Canceled Flight

[Butterflywoman]

My best friend moved to Spokane a few years ago. I have been saving up to go see her. I finally bought the plane tickets. Everyday she emailed me with pictures of her house and questions about what kinds of things I would like to do when I got there. Today I get an email saying she is nervous about my visiit and wants to cancel. Now I am out $200. I understand to a degree, but I am angry about the money and don't know if I want to be friends anymore. Anyone need a Southwest ticket worth $200.

[Done-With-It]

I don't get it why did she cancel?
Can you talk this through? Maybe you
can find out why she is so nervous?

[Butterflywoman]

She did not offer to "work it through." She just canceled. I know she has a lot on her mind and problems with her children, but she begged me to come visit her and now she acts like she is rescheduling a coffee date. I am angry about the wasted money.

[deezaldog]

I can understand you are upset. Her reluctance to give a good explanation is confusing. Another way to look at it is that you could be out more than 200. Take your losses and be glad it wasnt more. Cant you use the ticket to go somewhere else?

[vegibean]

I don't believe you're out the money. I think you can use that as a credit towards another flight in the future. I had to do the same thing. Sorry about your plans.

[ananda]

I have struggled in friendships with relying on their word and then they balk or back out. What I am working to do is reevaluate my relationships and get a better understanding of what role each relationship holds in my life. Many are full of good intentions, but short on followthrough....so they will still be people I enjoy (I think), but I won't be asking and relying on them for a ride to a drs appt

It doesn't help with money spent, but I figure the best I can do is re-evaluate and learn so it doesn't happen again

Oh...and i would really struggle with wanting to wring someones neck if they did that to me!!!!!

my sympathy!

[Butterflywoman]

Thanks Ananda, I needed some validation for my anger. Behind the anger is sympathy for her. Still, the trust is broken and I will never buy a ticket to see her again. I now have to find someone to give the ticket too. I have no where to go so it is useless to me. But it will make a nice gift to someone.

[51anna]

I agree with Ananda. I have spent time re-evaluating relationships and I find that there are not very many people who I would count on, in a big way. That's not to say I wouldn't want to spend time with them, but being able to really depend on someone's word, is not easy.

I'm sorry you lost out on your trip.

[CarolD]

Drat! what a bummer...

Since the airlines have changed after 9-11 I don't know but

I'd call and ask to speak to a supervisor for customer relations.
See if they will refund all or part of the tiket.

You could also put an ad in your local paper to sell it
Or at least you could in the past.

How inconsiderate of her!!

[indigo]

I'm sorry this has happened, I hope there is some way you can get the money back and use it to treat youreslf and maybe another friend nearby to a lunch and girls afternoon out.

[NoelleR]

I'm with Carol on this; check with the airlines customer service; a supervisor or manager is always preferable

You may also want to ask about selling the ticket. Some airlines may allow this, but I believe that most of Southwest's tickets are not only non-refundable, but also non-transferable: the name on the ticket must be the same as the person's presenting the ticket at the airport.

I'm also sorry you're going through this; count yourself lucky tho. I got stuck with a ticket ($450.) and a weeks worth of vacation time, and no place to go......grrrrrr

I hope things can work out better for you.....and I also hope your 'friend' gets some of her 'stuff' worked out......


NoelleR

[BUTTERFLY-7]

Man I could I.D. with U I would of been so freaking
Angry, that's mess up how can u lead someone on,
n E-mail u showing u the house, n then asking u
what would u like 2 do when u get there, then at
the last moment cancel that ain't right..

But now look at the bright side is a lesson 2 B learn
some of those Lessons causes us pain, n losses,
But then u Gain ur sense of Value, I agree with ananda
about relying on friendship, n there word, n then they back up
been there n done 2 me,I see it as H.P. clearing ur path, one
door closes, n the other one will open, trust in ur H.P. he will
put u the right people, n the right friends....