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wakowife · 11-24-2003, 09:05 PM

i feel like the world in closing in all around me. after everything that i have been thru this past week with my son, i have been fighting with my husband just about everyday.and i dont even know why, it just seems that everything he does or doesn't do is hitting my nerves. i'm back to not talking to him, instead i'm screaming at him. he tells me one thing and then claims he never said it. promised me that when i started to go to school he would help with the house, doesn't happen, i have to literally scream at him before he moves from the tv to actually do what i have asked him a thousand times before it got so bad tonight that i told him i think we should think about a trial seperation. it's not that i dont love him, it's just that right now i dont even like him. does this make any sense?????

really just so stressed that i cant even think stright any more

Bernadette

SkyIsFalling42 · 11-24-2003, 10:05 PM

Bernadette
I struggle with this. If I am hurting or scared or feeling threatened in any way, I want to pull away from everyone. I think it is because I do not want any more hurt at that time. What I have been doing is actually taking any support away from me with these actions. It is very difficult for me to break this pattern, as it almost seems like instinct to me, not choice.
When my chidlren were still in emementary school I realized that just when families need to pull together, in the really rough times, they tend to get into fights with each other instead. Everyone is on edge, and they may have a hard time knowing how to cope. What we could do if our whole family could pull together in crisis.
It seems like you may need a rest of some kind. When I am exhausted, everything seems so awful, and desolate. Please take a day and take care of you, rest and look at all with a rested mind and heart.

**51anna** · 11-25-2003, 06:23 AM

Hi Bernadette, I think Sky is right on the mark with her post. I would like to add that husbands and children often make promises to help when the wife/mother is working and I really think they mean well. It just never happens the way you would like it too. When I had 2 teenagers at home, a full-time job and a husband who travelled it was the worst. Everyone thought my concerns were trivial. I don't know what the answer is, but I understand where you're coming from and I sympathize.

Hugs and love,
Anna

2stop · 11-25-2003, 06:46 PM

((((Bernadette))))) I can relate for sure! Man, I wish I could do more to comfort you, but here's a big big
(((((((((((((((Hug))))))))))))))))

:bluerose

......and try and do something nice and relaxing just be YOU!! Be selfish...you deserve some down time, okay?

wakowife · 11-25-2003, 07:59 PM

thanks guys, you have been such a great support system for me, instead of stressing out at home tody, i decided to go to school on my day off and i stayed from 9am to 5pm,and i let my husband deal with my daughter getting home from school late, and having to drive my son to work and oh year guesss what he forgot to take something out of the freezer for dinner. amazing when i say that he cant understand it. but guess what it proves that noone person can deal with every situation, and i'm sticking to school and do laundry and cooking dinner when i'm not in school, and he can deal with it when i'm in school
Bernadette

**51anna** · 11-25-2003, 08:06 PM

Sounds like you're doing alright Bernadette. You'll make just fine. How is school going, by the way? Is it a lot of work?

Hugs and love,
Anna

wakowife · 11-25-2003, 08:11 PM

yes school is a lot of work, but i love it, so far i have cut hair 3 different way, a blunt cut, an angle cut and layers, i have also learned how to use the buzzer on a man head, i have done blow out and have been told they are great, my biggest problem is i cant get the rollers stright, but everything takeas times
thanks for asking

dotcom · 11-25-2003, 09:09 PM

hi wako wife

since im not married i cant really relate. but your in my thoughts!

GOD BLESS

dotcom

wakowife · 11-25-2003, 09:29 PM

now that i have had some time to myself ((more or less)) ni think that maybe i was just flying off the handle with everything that had been going on around me in general, and this time of the year is really stressful for me, this is the week last year that my mom became so sick and i think that maybe i'm going thru all the motions of cooking and christmas shopping at a rate that i cant explain, but i think it's because i'm afraid to sit down and actually think about what time of the year it is, i lost my brother on jan 9, 1999 and mom on Feb 14, 2003 and now with all this stuff going on with my son i feel like a time bomb ready to go off. does this make any sense to anyone.l

Bernadette

dotcom · 11-25-2003, 10:42 PM

hi wako wife

all those little things adding up = a big explosion!

im very sorry for your losses. my grandma passed away on Feb 13, 2003.

GOD BLESS

dotcom

11-24-2003, 09:05 PM	#1 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	stressed out i feel like the world in closing in all around me. after everything that i have been thru this past week with my son, i have been fighting with my husband just about everyday.and i dont even know why, it just seems that everything he does or doesn't do is hitting my nerves. i'm back to not talking to him, instead i'm screaming at him. he tells me one thing and then claims he never said it. promised me that when i started to go to school he would help with the house, doesn't happen, i have to literally scream at him before he moves from the tv to actually do what i have asked him a thousand times before it got so bad tonight that i told him i think we should think about a trial seperation. it's not that i dont love him, it's just that right now i dont even like him. does this make any sense????? really just so stressed that i cant even think stright any more Bernadette

11-24-2003, 10:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
SkyIsFalling42 Big kitty nose hugs Join Date: May 2003 Location: Center of The World Posts: 1,261	Bernadette I struggle with this. If I am hurting or scared or feeling threatened in any way, I want to pull away from everyone. I think it is because I do not want any more hurt at that time. What I have been doing is actually taking any support away from me with these actions. It is very difficult for me to break this pattern, as it almost seems like instinct to me, not choice. When my chidlren were still in emementary school I realized that just when families need to pull together, in the really rough times, they tend to get into fights with each other instead. Everyone is on edge, and they may have a hard time knowing how to cope. What we could do if our whole family could pull together in crisis. It seems like you may need a rest of some kind. When I am exhausted, everything seems so awful, and desolate. Please take a day and take care of you, rest and look at all with a rested mind and heart. __________________ Love In Spirit, Sky Where my heart is....... http://Writing.Com/authors/skyisfalling02 "Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In, Never, Never, Never." ~~Sir Winston Churchill~~

11-25-2003, 06:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	((((Bernadette))))) I can relate for sure! Man, I wish I could do more to comfort you, but here's a big big (((((((((((((((Hug)))))))))))))))) :bluerose ......and try and do something nice and relaxing just be YOU!! Be selfish...you deserve some down time, okay? __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

11-25-2003, 09:09 PM	#8 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	hi wako wife since im not married i cant really relate. but your in my thoughts! GOD BLESS dotcom __________________ probably not.

11-25-2003, 10:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
dotcom Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: laughing at my avatar Posts: 1,645	hi wako wife all those little things adding up = a big explosion! im very sorry for your losses. my grandma passed away on Feb 13, 2003. GOD BLESS dotcom __________________ probably not.

11-25-2003, 06:23 AM	#3 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	Hi Bernadette, I think Sky is right on the mark with her post. I would like to add that husbands and children often make promises to help when the wife/mother is working and I really think they mean well. It just never happens the way you would like it too. When I had 2 teenagers at home, a full-time job and a husband who travelled it was the worst. Everyone thought my concerns were trivial. I don't know what the answer is, but I understand where you're coming from and I sympathize. Hugs and love, Anna

11-25-2003, 07:59 PM	#5 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	thanks guys, you have been such a great support system for me, instead of stressing out at home tody, i decided to go to school on my day off and i stayed from 9am to 5pm,and i let my husband deal with my daughter getting home from school late, and having to drive my son to work and oh year guesss what he forgot to take something out of the freezer for dinner. amazing when i say that he cant understand it. but guess what it proves that noone person can deal with every situation, and i'm sticking to school and do laundry and cooking dinner when i'm not in school, and he can deal with it when i'm in school Bernadette

11-25-2003, 08:06 PM	#6 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,027	Sounds like you're doing alright Bernadette. You'll make just fine. How is school going, by the way? Is it a lot of work? Hugs and love, Anna

11-25-2003, 08:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	yes school is a lot of work, but i love it, so far i have cut hair 3 different way, a blunt cut, an angle cut and layers, i have also learned how to use the buzzer on a man head, i have done blow out and have been told they are great, my biggest problem is i cant get the rollers stright, but everything takeas times thanks for asking

11-25-2003, 09:29 PM	#9 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	now that i have had some time to myself ((more or less)) ni think that maybe i was just flying off the handle with everything that had been going on around me in general, and this time of the year is really stressful for me, this is the week last year that my mom became so sick and i think that maybe i'm going thru all the motions of cooking and christmas shopping at a rate that i cant explain, but i think it's because i'm afraid to sit down and actually think about what time of the year it is, i lost my brother on jan 9, 1999 and mom on Feb 14, 2003 and now with all this stuff going on with my son i feel like a time bomb ready to go off. does this make any sense to anyone.l Bernadette

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