ex husband has totally alienated my daughter

[happyagain]

well my ex has finally done it....he has totally pi$$ed off my daughter to the point that she wants absolutely nothing to do with him. she won't see him, accept is e-mails, phone calls, or txt messages. what happened was she asked him why he left and his answer was that it was all MY fault, it was because i was always sick, took/take too many pills (i take approx. 22 daily due to heart conditon, migraines, bladder conditon, stomach conditon, and menopause), and fought with him all the time. well then my daughter said what about the fact that you had a gf and he said that didn't matter the reasons that he left were all because of your mom. well my daughter said that was crap and the reason that he left was to be with his gf and that it takes two people to have an argurement and that mom takes her pills so she won't have another heart attack, so many migraines, pee all over herself, and can stay as healthy as possible. well my ex said that she could believe what she wanted to believe but his leaving wasn't his fault it was all moms fault. and that just pi$$ed off my daughter and she told him that she doesn't want anything to do with him. and i am not forcing the issue. if she doesn't want to have anything to do with him then that is her choice, she is 14 years old and perfectly capable of makeing that decision on her own.
my son on the other hand still has contact with him. which is fine, but it is causing tension between the two kids. so i have to referee the two of them when the subject of mike comes up. but he doesn't see his dad as doing anything wrong, nor does he see me as doing anything wrong.....he just sees that our marriage didn't work out for whatever reasons and as long as we both still love him that is all that matters. things are very black and white for him there is no gray......but my daughter sees the gray. with josh it is just a function of his autism. life is black and white there is no gray......it certainly makes life interesting when dealing with joshua.......
well i guess that is all for this post.....3 posts in one day......that has to be a record for me.....but i just had so much that i needed to get off my chest......thanks as always for listening and allowing me to vent........
rachel