all in the master plan. You are truly inspirational!

Anne

clancy · 11-28-2003, 02:15 PM

Hello phoenix,

I'd like to send you some gentle ones too. I know whats like to break bits of you, i fell off my bike (it was way too powerful for me,as well being just too damn long!)and broke my femur when i was 22. i had to have bone tractionwhich meant six weeks of solid bed with a bar thru me leg. ouch. so boring! and my leg was much skinnier than the other one and all hairy by the end! jeez, i'd fogotten about leg hair.gross.
I remember that my personality got a severe blip in it,i was always cross and short with my friends when they came to visit, i felt like i was takin on this 'patient' role, and they mates i had left when i was back on my pins again were true ones.
I was sure the accident happened for a reason...and the reason was that i subconciously made it happen, because of the situation i was in, i was being badly abused by a guy i was living with and badly needed to be in a place of safety. I couldn't ''stand'' it any more,so i broke my leg...to get away? cos get away i did,and he wasn't allowed near me in hospital. needless to say i never went back.I think that every single illness or accident happens because we make it happen, to draw attention to something that needs action.
Our bodies are very smart really.
Anyway, my heart goes out to you, its a difficult testing time.

lots of love sister xxxx

Clancy

2stop · 11-29-2003, 07:27 AM

Mornin Phoenix! ((((((V.G.H.'s)))))))*very gentle hugs*

Hope you have a good day!! Hang in there..we love you!!!

:star

phoenix · 11-29-2003, 07:37 AM

You guys rock

I had a great day yesterday.Got to spend most of it with friends.Had pork chops for dinner.You can picture a big burly former hardcore biker kindly offering to cut up my pork chop ,and dishing up a plate for me.Life in recovery is just chock full of that kind of transformation.It's awwwwwesome...lol.

phoenix

**51anna** · 11-29-2003, 09:49 AM

You sound like you're in such good spirits Phoenix! You're an amazing lady - I'm sure your collar bone will recover well and you'll be as good as new. In the meantime, I send all my best wishes to you and your son.

Hugs and love,
Anna

Justme57 · 11-29-2003, 09:54 AM

Good Morning Phoenix !

I do hope you are feeling better !Have been thinking of you , and send you very gentle (((HUGX)))))

LUV
Lee

ButterflyChaser · 12-01-2003, 03:07 AM

(((((((((((((((((((Phoenix)))))))))))))))))))))
You r in my thoughts & prayers! Love you! Ü

Paulie · 12-01-2003, 08:29 AM

(((Phoenix)))

I am a little late here but sending hugs to you. I can just picture you getting your pork chop cut by a big biker - LOL!!! what a gift.

Just keep taking it slow, one day at a time. When I broke my shoulder last January they said surgery I said NO. I think they say the worst. Take it easy and take care of you, your body will heal.

11-26-2003, 03:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
phoenix Paused Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Dreaming Summer Posts: 807	Trying not to panic I was doing really good at staying calm and positive after my accident.Then I went to the bone specialist.Now reality is crashing all around.I got a paper that says "No use of the upper L extremity x 2 months".In other words,no using my left shoulder...period.Not limited use,not take it easy...but NO USE at all.Amongst other things,that means I can't drive.Even if my employers could use me as a one armed worker,I'd have to hustle rides back and forth.I've worked hard to be known as a super reliable employee.And now this.I am shaken to the core. I just keep telling myself that I only need to get through this one day,one small step at a time.God will provide for my needs.I am already blessed beyond measure.Life is good.Thanks for listening. phoenix

11-26-2003, 03:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	Oh Pheonix, I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I know what an accident can do to everything around you.....but I do believe in prayer......and I do believe in miracles. The other day when I was freakin out...it occurred to me that the pain, the crisis, the agony was the whole reason I AM a spiritual person, so it must mean that these times prepare me for two things...to handle great difficulty in my life, and to help another with great difficulty in their life. I could not help anothers broken heart and spirit unless mine had been broken also....Something good will come of this my friend...I am going to meditate/pray and send positive energy your way tonight when I light my new candle....I really feel for you Phoenix.....very ((((gentle hugs)))) are coming your way....hold the arms of that recliner tight tonight...when that blast of positive energy comes your way I don't want you fallin over! (((((((((((Hang in there))))))))))))) and know...... You Are Loved, and your HP will walk you through this. __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-26-2003, 04:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
DolphinBlue Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 622	Phoenix, gee you've had quite a time alright. I can only assume there's a reason for all of this though I hate to sound trite. Sometimes they give the worst case scenario, maybe you will heal faster than that? Anyway, take gentle care. I won't give you a big hug, just a little one. Amy __________________ It takes both sunshine and rain to make a rainbow.

11-27-2003, 07:05 AM	#7 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	Thinking of you Phoenix........ (((((((((Very Gentle Hugs)))))))))))) coming your way! Hang in there my friend, still praying for you.......... :bluerose :yellowros :redrose __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-27-2003, 01:42 PM	#8 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	your in my thoughts and prayers phoenix. have a happy thanksgiving! dotcom __________________ probably not.

11-26-2003, 05:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,026	Hi Phoenix, I agree with Dolphin and Tammie. There must be a reason for this accident. It must be meant to teach you something. Although, I guess it's darn hard to see that right now. I guess you need to make a decision on getting back to work and no transportation makes that really tough. I suppose if public transportation was an option you'd have thought of that? I'm sorry for you my friend. I'm thinking of you often and wishing you well. Hugs and love, Anna

11-26-2003, 07:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,353	((((((((((((Phoenix))))))). OK, can you get disability? Relax and take a couple months off to regroup. You can't help what you have been through,so go with the flow. Sometimes (except in your case) you just got to throw up your hands and say "whatever" LOL. Would you exspect anyone else to go to work with one arm working? I hope your feeling better!

11-27-2003, 10:23 PM	#9 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Hi Phoenix , been thinking of you today ! hope you are as well as you can be ! How goes it on the employment front ? Gentle ((((( HUGX))))))) Lee __________________

11-28-2003, 07:57 AM	#10 (permalink)
bikerprincess Member Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: St Louis, MO Posts: 190	Hey Phoenix...I hope today finds you in good spirits!! It is awesome to hear you speak with confidence that what you are going through is all in the master plan. You are truly inspirational! Anne

11-28-2003, 02:15 PM	#11 (permalink)
clancy Im Ok - youre OK Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: UK Posts: 251	Hello phoenix, I'd like to send you some gentle ones too. I know whats like to break bits of you, i fell off my bike (it was way too powerful for me,as well being just too damn long!)and broke my femur when i was 22. i had to have bone tractionwhich meant six weeks of solid bed with a bar thru me leg. ouch. so boring! and my leg was much skinnier than the other one and all hairy by the end! jeez, i'd fogotten about leg hair.gross. I remember that my personality got a severe blip in it,i was always cross and short with my friends when they came to visit, i felt like i was takin on this 'patient' role, and they mates i had left when i was back on my pins again were true ones. I was sure the accident happened for a reason...and the reason was that i subconciously made it happen, because of the situation i was in, i was being badly abused by a guy i was living with and badly needed to be in a place of safety. I couldn't ''stand'' it any more,so i broke my leg...to get away? cos get away i did,and he wasn't allowed near me in hospital. needless to say i never went back.I think that every single illness or accident happens because we make it happen, to draw attention to something that needs action. Our bodies are very smart really. Anyway, my heart goes out to you, its a difficult testing time. lots of love sister xxxx Clancy __________________ 'It riles them to believe that you perceive the web they weave'

11-29-2003, 07:27 AM	#12 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	Mornin Phoenix! ((((((V.G.H.'s)))))))very gentle hugs Hope you have a good day!! Hang in there..we love you!!! :star __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-29-2003, 07:37 AM	#13 (permalink)
phoenix Paused Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Dreaming Summer Posts: 807	You guys rock I had a great day yesterday.Got to spend most of it with friends.Had pork chops for dinner.You can picture a big burly former hardcore biker kindly offering to cut up my pork chop ,and dishing up a plate for me.Life in recovery is just chock full of that kind of transformation.It's awwwwwesome...lol. phoenix

11-29-2003, 09:49 AM	#14 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,026	You sound like you're in such good spirits Phoenix! You're an amazing lady - I'm sure your collar bone will recover well and you'll be as good as new. In the meantime, I send all my best wishes to you and your son. Hugs and love, Anna

11-29-2003, 09:54 AM	#15 (permalink)
Justme57 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Melbourne victoria Posts: 1,980 Blog Entries: 7	Good Morning Phoenix ! I do hope you are feeling better !Have been thinking of you , and send you very gentle (((HUGX))))) LUV Lee __________________

12-01-2003, 03:07 AM	#16 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	(((((((((((((((((((Phoenix))))))))))))))))))))) You r in my thoughts & prayers! Love you! Ü __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

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