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Old 07-09-2007, 05:41 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Self-centered Fear

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July 8, 2007

Self-centered Fear

The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear --
primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed
or would fail to get something we demanded.
Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands,
we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration.
Therefore, no peace was to be had unless we could find a means
of reducing these demands.
The difference between a demand and a simple request
is plain to anyone.
c. 1953 AAWS, Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 76
With permission, Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.




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Old 07-09-2007, 06:24 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I spend so much of my time eat up with fear, at times in my life it has been paralyzing! I keep trying to improve and strengthen my conscious contact with God and work constantly on my relationship with him. Don't know why I tend to have so much trouble in this area.
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Old 07-09-2007, 08:34 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I guess that is why there is a whole inventory for it in step four. I figure it is the core of my disease and maladjustment to life. But lucky for us there is a Power and a program to help ! Although it sure takes alot of work some days !!! ( :
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Old 07-09-2007, 08:35 AM   #4 (permalink)
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I have done so many 4th steps and of course am 1/2 way in the middle of another one . . . just wish I could "get over" this slump.
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Old 07-09-2007, 08:39 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Maybe it's just time to let step three and seven work in their time? I used to be the same way, constant inventories...trying to will myself better faster! lol...then my sponser reminded me that I am not in the results department and to let God (good orderly direction..if you prefer) do its work. Its in Gods time but I always want it in mine. As long as you are taking right action of course. ( :
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Old 07-09-2007, 08:58 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Well, you know I qualify for many many programs, however I just can't get settled into others. I do AA and have a sponsor, but I am co dependent and an adult child as well. Sister suggests al-anon especially since now i'm in a relationship again after 3 1/2 yrs. ARGHHHH sometimes I just want to be and not have to go to this group or that group. Oh and I seek outside help, many years of counseling!!!!! Church too for what it's worth, just seems like alot. But, I'd hate to see how I'd be without it all!!!!
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Old 07-09-2007, 10:06 AM   #7 (permalink)
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"FEAR"..."This short word somehow touches about every aspect of our lives. It is an evil and corroding thread; the fabric of our existence was shot through with it. It set in motion trains of circumstances which brought us misfortune we felt we didn't deserve." [Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous--page 67]
When I replaced fear with faith...I was free from this corroding cancer.
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Old 07-09-2007, 03:54 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thank you for this thread. Speaking aaonline.net
i heard a great quote when i first started going to meetings online; after being on a dry drunk.

"Know Fear. No God"
"Know God. No Fear."
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Old 07-09-2007, 04:58 PM   #9 (permalink)
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The best thing that works for me is trying to stay in the moment. Most of my fears are created when I am stepping back into my past or planning the future. Just try to remain in where you are for the moment.
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I found that to be soooooo true!!! Yet I still allow myself to get back intoit..time after time.
At least now I don't spend as much time there, Talk abut imprisoned!! YUK!
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