Sundays...

[missyouso9167]

Goodmorning Ladies, well its sunday the longest day of the week for me wish I could sleep right through them, I know yhats bad but I do. I'm sitting here having my coffee trying to talk myself into a great day, it all sounds good but then I just sit and say in minute and then minutes turn into hours and then before I know it the day is over and thats what I say I wanted was it to be over fast but really I dont, I want to get up, I want to go out, and I want to enjoy life, I know its sounds crazy I hope you get what I mean, I just feel so guilty wanting to be happy without him, I dont feel that its fair to him, and truely I really dont know if I am capable of happiness without him, he was my happiness my whole life!!! Im soooo frustrated, and so filled with mixed emotions...

[51anna]

Oh Missy, you will find ways to be happy on your own and you'll find that it's a huge blessing in your life.

[expenguin]

Prayers for you today and know that God is watching over you and showing you the happiness you need each moment...........

Listen to some music to relax you for the moment and write out why you enjoy the music you listen to........

Next, go out for a brisk walk and smell the coolness of the air and listen to the quietness outside.....God is there for you during this walk watching over you as well.....

once home warm up with that cup of coffee.......God is warming your heart then also and putting His hands around you to help you warm up and be happy in your world.......

Next....call a friend to meet you for a talk and lunch (if possible)...God will direct your thoughts during this and tell you quietly that it is going to be ok........

Life has its ups and downs in so many ways.........We just need to get motivated and move on in our life............

I suggest not to be alone and have someone you can call.....even if it be a family member that is close to you....or a friend that you can trust...........

Another suggestion......find a Teddy Bear in a store to call a friend in the moments that you are alone........they usually don't say No to Hugs that are needed when you feel so alone......this will help and the Teddy doesn't mind a few tears dropped when you are upset or feeling low.......

Take that walk and find that special Teddy Bear.....it will do you some good.................

Hugs and lots of them for you today from me.......

Little Penguin

[indigo]

I love Sundays, unless we have visitors it's a peaceful day for me.

[Paulie]

and truely I really dont know if I am capable of happiness without him

Try not to say that to yourself. Take it just one hour/minute at a time today.

You are NOT alone!!!!!

[nandm]

My experience has been when I have based my happiness on other people I have alway wound up unhappy. There are no perfect people out there. People fail us even when they do not mean to. We put our expectations out there and when the other person doesn't live up to them we wind up disappointed.

I have found that life is much easier when I look inside of me for that happiness, serenity, and contentment and if I have someone to share it with all the better. I can not have expectations of others as they are individuals and I can not control them.

When I have not been happy inside of myself, I have wound up being controlling, manipulating, smothering, and ultimately miserable because the relationship fails. No one is strong enough to carry the happiness of two people they will always fall.

A solution to what you are going through is to check into some recovery programs, go to a counselor/psychiatrist/psychologist. It will help with what you are going through. It will help you find the peace and happiness inside of you that you deserve. You deserve to be happy.

[indigo]

Yes yes you do deserve to be happy.

[missyouso9167]

Thank you all for your support and words, they mean alot and are very useful as they usually are, its a new week and Im really going to try to keep myself and my thoughts in a good place, its a beautilful day outside today, (I didnt leave the house alllllll weekend) I realy need to get out and get some fresh air even if I just start with my balcony, you see I know everything I need to and should do, why cant I just do it? today I am really going to try to push myself, let ya know how the day goes, THanx again for all of your hope and insperation, you've all been so wonderful and sincere in you kindness...

[fizzyh2o]

Hi Missyou!

I can really identify with where you are. I have been in a place where I ended a relationship, and felt that black void in me. In the old days, I would fill that void with negative thoughts, that's what I thought I was supposed to do.

Now, though, I try really hard to accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative.

So, as an active partner in my own happiness, I take action. When I am missing someone and feel that black void getting darker and bigger, I get up, go out, and find something positive!

I window shop, (not spending!) I go out to the barn and sit and watch the animals, I go to another part of the house and find or make a neat, peaceful place to enjoy.

I know you can have a great day. Look for the positive!

Cilla