Head out of my backside

[colukmea]

I had an email this morning from a close friend. one of our friends, who was 15 weeks pregnant, had a miscarriage yesterday. Talk about opening my eyes. Here I am, struggling with something that I have full control over and yet here she is dealing with something that she can no more control than the weather. I also heard on the news this morning that a woman, Jane McGrath over here in Oz, died yesterday, leaving behind a wonderful husband and two gorgeous children. She had breast cancer very young, which spread to bone cancer and then finally a brain tumour. She never gave up though and raised over $12 million dollars over the past few years by tirelessly campaiging so other women needn't go through the trauma that she had to endure. It just made me sit up and think "Just how lucky am I". Sorry for the depressing post but for me it has been a truely inspirational morning. I've been counting my blessings instead of my problems. I don't want my husband and children to have to go through something like that. it's just made me sit up and fully appreciate all that I have.

[51anna]

Welcome!

I had done a lot of feeling sorry for myself while I was drinking. It was eye-opening to me too, to look around and to see people a lot worse off than I was.

[Lily]

Good post colukmea,

I lost my first husband to brain cancer. I was 33. Recently a friend of mine, just 32 was diagnosed with liver cancer. She feels like crap 24/7 and I complain about cleaning my house and endless laundry.

How quickly i forget at times just how precious life really is. I lost another friend to cancer and her last 4 weeks she couldn't hold her baby of 6 months cuz she was too weak, and I complain about sweeping the floor, vacuuming the carpet or taking my adult son who locked his keys in his car?

Oh I pray that God would show me how to love other like he loves us. That I would just die to my own SELF absorbtion and really love and appreciate others.

Good post! Sorry for your friends.

Sheila

[Klynn33]

that was a good post.
My best friend passed away in '05, and I'm only starting to grieve now. I was so mad that she had the nice house, husband, beautiful little boy and that she could be taken away - and yet I was left here. Then I starting thinking - well maybe I'm here for a reason,...and instead of thinking how wrong it is to be upset that she's gone, maybe I should concentrate on how lucky I am to be here.

I don't think it's right to minimize our problems or concerns, or sweep then under the rug like they don't matter - they do. It's just not ok to wallow in them.

[CarolD]

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