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kaniyah100 · 09-11-2008, 06:29 PM

To make a long story short i've been clean and sober for 14 months now and moved away from my hometown to get away from negativity (small town gossip), and meet new and sober friends. I'm expecting a baby in 8 weeks and most of my family new but i kept it from a couple of family members because i guess i have the fear of them not believing in me and don't want to hear any negativity but at the same time i truly believe in myself and my recovery and don't know if there is a need to say anything to them even though eventually they will find out. My family has been good to me and most of them are supportive but there are a few who like chaos and drama and i'm tired of being the one who is the talk of the family because of my past. Do I really have anything to prove or feel guilty about anymore if i'm doing the "right thing". I need advice because i'm beginning to feel stressed and i want to be happy about this pregnancy!! Any help!!

Bamboozle · 09-11-2008, 06:58 PM

Sorry I don't have any advice, but here's a hug:

Melec · 09-11-2008, 07:04 PM

Of course you have nothing to feel guilty about! You got healthy, you are making sure you have a healthy pregnancy, etc. If some people are going to use the opportunity to stir up history, that is their problem. You can't control it, so turn a blind eye (and ear) From personal experience I can tell you that once the little peanut arrives you are so in love and so BUSY just getting to know your baby all that other negative stuff fades into the background. Really. Your world perspective does a 360.
But if there is a family member you can confide in about your anxiety who may be willing to run interference for you, do so. It doesn't hurt to have another person help to keep the wolves at bay.
Congratulations! You are going to LOVE being a mom!

***Anna*** · 09-11-2008, 07:08 PM

Good for you for 14 months clean and sober!

Of course, you want to stay away from toxic people and I believe, that includes family members. I have done that myself. I had to.

You know what you need to do to stay sober and don't let anyone bring you down.

09-11-2008, 06:29 PM	#1 (permalink)
kaniyah100 Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Champaign, Illinois Posts: 11	pregnant and scared To make a long story short i've been clean and sober for 14 months now and moved away from my hometown to get away from negativity (small town gossip), and meet new and sober friends. I'm expecting a baby in 8 weeks and most of my family new but i kept it from a couple of family members because i guess i have the fear of them not believing in me and don't want to hear any negativity but at the same time i truly believe in myself and my recovery and don't know if there is a need to say anything to them even though eventually they will find out. My family has been good to me and most of them are supportive but there are a few who like chaos and drama and i'm tired of being the one who is the talk of the family because of my past. Do I really have anything to prove or feel guilty about anymore if i'm doing the "right thing". I need advice because i'm beginning to feel stressed and i want to be happy about this pregnancy!! Any help!!

09-11-2008, 06:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Bamboozle I got nothin' Duck Hunt 2 Champion! Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: My house. Posts: 4,776 Blog Entries: 14	Sorry I don't have any advice, but here's a hug: __________________ A strange game. The only winning move is not to play.

09-11-2008, 07:08 PM	#4 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,832	Good for you for 14 months clean and sober! Of course, you want to stay away from toxic people and I believe, that includes family members. I have done that myself. I had to. You know what you need to do to stay sober and don't let anyone bring you down. __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

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09-11-2008, 07:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
Melec Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: West Warwick, Rhode Island Posts: 30	Of course you have nothing to feel guilty about! You got healthy, you are making sure you have a healthy pregnancy, etc. If some people are going to use the opportunity to stir up history, that is their problem. You can't control it, so turn a blind eye (and ear) From personal experience I can tell you that once the little peanut arrives you are so in love and so BUSY just getting to know your baby all that other negative stuff fades into the background. Really. Your world perspective does a 360. But if there is a family member you can confide in about your anxiety who may be willing to run interference for you, do so. It doesn't hurt to have another person help to keep the wolves at bay. Congratulations! You are going to LOVE being a mom!

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