Any new moms here?

[ForMe]

I've posted my introduction in the newbie forum, but I am a youngish (!) mom (32 years old) with an 11 month baby... I was just wondering if there were other new moms there... I feel that I want to be a good mother for my child and I don't want him to grow up in a family like I did (my dad is an alcoholic)... Plus I feel that if I keep drinking... that will kill me and I won't be there at all for him...

Just interested in reading some of your stories...

[Evanna]

Hello ForMe,
An old mum, not a new one. My lad is 15 now. But i do remember being a new mum at 28 and how that felt. I wanted same as you did. How are you doing today?

Warm Regards
Evanna.

[Rowan]

Hi and welcome -

I'm 40 and have two daughters, 15 and 12. I haven't seen my eldest in 3 years because of what I put her through when I was drinking and depressed when she was much younger. Thinking about having her back in my life one day keeps me focused on my recovery and staying sober a day at a time.
I'm glad that you joined us and hope that you continue to read and post.

Rowan

[indigo]

Welcome I'm a mum of 3 boys and 1 girl but they are grown up. Makes no difference you are very welcome here.

[51anna]

I'm a Mom or a girl and a boy who are both married now.

And, I just found out I'm going to become a Grandma.

[CourtneyAM]

I am a mother of a 2 and a half year old baby girl, and a 1 and a half year old baby boy. I'm in the same boat you're in. I've been drinking daily since my son was three months. I love my children dearly and also want them to have a better life situation than I ever had.

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

[indigo]

Glad you've joined us Courtney you are very welcome here.

[missyouso9167]

Hey there FM, congrats on your 11 month old son, I am a 39 year old mom of two teenagers boy 16yrs,girl 14yrs, I pray everyday that my kids dont have the disease of addiction or ever have to deal with addiction again, it does help to ease my mind (praying), also I am very honest with them, and I thank God we all communicate with eachother on a regular basis, have you tryed going to any aa meetings? you will get alot of support there, and welcome to SR, this is a God sent to you, it was to me, everyone here is amazing!!!!!! so keep posting and you will see what I mean.... good luck, and GOD BLESS![/u]

[Surlyredhead]

Hi ForMe, I have one Son with me that I had at 30 with just over a year sober.....it wasn't always easy being a newly Sober(single) Mom with a child, but it was always worth it! My life is so much better sober, and today (and every day) my Son makes me want to be a better person. He will be 13 this year!!!! You can do this, I am pulling for you and your family.

Cathy

[Stila6813]

I'm not a "new mom" but would love to chat. I am 31 and have two girls ages 5 and 7. I'm currently struggling with a tramadol addiction that started about 2 years ago. My kids are getting old enough to notice things, and the last thing I want is them to look back at their childhood and think of mom as an addict. Those kids are my life and that has brought me here. I am afraid I am killing myself and I cannot have that, I have to be here for them...here and clean!

[theonlyway]

HI. Well, I'm neither 'new mom' or 'young-ish'... but I can hear you loud and clear.

My dd is 9 and a half now... And she has too many "memories" (although not all of them real, plenty provided by my ex-dh, her father). Still, hearing HER talk about "that time you crashed the Explorer" or "that time daddy took me into the bar to find you and I was crying"... is heartbreaking. These things happened when she was less than 5.

These days I'm much better at hiding it from her, or at least my current dh and I keep it to ourselves.

My dh is now at 2 months of sobriety, looking past the one sip of egg nog his mom talked him into at Christmas... This resulted from a OUI that is financially strapping us right now pretty heavily.

I am, regretably, only at Day 2. And it's not a pretty day for me, but it's a pretty good day for her... Not to say that she knows it, because they had a snow day today and I'm a tad on the crabby side.

Still, I know that this is what she needs. What I need, too. The long term effects on her cannot be known. I am an ACOA and now also an alcoholic. I so want her future to shine more brightly than mine did at her age.

For you, for me, for all mothers... Today, I pray.

[Lily]

I am a mom of 2 boys, 4 & 19. I am blessed because the bulk of my addiction was before my 19 yr old was born. However I have relapsed for short amounts of times since 99. My dream is to learn how to stay clean and sober each and every day from here on out and quit acting on my feelings, compulsions and emotions and just grow up and live life on lifes terms one day at a time.

Sheila

[BrokenBridges24]

Mom, 13, 11, 8 and raising granddaughter who just turned 3.