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Sidney14 · 10-20-2009, 03:25 AM

Anyone else has this problem.I have been eith my cuurwnt oartner for two years and we have baby together and he has been through my relapse episodes of binge drinking...... But he is so hard to communicate with it is like have pulling every bit of info out of him and it does affect recovery I mean physical and emotional all is ok but he never talks and for someone in recovery. It feels horrible...,,,

anyone else has this problem

Sugah · 10-20-2009, 04:09 AM

Has he always been that way, Sidney? About your drinking, or about other things? If so, you may be asking him for something he can't give. There are a lot of us who have family members who have no desire to be involved in our recovery process.

And that's another reason it's a very good idea to get yourself to a meeting and find folks who do understand where you are.

Peace & Love,
Sugah

indigo · 10-20-2009, 04:57 AM

Have you got a plan for getting sober? It's so much easier to deal with things when our head is clear.

Sidney14 · 10-20-2009, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by indigo

Have you got a plan for getting sober? It's so much easier to deal with things when our head is clear.

Yes I do am seeing a psychologist who specialising in relapse and prevention, seeing a psychiatrist, go to a whole day group therapy for women in recovery once a week and also go to meetings when I can.......but sometimes the need to instand feedback and talking is there.... that is all.

BTW my partner has always been that way even when growing up with his family so I know it is just part of him and not just my problem with the disease..... it is still hard but apart from that he is a great guy

***Anna*** · 10-20-2009, 06:14 PM

Sidney,

I can relate to what you are saying, and I understand that it's hard.

Since the communication issue is all-encompasing and not just about your addiction, I wonder if you have talked to your partner and let him know how you feel? It might be something that the two of you can work on together. Above all, focus on your recovery and all the work you're doing for that.

NAchic · 10-21-2009, 02:06 PM

I have come across communication issues..and it went both ways, i also was not communicating for a long time. This is something we are re-learning..it is difficult, i try not to let it bother me to the extent that it is interferring with my recovery, one day at a time we try to keep the door open for communication.

Even though some days it feels like

10-20-2009, 03:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sidney14 Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Sydney NSW Posts: 156	No communication Anyone else has this problem.I have been eith my cuurwnt oartner for two years and we have baby together and he has been through my relapse episodes of binge drinking...... But he is so hard to communicate with it is like have pulling every bit of info out of him and it does affect recovery I mean physical and emotional all is ok but he never talks and for someone in recovery. It feels horrible...,,, anyone else has this problem

10-20-2009, 04:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
Sugah Om, Aum, Ohm... Mini Pool 2 Champion! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Punxsutawney/Pittsburgh Posts: 4,596	Has he always been that way, Sidney? About your drinking, or about other things? If so, you may be asking him for something he can't give. There are a lot of us who have family members who have no desire to be involved in our recovery process. And that's another reason it's a very good idea to get yourself to a meeting and find folks who do understand where you are. Peace & Love, Sugah __________________ There's a train leaving nightly called when all is said and done Keep me in your heart for awhile ~WZ ANS 01/29/86 - 08/04/08

10-20-2009, 04:57 AM	#3 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Have you got a plan for getting sober? It's so much easier to deal with things when our head is clear. __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

10-20-2009, 06:14 PM	#5 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,767	Sidney, I can relate to what you are saying, and I understand that it's hard. Since the communication issue is all-encompasing and not just about your addiction, I wonder if you have talked to your partner and let him know how you feel? It might be something that the two of you can work on together. Above all, focus on your recovery and all the work you're doing for that. __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

10-21-2009, 02:06 PM	#6 (permalink)
NAchic Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: upstate new york Posts: 79	I have come across communication issues..and it went both ways, i also was not communicating for a long time. This is something we are re-learning..it is difficult, i try not to let it bother me to the extent that it is interferring with my recovery, one day at a time we try to keep the door open for communication. Even though some days it feels like __________________ after a storm..there is always a rainbow

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