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causeIlovethem · 03-31-2008, 07:19 PM

Todays the first day of my sober life. I can't fight with my husband anymore and I can't stand the look of disappoinment in my kids eyes. I'm ready. This has just become a habit that I can't have in my life anymore. I am a binge drinking alcoholic and I don't want to drink anymore. I told my hubby & 3 kids this today and asked that if they see me trying to take a drink or buy alcohol to ask me please not to. When I don't drink we are such a totally great family. So I will take one day at a time and not continue to hurt them cause I love them.

***nandm*** · 03-31-2008, 07:26 PM

Welcome to SR!

Do you have a plan of action? Maybe a program of recovery? Your can increase your chances by using a program of recovery. There is a list at the top of the alcoholism forum. It is worth checking out. Good luck. Hope to see more of you.

Latte · 03-31-2008, 08:24 PM

I applaud what you are doing. It is wonderful when things get better for an entire family.

I found that my long lasting sobriety (I tried once before) is done one day at a time by putting myself first and doing it for me. While I do enjoy the results of that sobriety and the continued positive relationships with my family, I had to do it for me.

BUTTERFLY-7 · 03-31-2008, 08:27 PM

"JUST FOR YOU SAYING "NO MORE" TO THIS DEADLY DISEASE OF ADDICTION THE OBSESSION AND COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR WILL BE LIFT UP FOLLOW WITH A GOOD PROGRAM GET YOUR SELF TO A GOOD PROGRAM AND DO ALL THE MEETINGS YOU CAN, WHY I SAY THIS BECAUSE IF YOU HAVE THE DETERMINATION AND THE COURAGE FOR YOU FIRST, THEN FOR YOUR KIDS AND HUSBAND THATS ALL THE SUPPORT TEAM YOU NEED REMEMBER THIS DISEASE WANTS TO ISOLATE US FROM REALITY AND LIFE BECAUSE IS COMPULSIVE HEADIEST,BATHELIN, AND CUNNING,AND IT MUST BE ARREST IT AT ONCE!!!!!!!!!!!!

serenityqueen · 03-31-2008, 08:41 PM

Congratulations on your decision!

I also hope that either you have a Recovery plan in place or that you are in the process of putting one together already.

This is very important in order to begin recovering from this disease.

Just stopping the intake of alcohol or drugs doesn't get to the reason you began to binge in the first place. Nor does only abstinance teach you the tools you need to live a happy, joyous and free life!

I hope we continue to see you on here with us sharing in this wonderful journey through Recovery!

God Bless & Thank God . . . Just for Today,
Judy:ghug3
:ghug2

indigo · 04-01-2008, 02:08 AM

Welcome to the womens forum and to SR. I'm very happy for you in deciding enoughis enough. Have you seen a doctor about detoxing? and have you got a support network yet? all important things on our journey. I am glad your family are being supportive of your decision and I look forward to getting to know you better.

CarolD · 04-01-2008, 02:31 AM

Welcome to SR!
Blessings to you and your family

caitlin666 · 04-01-2008, 08:45 AM

welcome causeilovethem
youve made the best decision not only for your family but for yourself. please take all the advice of the others on the board, they are know what they are talking about. it will be hard, but not as hard as being a drunk is, takes infinitely less effort and as you will find out, the most rewarding thing you can do for you as a family.

you are in my thoughts:ghug3

ladesignz · 04-01-2008, 10:28 AM

Welcome and Just take it one day - or even one hour or maybe even 5 mins at a time

hugs

Lily · 04-01-2008, 12:44 PM

CauseIlovethem, How is it going today? Can you try getting to an AA meeting? I asked a few ladies in here when I first came in what they were doing and I learned that many of them attended meetings and had a sponsor. So, I followed suit and have 75 days clean now! You can do this! blessings, Sheila

causeIlovethem · 04-01-2008, 02:37 PM

I have had a lot of dealings with the AA thing from a kid & young adults point of view as my Dad is an alcoholic but the program has never worked for him and just made me resentful. I have great support thru my church and I also am using the program info from Women for Sobriety along with a couple of other things that really helped me make the decision that I didn't want to do this anymore. I haven't contacted a Dr but have researched the detoxing stuff. Thank you all for the support and suggestions. Day 2 going very well only a slight headache.

***Anna*** · 04-01-2008, 04:21 PM

Hi and Welcome,

You should do whatever works for you.

There is also lots of support and information here

zoomer · 04-02-2008, 03:02 AM

((((((((((((Huggies))))))))))) and congrats on day 2!

Paulie · 04-02-2008, 07:54 AM

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I have had a lot of dealings with the AA thing from a kid & young adults point of view as my Dad is an alcoholic but the program has never worked for him and just made me resentful.

Congrats on day 2 from me too!

But let me say, the program only does not work for people who do not work the program. I agree do what works for you, but please do not hold a resentment due to someones lack of working a program. Whether you deciced to go to AA or not, the resentment only hurts you.

03-31-2008, 07:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
causeIlovethem Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 2	New to sobriety cause I love them Todays the first day of my sober life. I can't fight with my husband anymore and I can't stand the look of disappoinment in my kids eyes. I'm ready. This has just become a habit that I can't have in my life anymore. I am a binge drinking alcoholic and I don't want to drink anymore. I told my hubby & 3 kids this today and asked that if they see me trying to take a drink or buy alcohol to ask me please not to. When I don't drink we are such a totally great family. So I will take one day at a time and not continue to hurt them cause I love them.

03-31-2008, 07:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
*nandm* Life the gift of recovery! Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Home is where the heart is Posts: 6,809	Welcome to SR! Do you have a plan of action? Maybe a program of recovery? Your can increase your chances by using a program of recovery. There is a list at the top of the alcoholism forum. It is worth checking out. Good luck. Hope to see more of you. __________________ NOTE: All BB quotes are from the 1st Edition of the Big Book Depression is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of being too strong for too long.

03-31-2008, 08:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
Latte I love my Coastie and 44 MLB's Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 2,101	I applaud what you are doing. It is wonderful when things get better for an entire family. I found that my long lasting sobriety (I tried once before) is done one day at a time by putting myself first and doing it for me. While I do enjoy the results of that sobriety and the continued positive relationships with my family, I had to do it for me. __________________ I am so thankful for my sobriety Dios me da la Sernidad Para acceptar las cosas que no puedo cambiar La fuerza para cambiar las que si puedo y la Sabidura para reconocer la diferencia

03-31-2008, 08:41 PM	#5 (permalink)
serenityqueen Attitude of Gratitude Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Dayton, Ohio Posts: 2,306	Congratulations on your decision! I also hope that either you have a Recovery plan in place or that you are in the process of putting one together already. This is very important in order to begin recovering from this disease. Just stopping the intake of alcohol or drugs doesn't get to the reason you began to binge in the first place. Nor does only abstinance teach you the tools you need to live a happy, joyous and free life! I hope we continue to see you on here with us sharing in this wonderful journey through Recovery! God Bless & Thank God . . . Just for Today, Judy:ghug3 :ghug2 __________________ Just when the Catterpillar thought her life was over, She became a Butterfly 7/25/05

04-01-2008, 02:31 AM	#7 (permalink)
CarolD Forward we go...side by side Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 37,601	Welcome to SR! Blessings to you and your family __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

03-31-2008, 08:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
BUTTERFLY-7 FreeSpirit Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Inside My Spirit Posts: 1,276 Blog Entries: 2	"JUST FOR YOU SAYING "NO MORE" TO THIS DEADLY DISEASE OF ADDICTION THE OBSESSION AND COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR WILL BE LIFT UP FOLLOW WITH A GOOD PROGRAM GET YOUR SELF TO A GOOD PROGRAM AND DO ALL THE MEETINGS YOU CAN, WHY I SAY THIS BECAUSE IF YOU HAVE THE DETERMINATION AND THE COURAGE FOR YOU FIRST, THEN FOR YOUR KIDS AND HUSBAND THATS ALL THE SUPPORT TEAM YOU NEED REMEMBER THIS DISEASE WANTS TO ISOLATE US FROM REALITY AND LIFE BECAUSE IS COMPULSIVE HEADIEST,BATHELIN, AND CUNNING,AND IT MUST BE ARREST IT AT ONCE!!!!!!!!!!!!

04-01-2008, 02:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Welcome to the womens forum and to SR. I'm very happy for you in deciding enoughis enough. Have you seen a doctor about detoxing? and have you got a support network yet? all important things on our journey. I am glad your family are being supportive of your decision and I look forward to getting to know you better.

04-01-2008, 08:45 AM	#8 (permalink)
caitlin666 Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: ireland Posts: 169 Blog Entries: 1	welcome causeilovethem youve made the best decision not only for your family but for yourself. please take all the advice of the others on the board, they are know what they are talking about. it will be hard, but not as hard as being a drunk is, takes infinitely less effort and as you will find out, the most rewarding thing you can do for you as a family. you are in my thoughts:ghug3 __________________ Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved. Helen Keller:

04-01-2008, 10:28 AM	#9 (permalink)
ladesignz Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Las Vegas Posts: 7	Welcome and Just take it one day - or even one hour or maybe even 5 mins at a time hugs

04-01-2008, 12:44 PM	#10 (permalink)
Lily Grateful Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 2,504 Blog Entries: 11	CauseIlovethem, How is it going today? Can you try getting to an AA meeting? I asked a few ladies in here when I first came in what they were doing and I learned that many of them attended meetings and had a sponsor. So, I followed suit and have 75 days clean now! You can do this! blessings, Sheila

04-01-2008, 02:37 PM	#11 (permalink)
causeIlovethem Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 2	Thanx for the support I have had a lot of dealings with the AA thing from a kid & young adults point of view as my Dad is an alcoholic but the program has never worked for him and just made me resentful. I have great support thru my church and I also am using the program info from Women for Sobriety along with a couple of other things that really helped me make the decision that I didn't want to do this anymore. I haven't contacted a Dr but have researched the detoxing stuff. Thank you all for the support and suggestions. Day 2 going very well only a slight headache.

04-01-2008, 04:21 PM	#12 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 28,177	Hi and Welcome, You should do whatever works for you. There is also lots of support and information here __________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Marianne Willianson

04-02-2008, 03:02 AM	#13 (permalink)
zoomer Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: It's raining again! Posts: 2,495	((((((((((((Huggies))))))))))) and congrats on day 2!

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