He hurt Me!!! - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

ButterflyChaser · 07-12-2003, 11:37 AM

Well, my BF really pissed me off this time!! Well I should say I'm devestasted!! I'm hurt, and I'll tell ya it hurts what he did to me!

1st I wake up & I could tell he was wide awake on dope! After the trouble I just got into & out of thanks to getting on probation & having the chance to turn my life around, but my BF seems to not give a chit! I was asleep on my couch & woke up to him doing dope, so i freaked out, and he slapped me in my ear, I'm still deaf (or so it seems like I am) in one ear, this happened Thursday morning, I'm going to have to go to the emergency room my equallibrium is waaay off, and my ear is numb & now I can't really hear outta my other ear!

It's like my ears are filled with water, well i just wanted to whine, wish me luck cuz I'm really scared!

2stop · 07-12-2003, 12:05 PM

{{BUTTERFLY}}

You don't need to be treated this way!! It sounds like you have some damage to your inner ear, that is serious..you better be at the ER as I write this!!! I am so sorry you are going through all this, just remember we all care and want you to be safe and happy.

:kisshug: :kisshug:

phoenix · 07-12-2003, 12:11 PM

Ok...take a deep breath.

First,of course you need to protect yourself.No one has any right to hit you.Make a plan to be safe and stick to it.

And now.I had a similar experience,getting clobbered in the side of the head/ear area.I had that feeling like water was in my ears,and I couldn't hear...even worse than usual.I had been swimming,so at first I didn't even make the connection.I thought I had an ear infection.Turned out that my jaw was dislocated

It was the last thing I would have figured.Of course,you may have a different problem,but if it is the jaw your hearing should be fine once it's corrected.

Get it looked after,and again...be safe.

Hugs

phoenix

SkyIsFalling42 · 07-12-2003, 02:02 PM

Chaser
I am taking deep breaths along with phoenix.....
Please know that you are in my thoughts and I am here for you.

2many2count · 07-12-2003, 02:24 PM

ButterflyChaser~
OKay...how do I say this? Don't let nobody hit you! That is not right. I am very worried for you right now because everyone needs to feel safe. You do not deserve to be hit no matter what. So go get your ear checked and post back because we are worried!

Much Love and Support,
2many2count

2stop · 07-13-2003, 07:50 AM

{{BUTTERFLY}}

Wher are ya sweetheart? We are worried about you..waiting to hear you're okay.

Let us know soon alright?

:kisshug:

2many2count · 07-13-2003, 07:54 AM

((((((((Butterfly))))))))

Where are you????? We are here for you......Please let us know what is going on!!

Much Love,
2many

myles1 · 07-13-2003, 10:27 AM

Butterfly,

Dump the boyfriend! You do not deserve to be hit!

Ngaire

Paulie · 07-13-2003, 10:32 AM

Buttterfly -

the physical abuse is abosolutely unacceptable!!!!! you know that!

but this goes deeper than that, it starts with respect. You need to take care of yourself first and you and not doing that. What he does cannot affect you or your sobriety. I know, I know, easy for me to say. But it is true.

My SO and I were talking the other day and I told him that I had been thinking what would happen if he started using again. I told him that I would hope I would leave the minute I saw it or ever suspected it was happening. Just leave!!! He said I would hope so too, cause if you didn't you would be right along there with me, just like I would with you. That is the reality of it. I don't kid myself in this area at all, and you shouldn't either.

Now the physical abuse that occured is the breaking straw for you. Take a priority inventory for yourself of what is important, a relationship at this point should not be on that list.

I am sorry if I sound harsh, I worry for you!!!

ButterflyChaser · 07-13-2003, 02:33 PM

i am a day late going, sorry ya'll don't wanna worry you's

But as I type this now, I'm on my way out the door to the er my friend is outside honking for me to come, I'll post later! Thanks Ya'll!

2stop · 07-13-2003, 02:36 PM

You better be a-going girl!!

Take care of yourself sweetie. We're all here pulling for ya!!!

j42daY · 07-14-2003, 08:03 PM

I was in an abusive relationship and i know its hard, but know that he's gone and dont' have to worry about everything and be afraid he'll come home drunk and in a bad mood, i wonder what ever made me fall in love with him and then actually stay with him for so long. What helps me , this may sound silly, i do a list of pro and cons of staying with the a**hole. I write all the stupid, terrible things he's done to me then i try to think of the good times. Finally when i was strong enough and with support from good people i relized the good times were to few and far between and for my sanity and recovery left him. I worry about him and think about him alot still but i talk about it at meetings. I'm tring to learn to let it go.. Be strong...get help... make a plan... and know you are special and deserve the best...it's out there just waiting for you.

ButterflyChaser · 07-16-2003, 11:25 PM

I posted a reply in a new form "thanks" please go there ya'll I kinda goofed when I went to hit "post reply" I ckicked on "new post" sorry

wakowife · 07-17-2003, 08:40 PM

GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!! i can't stress this enough, you dont deserve this, noone does. i know this first hand and unless you get a handle on your situation it's only going to get worse. let us know what happened at the er.

my thoughts and prayers are with you

Bernadette

07-12-2003, 11:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,020	He hurt Me!!! Well, my BF really pissed me off this time!! Well I should say I'm devestasted!! I'm hurt, and I'll tell ya it hurts what he did to me! 1st I wake up & I could tell he was wide awake on dope! After the trouble I just got into & out of thanks to getting on probation & having the chance to turn my life around, but my BF seems to not give a chit! I was asleep on my couch & woke up to him doing dope, so i freaked out, and he slapped me in my ear, I'm still deaf (or so it seems like I am) in one ear, this happened Thursday morning, I'm going to have to go to the emergency room my equallibrium is waaay off, and my ear is numb & now I can't really hear outta my other ear! It's like my ears are filled with water, well i just wanted to whine, wish me luck cuz I'm really scared!

07-12-2003, 12:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	{{BUTTERFLY}} You don't need to be treated this way!! It sounds like you have some damage to your inner ear, that is serious..you better be at the ER as I write this!!! I am so sorry you are going through all this, just remember we all care and want you to be safe and happy. :kisshug: :kisshug: __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

07-12-2003, 02:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
SkyIsFalling42 Big kitty nose hugs Join Date: May 2003 Location: Center of The World Posts: 1,261	Chaser I am taking deep breaths along with phoenix..... Please know that you are in my thoughts and I am here for you. __________________ Love In Spirit, Sky Where my heart is....... http://Writing.Com/authors/skyisfalling02 "Never Give In, Never Give In, Never Give In, Never, Never, Never." ~~Sir Winston Churchill~~

07-12-2003, 02:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
2many2count Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: dysfunction junction,nc Posts: 381	ButterflyChaser~ OKay...how do I say this? Don't let nobody hit you! That is not right. I am very worried for you right now because everyone needs to feel safe. You do not deserve to be hit no matter what. So go get your ear checked and post back because we are worried! Much Love and Support, 2many2count __________________ Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance, And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance....DANCE.

07-13-2003, 07:50 AM	#6 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	{{BUTTERFLY}} Wher are ya sweetheart? We are worried about you..waiting to hear you're okay. Let us know soon alright? :kisshug: __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

07-12-2003, 12:11 PM	#3 (permalink)
phoenix Paused Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Dreaming Summer Posts: 803	Ok...take a deep breath. First,of course you need to protect yourself.No one has any right to hit you.Make a plan to be safe and stick to it. And now.I had a similar experience,getting clobbered in the side of the head/ear area.I had that feeling like water was in my ears,and I couldn't hear...even worse than usual.I had been swimming,so at first I didn't even make the connection.I thought I had an ear infection.Turned out that my jaw was dislocated It was the last thing I would have figured.Of course,you may have a different problem,but if it is the jaw your hearing should be fine once it's corrected. Get it looked after,and again...be safe. Hugs phoenix

07-13-2003, 07:54 AM	#7 (permalink)
2many2count Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: dysfunction junction,nc Posts: 381	((((((((Butterfly)))))))) Where are you????? We are here for you......Please let us know what is going on!! Much Love, 2many __________________ Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance, And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance....DANCE.

07-13-2003, 10:27 AM	#8 (permalink)
myles1 Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Ayer's Cliff, Quebec Posts: 797	Butterfly, Dump the boyfriend! You do not deserve to be hit! Ngaire

07-13-2003, 10:32 AM	#9 (permalink)
Paulie It is what it is!!! Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Sobriety Posts: 5,785	Buttterfly - the physical abuse is abosolutely unacceptable!!!!! you know that! but this goes deeper than that, it starts with respect. You need to take care of yourself first and you and not doing that. What he does cannot affect you or your sobriety. I know, I know, easy for me to say. But it is true. My SO and I were talking the other day and I told him that I had been thinking what would happen if he started using again. I told him that I would hope I would leave the minute I saw it or ever suspected it was happening. Just leave!!! He said I would hope so too, cause if you didn't you would be right along there with me, just like I would with you. That is the reality of it. I don't kid myself in this area at all, and you shouldn't either. Now the physical abuse that occured is the breaking straw for you. Take a priority inventory for yourself of what is important, a relationship at this point should not be on that list. I am sorry if I sound harsh, I worry for you!!! __________________ I know more about how to live than I did yesterday, but not as much as I'll know tomorrow. Today, Ill learn something new~JFT, 1/27/06 The difference between a good day and a bad day, is about 2 days~Ann of SR

07-13-2003, 02:33 PM	#10 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,020	i am a day late going, sorry ya'll don't wanna worry you's But as I type this now, I'm on my way out the door to the er my friend is outside honking for me to come, I'll post later! Thanks Ya'll!

07-13-2003, 02:36 PM	#11 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	You better be a-going girl!! Take care of yourself sweetie. We're all here pulling for ya!!! __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

07-14-2003, 08:03 PM	#12 (permalink)
j42daY Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Palmyra, PA Posts: 12	I was in an abusive relationship and i know its hard, but know that he's gone and dont' have to worry about everything and be afraid he'll come home drunk and in a bad mood, i wonder what ever made me fall in love with him and then actually stay with him for so long. What helps me , this may sound silly, i do a list of pro and cons of staying with the a**hole. I write all the stupid, terrible things he's done to me then i try to think of the good times. Finally when i was strong enough and with support from good people i relized the good times were to few and far between and for my sanity and recovery left him. I worry about him and think about him alot still but i talk about it at meetings. I'm tring to learn to let it go.. Be strong...get help... make a plan... and know you are special and deserve the best...it's out there just waiting for you.

07-16-2003, 11:25 PM	#13 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,020	I posted a reply in a new form "thanks" please go there ya'll I kinda goofed when I went to hit "post reply" I ckicked on "new post" sorry

07-17-2003, 08:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
wakowife Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Ozone Park, New York Posts: 281	GET OUT!!!!!!!!!!! i can't stress this enough, you dont deserve this, noone does. i know this first hand and unless you get a handle on your situation it's only going to get worse. let us know what happened at the er. my thoughts and prayers are with you Bernadette

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