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DSodaNow · 06-26-2008, 03:50 PM

My anxiety level is at a high today. I feel like I can't catch my breath or stop crying. I feel so worthless.

I am not going to have a job in 5 days and I haven't found another job yet. I have worked over 60 hours a week for the past four years.

What am I going to do with my time? No more excuses for an unclean house... it will have to be perfect. No more excuses not to get on the eliptical machine. No excuse for my husband to have to help around the house.

I can't breathe today.

Lily · 06-26-2008, 05:03 PM

I am so sorry you are looking at change. It is tough for us. Just take some deep breaths and can you get to a meeting?

Funny cuz I have anxiety about the opposite. I have to get a P/T job when my son starts kindergarten in Sept. I am terrified. I have not worked for 6 years. I think we as addicts are afraid of change.

blessings hang in there! Sheila

**51anna** · 06-26-2008, 05:42 PM

Hi DSoda,

I can sure relate to how you feel.

And, my gosh, stopping working 60 hours a week is a big deal. But, try to shift your perspective if you ca. Obviously you'd been spending a lot of time on your job. Maybe it's time for you to do other things, to look at other parts of your life. I hope that another door will open for you when this one closes.

Butterflywoman · 06-26-2008, 05:43 PM

I live with anxiety. Meetings and faith keep me going. Don't neglect either.

Jomey · 06-26-2008, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by DSodaNow

What am I going to do with my time? No more excuses for an unclean house... it will have to be perfect. No more excuses not to get on the eliptical machine. No excuse for my husband to have to help around the house.

Hon - sorry you are feeling so anxious. I have anxiety problems also. I know how you feel. A lot of my anxiety, I am learning, orginated in trying to control everything (in the alcoholic out-of-control family I was raised in) by being "perfect", the good girl. Classic perfectionism. When I read this part of your post, that is what struck me.

Just because you are in a job changing time in your life, must you suddenly be perfect in all other areas? Who expects that of you besides you? Be careful you don't, as they say in anxiety management lingo, "should" on yourself! I "should" have a perfectly clean house, I "should" have a new job by now....you get the point. Be gentle with yourself right now -change is stressful for everyone, esp. for us with addiction and anxiety problems.

take care,
Jomey

Sugah · 06-26-2008, 06:16 PM

Do you do meetings, DSoda? Might be a good time to look around for a service commitment or take some meeting road trips. When I'm busy, then suddenly I'm not, I try to get to meetings in distant hamlets. It's nice to meet new people.

Peace & Love,
Sugah

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA · 06-26-2008, 08:24 PM

I think Jomey said it perfectly..lol.

Sug too..when I became unemployed, I stepped up my recovery work. Take this time for YOU.

Fluttering · 06-27-2008, 08:15 AM

Dsoda HI

May sound trite..but "This too shall pass" ..Sending Hugs and good energy

***indigo*** · 06-27-2008, 12:16 PM

hugs I hope things improve really soon.

DSodaNow · 06-27-2008, 04:34 PM

Thank you everyone! I am doing much better today. I went to a meeting last night, called my therapist and spoke with my doctor. I really need to try and get the anxiety under control when it first starts, otherwise it just balloons.

Jomey really nipped it in the bud. I put a lot of expectations on myself, realistic or not. I need to focus in the moment now.

Thanks again for listening!

Digginit · 07-04-2008, 08:27 AM

You know what's cool? Even though you couldn't breathe the other day....you're STILL breathing. See, you *could* breathe after all. Glad you're feeling better.

dig

DSodaNow · 07-07-2008, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Digginit

You know what's cool? Even though you couldn't breathe the other day....you're STILL breathing. See, you *could* breathe after all. Glad you're feeling better.

dig

Thanks, dig! Still breathing today. I appreciate everyone's support.

colagirl · 07-07-2008, 04:39 PM

Dsoda - glad things are going a little better for you. There is no expectation of perfection! Take care.

horse · 07-14-2008, 03:09 PM

I couldn't breathe today either. Went to first couseling session to deal with a relationship breakup and financial probs and it brought up everything I am hiding from. Glad I'm not alone.

DSodaNow · 07-14-2008, 03:26 PM

Hi Horse - I am glad to hear that you are working thru your feelings with some help. It is so much better to not have to do it alone. I hope you feel better soon.

horse · 07-15-2008, 11:08 AM

I feel better today. I read some of my daily meditation books and thought of things to feel grateful about like a roof over my head!! Friends and my health.

06-26-2008, 03:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
DSodaNow Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 429	I can't breathe... My anxiety level is at a high today. I feel like I can't catch my breath or stop crying. I feel so worthless. I am not going to have a job in 5 days and I haven't found another job yet. I have worked over 60 hours a week for the past four years. What am I going to do with my time? No more excuses for an unclean house... it will have to be perfect. No more excuses not to get on the eliptical machine. No excuse for my husband to have to help around the house. I can't breathe today.

06-26-2008, 05:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,160	Hi DSoda, I can sure relate to how you feel. And, my gosh, stopping working 60 hours a week is a big deal. But, try to shift your perspective if you ca. Obviously you'd been spending a lot of time on your job. Maybe it's time for you to do other things, to look at other parts of your life. I hope that another door will open for you when this one closes. __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

06-26-2008, 05:43 PM	#4 (permalink)
Butterflywoman Love Addict and Alcoholic Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: California Posts: 143	I live with anxiety. Meetings and faith keep me going. Don't neglect either. __________________ Recovery means doing the right thing even if we don't want to . . . one day at a time.

06-26-2008, 06:16 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sugah Om, Aum, Ohm... Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Punxsutawney/Pittsburgh Posts: 2,346	Do you do meetings, DSoda? Might be a good time to look around for a service commitment or take some meeting road trips. When I'm busy, then suddenly I'm not, I try to get to meetings in distant hamlets. It's nice to meet new people. Peace & Love, Sugah __________________ I don't know what happens when people die Can't seem to grasp it as hard as I try It's like a song I can hear playing right in my ear That I can't sing I can't help listening ~JB

06-26-2008, 08:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
NOMOMERLOTMAMMA No more merlot, more mamma Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Hills, Ct Posts: 1,960 Blog Entries: 36	I think Jomey said it perfectly..lol. Sug too..when I became unemployed, I stepped up my recovery work. Take this time for YOU. __________________ But I always think that the best way to know God is to love many things. ~Vincent van Gogh

06-26-2008, 05:03 PM	#2 (permalink)
Lily Ephesians 2:8 and 9 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Posts: 1,283 Blog Entries: 3	I am so sorry you are looking at change. It is tough for us. Just take some deep breaths and can you get to a meeting? Funny cuz I have anxiety about the opposite. I have to get a P/T job when my son starts kindergarten in Sept. I am terrified. I have not worked for 6 years. I think we as addicts are afraid of change. blessings hang in there! Sheila

06-27-2008, 08:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
Fluttering Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Fluttering About Posts: 2,710	Dsoda HI May sound trite..but "This too shall pass" ..Sending Hugs and good energy __________________

06-27-2008, 12:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
*indigo* Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,146	hugs I hope things improve really soon. __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

06-27-2008, 04:34 PM	#10 (permalink)
DSodaNow Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 429	Thank you everyone! I am doing much better today. I went to a meeting last night, called my therapist and spoke with my doctor. I really need to try and get the anxiety under control when it first starts, otherwise it just balloons. Jomey really nipped it in the bud. I put a lot of expectations on myself, realistic or not. I need to focus in the moment now. Thanks again for listening!

07-04-2008, 08:27 AM	#11 (permalink)
Digginit Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: usa Posts: 447	You know what's cool? Even though you couldn't breathe the other day....you're STILL breathing. See, you could breathe after all. Glad you're feeling better. dig __________________ -- There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. We seek problems because we need their gifts.

07-07-2008, 04:39 PM	#13 (permalink)
colagirl Taking a stand Join Date: May 2008 Location: Oregon Posts: 514 Blog Entries: 2	Dsoda - glad things are going a little better for you. There is no expectation of perfection! Take care. __________________ Gonna stand my ground Won't be turned around And I'll keep this world from dragging me down Gonna stand my ground And I wont back down ~ Tom Petty

07-14-2008, 03:09 PM	#14 (permalink)
horse Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 7	I couldn't breathe today either. Went to first couseling session to deal with a relationship breakup and financial probs and it brought up everything I am hiding from. Glad I'm not alone.

07-14-2008, 03:26 PM	#15 (permalink)
DSodaNow Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 429	Hi Horse - I am glad to hear that you are working thru your feelings with some help. It is so much better to not have to do it alone. I hope you feel better soon.

07-15-2008, 11:08 AM	#16 (permalink)
horse Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 7	I feel better today. I read some of my daily meditation books and thought of things to feel grateful about like a roof over my head!! Friends and my health.

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