I relapsed yesterday after 5 months...

[AnastasiaB]

I called my sponsor and she was helpful and supportive. I'm going to a women's meeting tomorrow morning.

However, I just told my DH (who is 10 years sober) and now he isn't talking to me. That sucks. I mean, at least I was honest, right? I drank Thursday night and called my sponsor today. Of course I'm dissapointed in myself.

Thanks for listening.

[HappyHippie]

I was once told relapse is a part of recovery. I find it hard to believe that someone can decide that they want to be clean and sober, for the first time, and then never drink or use again. Im not saying that it is impossible, just that it seems unlikely. I've tried to get sober five times, my relapses always lasted for months, once even a year. I just stopped using AGAIN. This time i went back out for....close to 7 months. If anything you will learn from your experience. I dont think you should be toooo disappointed in yourself, i think you could use this as an opportunity to grow, and to see where you went wrong, and correct your errors. No one is perfect. I've been told numerous times, "You dont have a drinking problem, you have a thinking problem" Maybe you will be able to see where you went wrong in your thinking process. Maybe everything im saying doesnt apply to you, Im just trying to give you some support. I know it sucks to relapse. Atleast you have addressed the issue after one time, i never have been able to do that. In a way you should be proud of yourself. But i see how you could be disappointed in yourself as well. Try to stay positive and look at this experience in a positive way. That is what i would do. Good luck sweetie.


Dont worry too much about it. Just jump back on the train....

Keep your head up,
Sincerely,
Melissa



Oh and whats a "DH"????????

[DSodaNow]

Anastasia-

I am sorry to hear that your DH (also not sure what that means) is not speaking to you. You said he is alcoholic, so I am sure he understands that alcoholics do relapse at times. Just try to remember that he has stuff he is dealing with too right now and try not to be too hard on yourself.

You have done the right thing by calling your sponsor and trying to get back on track again. Just remember, call her before you drink next time.

[AnastasiaB]

Thanks Melissa. What you said makes sense to me and I agree. This is my first time in AA and I've seen people go out and come back during that time.

I went to a women's meeting this morning and there were so many supportive people there. I have learned from this experience.

DH means "dear husband" or "damn husband" depending on the situation. Heh.

[51anna]

Hi Anastasia,

I think it's good that you were honest with your husband. One of the hardest things in recovery is to recognize that we can't control other people's feelings. Hopefully, your husband will understand.

[nandm]

(((((anastasia)))))

For some people it takes a relapse to get them back on track. Please don't allow the thought to creep in though that just because you made it back after this relapse you can do it again. Unfortunately there are people who relapse and wind up unable to stop again. You have done a great job by calling your sponsor and getting back to work on the program. I would suggest if you did not call your sponsor when the urge to drink hit you that you consider calling her when you get that feeling again. Unfortunately the obsession can last for a while in sobriety. I found that the obsession to drink was released when I worked the Steps and learned that they are something that really work if I apply them to all aspects of my life. When I have a problem I work the steps around it starting with Step 1: I am powerless over __________ and my life has become unmanageable around it. 2. Do I believe that my HP can relieve this problem? and so on.......

You can do this. Don't ever give up because you are worth it.

[TinyElvis]

I relapsed after almost 8 months....it's tough....don't be too hard on yourself. My duaghter just got married and I wanted to be a sober Mother of the Bride....at least I managed that part!

[bostonluv]

Anastasia - it happens. Your husband may just be terrified for you. This is a scary disease. Try not to dwell on his reaction too much and get yourself better.

[CarolD]

Good plan....get back to basic AA quickly.


I certainly hope your husband gets over his anger soon.

[espresso]

Glad you did the right thing by calling your sponsor and getting back to AA. Don't beat yourself up; not every one gets sober from day one. Good Luck.

[Paulie]

Hope, dont forget, there is always hope.

[Lottis]

I hope you have jumped back to the sober wagon (dont know if that makes sense, my english is def not very understanable at time)!

Regarding to your husband's behaviour... if he has been sober for 10 yrs,I think he should know a little better how to handle unpleasant situations. But am I to judge other ppl's recovery.

I hope that you are both well now!