oh boy.........

[myles1]

I don't understand why god is doing this..............

2 days in row now I've run into the ex, haven't seen him in 2 months. Last week got a call from his realtor because he hadn't changed the number to his and now I run into him.

What just happened was I'm riiding my bike to the bank and along he comes with his father and blows his horn. I had to turn around and come back home, it felt like I'd been punched in the gut.
Plus I didn't want to be put in the position of him stopping with his father and me having to talk to his father it would have been to much emotional overload for me.

Why is this happening now?

Ngaire

[Paulie]

Well...I don't know for sure, but maybe, just maybe because it is time for you to try and deal with some unresolved feelings that you have. I am not saying what the feelings are because I don't know. I am just saying that if you still get that way when he drives by maybe there is some more work to be done in that area. From your posts it seems as though you still have alot of resentment for your ex, maybe working through that will help you move on into a new relationship.

Just my 4cents worth!!

[SkyIsFalling42]

Myles
I really do agree with what pauline said to you. I am sorry that you are feeling so much turmoil and pain in these situations..When we have these kinds of situations in our lives, it takes time to work through them. But work through them we must..we need to travel through the tunnel in order to be able to come back out into the light.
Remember that you are not alone here!!

[myles1]

I do have alot of resentment still towards him

Ngaire

[SkyIsFalling42]

Realizing how we feel is the first step in resolution. I am glad that you are able to know how you feel..that comes hard for some of us. You seem to be doing good with this, keep up the good work!

[myles1]

I have resentment and a lot of hurt over it still.

Ngaire

[Paulie]

I think it is probably safe to assume that the resentment and hurt that you feel (that is justifiable) is only hurting you, not him at this point.

For me, there have been times in my life that I have been comfortable feeling bad. I had felt that way for so long that it felt normal to me. It takes alot of work and practice to let go of resentments when we have been hurt by other people. My first sponsor explained to me that as long as I hold on to a resentment I am still allowing that person to hurt me.

Sometimes we have to say...ok this happened to me and it was wrong and i did not deserve it, but now it is over and I am going to move on, I will not let this person continue to hurt me any longer!!!

(((Ngaire)))you can get past this, I know you can.

[bikerprincess]

Hey, I know that gut wrenching feeling. And for me it wasn't just resentment but the "I wish" syndrome.... I wish he was....instead of what he is. Just because someone is WRONG for us...doesn't mean your heart doesn't skip a beat when you see them.Why does it happen? I don't know why....but what you feel is what you feel...and instead of "wishing" it wasn't like that, Why don't you acknowledge that it is what it is....allow it...but realize how much healthier you are, how important you are, how much more you deserve, and then smile & breathe.....and let it go away... Time will heal your heart sister...


Just a thought...and a hug too
Anne