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06-25-2008, 10:03 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Leitchfield, Ky
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| Pregnant and scared. Recently I have been experiencing symptoms of being pregnant. I am scared because I don't feel that I am going to be an adaquate mother. Also my fiance's mother doesn't think we should have a child right now, and wait and get married. I am just don't have the one thing I need the most, which is my mother. She doesn't want me to contact her again, and I just need that motherly love that only mothers can give. |
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06-25-2008, 11:30 AM
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| Om, Aum, Ohm...  Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Punxsutawney/Pittsburgh
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| You have symptoms - but you don't know for sure? I would start with a pregnancy test and go from there. Right now, it seems that you're running on fear. I also think I know how you feel, though my situation is different. My 82 yr old mother has dementia, and our roles have changed. There are sometimes I just want my mom, and now, she's more like my child. There's a woman in AA who's in her sixties, and she's graciously given me a shoulder when I need it. She's not my sponsor, but she is a mother of daughters my age. It might not be the exact same thing, but she's all I've got. Maybe you can find a friend like mine. Have you gone to meetings? Peace & Love, Sugah |
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06-25-2008, 11:51 AM
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| Forum Leader  Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light
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| Hi BlindedWitch, Yes, do a pregnancy test so you find out for sure. Then, talk to your dr. I think everyone would like a mother's love, but for some of us, that just never happens. But, we can choose friends in our life that we love as family. |
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__________________ Anna  "I don't know what the future is holding in store I don't know where Im going, Im not sure where Ive been Theres a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I don't need to see the end." John Denver | |
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06-25-2008, 11:54 AM
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| To Thine Own Self Be True  Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: So Cal
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| Yup, good advice. First find out whether you really are or not. Next, if you were, would you want to keep it? I don't think it matters too much what the fiancee's mother wants. My son's grandparents wanted to pay for me to go to abortion counseling 17 years ago but they could not imagine not having him today! Do you believe in a HP? If so, I would suggest asking for guidance and love. HUGS |
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06-25-2008, 04:11 PM
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| Forum Leader  Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA
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| Mega Hugs as you find out for sure what is going on. Prayers for your peace and happiness |
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06-25-2008, 04:18 PM
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| Love Addict and Alcoholic  Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: California
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| I was a teenage, unwed mother. I was a single parent. I had an abortion. The one thing I would not do again is the abortion. I am, however, pro-choice. I was not a perfect parent, and I have regrets, but the guilt about the abortion is harder than I had expected. It never leaves. My heart aches for the baby I denied. This is just my opinion based on my own experience. I AM NOT judging anyone. We all have to find our own way.  |
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06-26-2008, 10:01 AM
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| Community Greeter  Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express
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| Whatever you do sweetie make an informed choice and make it for yourself and not for your B/F's mother or anyone else. hugs |
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06-26-2008, 10:33 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Fluttering About
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| Hi BW.. Thank You for sharing.. Fear can be a otivator to do the right thing...If you are pregnant your doc can give you some resources that will help, parenting classes, better nutrition ..etc.. And you have your expereinces to draw from .. Many expectant mothers have expereinced the same fears.. You are not alone...and you have a power greater than yourself that will help and guide. Courage is what helps us to walk thru fear.. On this journey we are all given tremendous gifts that allow us to face our fears.. We are here for you |
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06-26-2008, 04:26 PM
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| Ephesians 2:8 and 9  Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA
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| I have been there. I have experienced a crisis pregnancy. there are people in the community that want to help you! I see you live in Leitchfield. I googled up and found a place who will provide loving support for you. They will also give you free pg tests, so you can find out for sure! They also have residential living if you decide. Don't do anything for a B/F mother. this is something you need to decide for yourself. www.newlifematernityhaven.com - New Life Maternity Haven* "Helping Change Lives Two at a Time." Blessings, Sheila PS I am sooo grateful I did not listen to my mother when I became pg w/ my 19 yr old son. He is the biggest blessing to me! I love him dearly! |
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06-30-2008, 12:45 PM
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| Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Leitchfield, Ky
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| Well today the test was negative. I am not pregnant!. I was so worried I could not provide everything for the baby. But things have made it easier and the Health Department gave me a "Brown Bag" (bag of condoms) and they are going to go ahead and give me a gyno visit for free along with the test they just gave me, since I have no income. |
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06-30-2008, 01:18 PM
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| Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light
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| Well, I guess that's what is meant to be and I hope you are glad about the outcome. |
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06-30-2008, 01:43 PM
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| Ephesians 2:8 and 9 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA
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| Well, that is good news. Keep posting on the board! we love you! Sheila |
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06-30-2008, 01:50 PM
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| Member Join Date: May 2008
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| That is good news. Good luck with the wedding planning! And use that brown bag!  |
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06-30-2008, 03:15 PM
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| Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA
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| I am so proud of you for going and for following up to ensure your h health. Please ask them for a birth control method that you can do in case he won't do the condoms. Mega Hugs....  |
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07-01-2008, 06:59 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A place of special Dreams....
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| I am praying for you today..... Things will work out when you are ready after marriage to have a family..... But I don't think your future Mother in law is the right one to say when you are going to have a baby.... seems she has negative thoughts for you and that isn't good.... Coming here to talk is the best thing for you and we all care.... Glad you took the test to find out if you are going to have a baby or not.... I went through all the symptoms myself and was negative...... I really wanted another kid and that didn't happen.. But I have one wonderful kid that likes to help out and hang with her parents...... Hang in there and know that God will help you when the moment is right..... Stick to your program work and know that you have friends here that understand..... Little Penguin |
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