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Fluttering · 08-18-2007, 04:17 PM

I am ticked...and trying not to be...Another lesson in patience and tolerance I suppose...
I am not consciously aware of having expectations of others..yet i must...otherwise i wouldn't be so ticked.. I do hope others will be accountable and responsible to keep their word or follow through...
I asked someone to put together a microwave cabinet for me...part of my "ticked' is not being able to do it myself..I did all these things for myself before my illness..now I have to rely on others..Quite a lesson in asking for help...
The guy spread the stuff out. I asked him if he had the time to do so before he started...he said he did...after spreading it all out he said he had to leave...i have a women's meeting here on Monday and wanted to get it out of my living room..so tho I shouldn't be doing it I was going to try. The instructions are no where to be found...

Another woman wanted a bed standing outside my door...She has been saying for over a week "tomarrow' yet it is still there and I am getting grief from the apartment manager.

Not sure if this makes any sense but for some reason when there is chaos in my environment...I feel scattered and have trouble finding my center..my focus... and yes, to be honest my patience level is not where it should be during these times.

Another person went to pick up my meds and called to say the med coverage card would not go through...Another scavenger hunt for me to find the papers to call and get it straightened out...because I never cancelled the coverage...the premiums are up to date... When someone goes out of their way to do something for me I feel as if I have wasted their time when something like this med coverage thing gets flubbed up even tho it wasn't my fault. and it goes without saying...one of my frequent gritches is the lack of communication in health care....I know I cannot change them...Can't help but wish I could tho. Now I have to without my meds and wait until Monday to call to straighten it out..

Just needed to vent. I know I will be ok...just frustrated...[and I know it is not hormones [LOL]
Thank you for allowing me to share.

Fulldresser4 · 08-18-2007, 04:59 PM

No answers for you, just ((hugs))

Paulie · 08-18-2007, 05:06 PM

Quote:

I am not consciously aware of having expectations of others..yet i must...otherwise i wouldn't be so ticked..

We all do, IMO anyway.

Hugs from me too...venting....is such a good thing.

***Anna*** · 08-18-2007, 05:10 PM

Hi Allaflutter,

I agree completely with what you said about chaos. I used to work very hard to bring chaos into my life and I didn't even realize I was doing it. When I became aware, I realized that I was bringing it into my life in order to distract myself from my feelings. It was just another way to 'not' deal with the stuff in my life.

I understand how frustrating it must be when you need to ask for help to get the routine things done. All I know is, there must be a reason for this happening and there must be a lesson.

Fluttering · 08-18-2007, 10:20 PM

I am willing to learn the lesson..
I need to learn it.

I do not like being dependant on others...I know there is a leeson and I hope I learn it soon.

Thank you all for your love and support

indigo · 08-20-2007, 02:46 AM

Yes I'm with all the others on this one Alla, I feel powerless in those types of situations, I try to flow with it and sometimes I arrive at a solution others I collapse mentally and physically. I'm praying..

Annie

Pilgrim · 08-20-2007, 03:53 AM

Hi Alla. People can be inconsiderate. Life can be difficult and frustrating. Our response to it is what matters right?

Someone I have grown to love on this site once wrote me a note and it had this in it. I hope it helps.

....for the times when the teenagers are trying your last ounce of patience or the animals chew up your favorite slipper or the partner is insensitive to your needs; that you can know without a shodow of doubt that whatever it is you are walking through...you are never alone...that you have a God that is forgiving, loving, one that you will give you a perfect attentive audience fore the times you want to just scream, rant, cry or just lay in his lap and asked to be comforted.

xoxoxo

mackie · 08-20-2007, 03:45 PM

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly...............leave the rest to God.

Hope your doing OK AllaFlutter!

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA · 08-20-2007, 03:48 PM

Big hugs Alla!!!

08-18-2007, 04:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Fluttering Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Fluttering About Posts: 3,408	Another lesson I am ticked...and trying not to be...Another lesson in patience and tolerance I suppose... I am not consciously aware of having expectations of others..yet i must...otherwise i wouldn't be so ticked.. I do hope others will be accountable and responsible to keep their word or follow through... I asked someone to put together a microwave cabinet for me...part of my "ticked' is not being able to do it myself..I did all these things for myself before my illness..now I have to rely on others..Quite a lesson in asking for help... The guy spread the stuff out. I asked him if he had the time to do so before he started...he said he did...after spreading it all out he said he had to leave...i have a women's meeting here on Monday and wanted to get it out of my living room..so tho I shouldn't be doing it I was going to try. The instructions are no where to be found... Another woman wanted a bed standing outside my door...She has been saying for over a week "tomarrow' yet it is still there and I am getting grief from the apartment manager. Not sure if this makes any sense but for some reason when there is chaos in my environment...I feel scattered and have trouble finding my center..my focus... and yes, to be honest my patience level is not where it should be during these times. Another person went to pick up my meds and called to say the med coverage card would not go through...Another scavenger hunt for me to find the papers to call and get it straightened out...because I never cancelled the coverage...the premiums are up to date... When someone goes out of their way to do something for me I feel as if I have wasted their time when something like this med coverage thing gets flubbed up even tho it wasn't my fault. and it goes without saying...one of my frequent gritches is the lack of communication in health care....I know I cannot change them...Can't help but wish I could tho. Now I have to without my meds and wait until Monday to call to straighten it out.. Just needed to vent. I know I will be ok...just frustrated...[and I know it is not hormones [LOL] Thank you for allowing me to share. __________________

08-18-2007, 05:10 PM	#4 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,812	Hi Allaflutter, I agree completely with what you said about chaos. I used to work very hard to bring chaos into my life and I didn't even realize I was doing it. When I became aware, I realized that I was bringing it into my life in order to distract myself from my feelings. It was just another way to 'not' deal with the stuff in my life. I understand how frustrating it must be when you need to ask for help to get the routine things done. All I know is, there must be a reason for this happening and there must be a lesson. __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

08-18-2007, 10:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
Fluttering Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Fluttering About Posts: 3,408	I am willing to learn the lesson.. I need to learn it. I do not like being dependant on others...I know there is a leeson and I hope I learn it soon. Thank you all for your love and support __________________

08-20-2007, 02:46 AM	#6 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Yes I'm with all the others on this one Alla, I feel powerless in those types of situations, I try to flow with it and sometimes I arrive at a solution others I collapse mentally and physically. I'm praying.. Annie __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

08-20-2007, 03:53 AM	#7 (permalink)
Pilgrim Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New Zealand Posts: 1,623	Hi Alla. People can be inconsiderate. Life can be difficult and frustrating. Our response to it is what matters right? Someone I have grown to love on this site once wrote me a note and it had this in it. I hope it helps. ....for the times when the teenagers are trying your last ounce of patience or the animals chew up your favorite slipper or the partner is insensitive to your needs; that you can know without a shodow of doubt that whatever it is you are walking through...you are never alone...that you have a God that is forgiving, loving, one that you will give you a perfect attentive audience fore the times you want to just scream, rant, cry or just lay in his lap and asked to be comforted. xoxoxo __________________ ************************************ 3 August 2007 Be a fisher of men. You catch them. He’ll clean them! Cliff B (Texas)

08-18-2007, 04:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Fulldresser4 Fulldresser4 Join Date: May 2007 Location: Mid-Michigan Posts: 531	No answers for you, just ((hugs))

08-20-2007, 03:45 PM	#8 (permalink)
mackie Keeper of the Stars Join Date: May 2006 Location: A little left of center Posts: 170	Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly...............leave the rest to God. Hope your doing OK AllaFlutter! __________________ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Mackie "In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back!" (Charlie Brown)

08-20-2007, 03:48 PM	#9 (permalink)
NOMOMERLOTMAMMA No more merlot, more mamma Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Hills, Ct Posts: 2,131 Blog Entries: 36	Big hugs Alla!!! __________________ But I always think that the best way to know God is to love many things. ~Vincent van Gogh

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