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hope123 · 07-27-2003, 07:07 AM

I'm here to introduce myself. I am an alcoholic. I need support. I am very lonely. I've been drunk the past 2 1/2 days but I'm sober now. I want to quit. Please help.
Thanks,
Beth

bubblze30 · 07-27-2003, 07:28 AM

you have came to the right place I have spent so much time in here hours went by before I relozed it. So check out all the differnt post I am sure one or more will pop out at you. stay strong and hang in there

phoenix · 07-27-2003, 07:28 AM

Hi and welcome.You'll find a lot of support here.See my replies to you on the Newcomers forum for help in navigating the site.It takes a bit of getting used to,but it's worth it.Take care,

phoenix

bubblze30 · 07-27-2003, 07:30 AM

wow phoenix we poseted at the same exact time (i quess you do get what you need ) lots of hug lady

hope123 · 07-27-2003, 07:43 AM

Thank you for your support. It helps knowing someone is out there. I'm still pretty sick although I did manage to eat. I'm just really depressed. I'm thinking of getting a second job to keep me busy. I'm just so tired of drinking. I know I'm on the verge of losing my husband and I'm sure the job will be next if I continue on this path.
Thanks again,
Beth

2stop · 07-27-2003, 08:15 AM

{{BETH}}-Welcome to SoberRecovery! glad you found us. You are taking a courageous step in your life. I know it is so hard, and I commend you on making the decision and sticking with it. There is hope hon, although I so understand a lot of times it sincerely does not feel or seem like it. Hang in there and keep posting , okay? We all care here and we're here for you.

SkyIsFalling42 · 07-27-2003, 11:04 AM

Beth
Welcome!! You will find many who care here. And you are no longer alone.
Sending warm hugs and friendship your way.

wakowife · 07-28-2003, 09:19 PM

Beth: welcome and you have already taken the first step in your recovery, you have admitted that you have a problem and you are taking steps to change that. you will find a great bunch of people here that are will to listen and help and all you have to do is keep posting. there are a great many different sites here,a nd i'm sure that you will feel comfortable once you find the ones that are good for you.

my thoughts and prayers are with you

Bernadette

JenS · 07-28-2003, 10:41 PM

I'm new to the sober life as well Hope, and it's a struggle every day for me. It would be soooo easy to open that can of beer but I know I can't stop at one. I don't want to turn into the wreck I become when I'm drunk ever again.

I just want to add that you can't do this for your husband. You have to be willing to do this for you. So keep reaching out. You have listeners.

Good luck.

Juls · 07-29-2003, 12:34 AM

Hope,

Welcome to the SR forums. Coming around after two and a half days drunk must feel pretty rough. Have you been doing this for awhile? I'm glad you found the boards because this a good place for support and friendship.

You say you want to stop, but do you have any kind of plan as to how you will do it? Do you know about meetings, and getting a sponsor. It really helps, because getting sober is very difficult to do alone.

It would be a shame to have to lose your husband and your job, but some people really have to lose everything first. I hope that you don't have to go that far.

Check out the AA boards, if you already haven't done so, and keep coming back.

Jen, welcome to you also. You are definitely on the right track since you know that we cannot get clean for others, but have to do it for ourselves.

I look forward to hearing more about and from the both of you.

Juls

hope123 · 07-30-2003, 05:41 AM

Thank you all for your reply. I am doing so-so. I have made 5 AA meetings in 2 days and it has really helped. I feel like I have so much pain that I am ready for the program but when I go to meetings (womens) I hear how much they lost, example kids. I just really want to keep sober and don't want to lose all the good things I have. The people at AA seem so desperate and have lost it all. I know I will lose it all if I continue on this path but I want to stop the path short. I have a great job, wonderful supportive husband, and no kids. I want to keep all the good blessings I have now. Have any of you stoped the elevator before it got to the bottom, if so please let me know how you did it. I talked to my sponsor and I am doing the 90 meetings in 90 days. It's wonderful to go to meetings but I am sick with a baterial infection and really feel messed up. I am so busy trying to work plus going to meetings and keeping my house up. Thank God of for AA. It has fullfilled my spiritual needs for support for now. Please, all of you keep in touch. I love you all.
Beth:o :o

Chy · 07-30-2003, 09:54 PM

Hi Hope forgive my belated welcome!

Glad your making those meetings, I too am relativly new to AA and understand your anxst about the meetings. I too did not loose it all but was becoming ever so close. I am what you call a functioning alcoholic and was a closet drinker. The only people that knew the extent of my drinking was my hubby and kids. Hubby did leave but came back about 8 months ago and would ya believe I still didn't quit. I was sick and tired of the cyclic path of drinking for 2 decades and found this forum and finally AA. I keep going back because each time I do take away something and realize how close I had become to the others who had lost everything. That in itself keeps me going back. Now I am making new friends and feel at home both there and here. The AA fellowship is an awesome thing, you keep going back and pray to your HP everyday for strength and guidance.

Been there and done that my friend! So glad your a part of our little sisterhood here!

hope123 · 07-31-2003, 04:37 PM

Chy,
I consider myself functioning as well. I still have a great job but am so scared. The people in AA that I have met seems to have lost absolutley everything. I don't want to lose everything to be sober. I'm in so much pain. I miss my husband so much. I feel really psycho sometime. I guess I'm just blabbering right now but I just want to reply and say Thanks.

Chy · 07-31-2003, 05:56 PM

*hugs*

I am sorry for your pain Beth. Why do you feel you would loose everything being sober? If the meeting you are going to is upsetting you into this thinking , please find another one you can go to. I find there are weeks when everyone in the room seems to be in a funk and yea, it is depressing. Yet I keep going back and look for the winners and the stories they tell. Maybe it's the reality of your story that so dis-heartens you my friend, and that's okay. You have to accept what you've become and work very hard at changing for the better. This you can do here, in the rooms, with a sponser. It takes a lot of baby steps to get there.

Lean on hubby now, talk your feelings through with him, you say he's supportive so let him help you as you work on yourself. My hubby has been so great and does everything he can to be there when I need to vent.

We're here for you Beth you got off the elevator before it went all the way down so let the goodness of the program help heal you, talk to your HP, and do what ever it takes to avoid that drink.

Much love coming your way.

hope123 · 08-01-2003, 05:48 AM

I've been slacking on my meetings the last few days and I think that may be the problem. My husband is out in Montana fighting wildfires for 2 1/2 weeks and that's why I'm so lonely. I'm really starting to miss him alot. I don't have family in the area or many close friends. The fellowship of AA has helped but I tend to be shy and it takes courage to go to meetings. I often pray before I go to give me strength. I am working this weeked at a race. I know there will be tons of booze there and I know it will be hard. Guess I'll just take it hour by hour.

ladyofdreams · 08-01-2003, 06:10 AM

Good Morning {{Hope}}

Welcome to the boards.

I have been here for just over a week and have met many many beautiful people who have taken me under their wings, into their hearts and most of all held out a hand.

If you need a hand or an ear or a heart mine are always available.

Hold tight, I won't let go
just as not one of these people have let go of me.

Blessed Be and {{Many Hugs},
~Lady~

Chy · 08-01-2003, 08:02 AM

Hey Beth you be strong okay? I know it takes courage to go to meetings, it takes courage to be sober. Don't start thinking about all the booze at the race, that's your disease talking to you and gearing you up. As I say keep knocking that little demon off your shoulder! Want me to do it for you? *Bashes the demon to the floor and stomps him* YES, hour by hour, and you can do it. Just keep thinking about why you want to stay sober, stay away from the drink booths take your ownwater or soda, this is gonna be a test and you can pass.

I'm praying for hubby as I know he has a rough job. I have a great appreciatiion for men in that line of work. Right him a love note everyday until he gets home then give them to him when he gets home. By the way when I am feeling lonely I have started writing a journal. I don't do it everyday like I should but when I do pages come out. It's good therapy! It feels good to do silly little things like that.

Get to a meeting and do something you like for today.

07-27-2003, 07:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
hope123 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: New Palestine, IN Posts: 5	Hello I'm here to introduce myself. I am an alcoholic. I need support. I am very lonely. I've been drunk the past 2 1/2 days but I'm sober now. I want to quit. Please help. Thanks, Beth

07-27-2003, 07:28 AM	#2 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,360	you have came to the right place I have spent so much time in here hours went by before I relozed it. So check out all the differnt post I am sure one or more will pop out at you. stay strong and hang in there __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

07-27-2003, 07:30 AM	#4 (permalink)
bubblze30 Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: mass Posts: 1,360	wow phoenix we poseted at the same exact time (i quess you do get what you need ) lots of hug lady __________________ "What don't kill us. Will make us stronger"

07-27-2003, 07:43 AM	#5 (permalink)
hope123 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: New Palestine, IN Posts: 5	Thanks Thank you for your support. It helps knowing someone is out there. I'm still pretty sick although I did manage to eat. I'm just really depressed. I'm thinking of getting a second job to keep me busy. I'm just so tired of drinking. I know I'm on the verge of losing my husband and I'm sure the job will be next if I continue on this path. Thanks again, Beth

07-27-2003, 08:15 AM	#6 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,666	{{BETH}}-Welcome to SoberRecovery! glad you found us. You are taking a courageous step in your life. I know it is so hard, and I commend you on making the decision and sticking with it. There is hope hon, although I so understand a lot of times it sincerely does not feel or seem like it. Hang in there and keep posting , okay? We all care here and we're here for you. __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

07-27-2003, 07:28 AM	#3 (permalink)
phoenix Paused Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Dreaming Summer Posts: 807	Hi and welcome.You'll find a lot of support here.See my replies to you on the Newcomers forum for help in navigating the site.It takes a bit of getting used to,but it's worth it.Take care, phoenix

07-27-2003, 11:04 AM	#7 (permalink)
SkyIsFalling42 Big kitty nose hugs Join Date: May 2003 Location: Center of The World Posts: 1,261	Beth Welcome!! You will find many who care here. And you are no longer alone. Sending warm hugs and friendship your way. __________________ Love In Spirit, Sky Where my heart is....... http://Writing.Com/authors/skyisfalling02 "Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In, Never, Never, Never." ~~Sir Winston Churchill~~

07-28-2003, 09:19 PM	#8 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	Beth: welcome and you have already taken the first step in your recovery, you have admitted that you have a problem and you are taking steps to change that. you will find a great bunch of people here that are will to listen and help and all you have to do is keep posting. there are a great many different sites here,a nd i'm sure that you will feel comfortable once you find the ones that are good for you. my thoughts and prayers are with you Bernadette

07-28-2003, 10:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
JenS Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 4	I'm new to the sober life as well Hope, and it's a struggle every day for me. It would be soooo easy to open that can of beer but I know I can't stop at one. I don't want to turn into the wreck I become when I'm drunk ever again. I just want to add that you can't do this for your husband. You have to be willing to do this for you. So keep reaching out. You have listeners. Good luck.

07-29-2003, 12:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
Juls Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: California, USA Posts: 1,101	Hope, Welcome to the SR forums. Coming around after two and a half days drunk must feel pretty rough. Have you been doing this for awhile? I'm glad you found the boards because this a good place for support and friendship. You say you want to stop, but do you have any kind of plan as to how you will do it? Do you know about meetings, and getting a sponsor. It really helps, because getting sober is very difficult to do alone. It would be a shame to have to lose your husband and your job, but some people really have to lose everything first. I hope that you don't have to go that far. Check out the AA boards, if you already haven't done so, and keep coming back. Jen, welcome to you also. You are definitely on the right track since you know that we cannot get clean for others, but have to do it for ourselves. I look forward to hearing more about and from the both of you. Juls __________________ Think World Peace

07-30-2003, 05:41 AM	#11 (permalink)
hope123 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: New Palestine, IN Posts: 5	Thank you all for your reply. I am doing so-so. I have made 5 AA meetings in 2 days and it has really helped. I feel like I have so much pain that I am ready for the program but when I go to meetings (womens) I hear how much they lost, example kids. I just really want to keep sober and don't want to lose all the good things I have. The people at AA seem so desperate and have lost it all. I know I will lose it all if I continue on this path but I want to stop the path short. I have a great job, wonderful supportive husband, and no kids. I want to keep all the good blessings I have now. Have any of you stoped the elevator before it got to the bottom, if so please let me know how you did it. I talked to my sponsor and I am doing the 90 meetings in 90 days. It's wonderful to go to meetings but I am sick with a baterial infection and really feel messed up. I am so busy trying to work plus going to meetings and keeping my house up. Thank God of for AA. It has fullfilled my spiritual needs for support for now. Please, all of you keep in touch. I love you all. Beth:o :o

07-30-2003, 09:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Hi Hope forgive my belated welcome! Glad your making those meetings, I too am relativly new to AA and understand your anxst about the meetings. I too did not loose it all but was becoming ever so close. I am what you call a functioning alcoholic and was a closet drinker. The only people that knew the extent of my drinking was my hubby and kids. Hubby did leave but came back about 8 months ago and would ya believe I still didn't quit. I was sick and tired of the cyclic path of drinking for 2 decades and found this forum and finally AA. I keep going back because each time I do take away something and realize how close I had become to the others who had lost everything. That in itself keeps me going back. Now I am making new friends and feel at home both there and here. The AA fellowship is an awesome thing, you keep going back and pray to your HP everyday for strength and guidance. Been there and done that my friend! So glad your a part of our little sisterhood here!

07-31-2003, 04:37 PM	#13 (permalink)
hope123 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: New Palestine, IN Posts: 5	Chy, I consider myself functioning as well. I still have a great job but am so scared. The people in AA that I have met seems to have lost absolutley everything. I don't want to lose everything to be sober. I'm in so much pain. I miss my husband so much. I feel really psycho sometime. I guess I'm just blabbering right now but I just want to reply and say Thanks.

07-31-2003, 05:56 PM	#14 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	hugs I am sorry for your pain Beth. Why do you feel you would loose everything being sober? If the meeting you are going to is upsetting you into this thinking , please find another one you can go to. I find there are weeks when everyone in the room seems to be in a funk and yea, it is depressing. Yet I keep going back and look for the winners and the stories they tell. Maybe it's the reality of your story that so dis-heartens you my friend, and that's okay. You have to accept what you've become and work very hard at changing for the better. This you can do here, in the rooms, with a sponser. It takes a lot of baby steps to get there. Lean on hubby now, talk your feelings through with him, you say he's supportive so let him help you as you work on yourself. My hubby has been so great and does everything he can to be there when I need to vent. We're here for you Beth you got off the elevator before it went all the way down so let the goodness of the program help heal you, talk to your HP, and do what ever it takes to avoid that drink. Much love coming your way.

08-01-2003, 05:48 AM	#15 (permalink)
hope123 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: New Palestine, IN Posts: 5	I've been slacking on my meetings the last few days and I think that may be the problem. My husband is out in Montana fighting wildfires for 2 1/2 weeks and that's why I'm so lonely. I'm really starting to miss him alot. I don't have family in the area or many close friends. The fellowship of AA has helped but I tend to be shy and it takes courage to go to meetings. I often pray before I go to give me strength. I am working this weeked at a race. I know there will be tons of booze there and I know it will be hard. Guess I'll just take it hour by hour.

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08-01-2003, 06:10 AM	#16 (permalink)
ladyofdreams Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Casting Circles to the Wind Posts: 175	Good Morning {{Hope}} Welcome to the boards. I have been here for just over a week and have met many many beautiful people who have taken me under their wings, into their hearts and most of all held out a hand. If you need a hand or an ear or a heart mine are always available. Hold tight, I won't let go just as not one of these people have let go of me. Blessed Be and {{Many Hugs}, ~Lady~

08-01-2003, 08:02 AM	#17 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Hey Beth you be strong okay? I know it takes courage to go to meetings, it takes courage to be sober. Don't start thinking about all the booze at the race, that's your disease talking to you and gearing you up. As I say keep knocking that little demon off your shoulder! Want me to do it for you? Bashes the demon to the floor and stomps him YES, hour by hour, and you can do it. Just keep thinking about why you want to stay sober, stay away from the drink booths take your ownwater or soda, this is gonna be a test and you can pass. I'm praying for hubby as I know he has a rough job. I have a great appreciatiion for men in that line of work. Right him a love note everyday until he gets home then give them to him when he gets home. By the way when I am feeling lonely I have started writing a journal. I don't do it everyday like I should but when I do pages come out. It's good therapy! It feels good to do silly little things like that. Get to a meeting and do something you like for today.

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