Melody Beattie's New Book

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SR doesn't have a co-dependency forum so I have posted this here as I think it'll be of interest. Melody Beattie has just published a new book.
The article is from http://alcoholism.about.com/
A very informative site which covers addiction too

Melody Beattie's New Book Redefines 'Codependency'

The writer who introduced the world to the concept of "codependency" and launched a new therapeutic movement has a new book out that she hopes will clarify some of the confusion about the topic and remove some of the stigma the term has attracted. Melody Beattie said codependency has come to be associated with the "rabbit-boiling behavior in Fatal Attraction."
Her new book, "The New Codependency: Help and Guidance for Today's Generation," was released Jan. 1, 2009.
In an interview with Christine Stapleton in the Palm Beach Post, Beattie, 60, said her new book is aimed at a second generation of codependents who have an entire different set of issues.
The original generation of codependents were "raised to believe martyrdom, self-denial and incessant caretaking were righteous virtues to be practiced to the point of misery and annoyance," Beattie explained.
The new generation was born in the 1970s and 1980s to parents "who wanted to make sure their children had everything they didn't get" and they protected them from every problem and emotion. "It's the other side of the coin and it's just as bad ... a sense of over-entitlement, over-protection and self-esteem that crosses the line into narcissism."
Going Too Far With Recovery

In her first book, "Codependent No More, Beattie defined a "codependent" as someone "who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior. We believe that we'd be happy if the other person would just change."
In her new book, Beattie warns about codependents going too far when trying to recover from their former behaviors to the point of becoming cold and uncaring.
"One of the biggest problems I have with the codependent recovery movement is people consider themselves recovered when they don't give to anyone, they're not loving and kind," Beattie told Stapleton. "I have people come up to me so proud that they didn't help somebody who was in dire need. That's not what I'm talking about."