Please help me to understand

[Ostara]

Hello, ladies:
I need some good advice, help, what have you, for a problem with my ex-psycho-hose-beast. I left him a few weeks ago, and took our son, as I just want to get loooooaaaaaaaded when I'm around him. We've had all sorts of problems: when we first got together, he represented a responsible, reliable individual, and then we got together and the facade crumbled. He went on a shopping spree that resulted in three new cars and a house, all of them later repo'd and foreclosed. Slowly, over time, we were living at his sister's, then my parents, then my grandparents.
Well, then I got clean and sober. I grew tired of the bullsh--t, and came home to gather up the pieces of mine and my son's lives, and put them back together.
The problems are as follows: He now thinks that we are getting back together, though I've told him numerous times that it is over, that I want nothing to do with him. He's got many different faces- he shows them when it most benefits him. Today, he asked if we all could spend some time together, and I told him no, that I had some things to do, but if he wanted to spend some time with our son, that'd be fine. All of the sudden, he says he has no time and that he'll just have to see him later. He's still drinking and drugging during other times, but denying it to me, though he knows I can tell the signs.
Please help me to understand- He's a sociopath. I'm having a hard time preventing the thoughts that make my mouth water, those of hard drugs.
I don't know what to do.

[Lily]

Ostara,

Can you get to a meeting and share with some ppl face to face? i think that could be your best option. just don't use no matter what! blessings, sheila

[nandm]

One thing that I have found really important for me to realize in sobriety is this: The only person I can change is me.

You can not change his behaviors. You can choose not to play into his behaviors though and continue to work on your sobriety and self improvement. Your son has one parent working on sobriety, that is a blessing. I agree that a meeting would be a very positive thing to get to ASAP and share what is going on. Also I have found ALANON to be quite useful to me in my sobriety as I still have friends, family that use or are recovering alcoholics.

[indigo]

Welcome to SR. Can you talk to your Doctor about this?