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|05-25-2007, 10:09 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Philadelphia PA
Hello Everyone, I'm new to this message board. I began my recovery in 2001. It has been quite a recovery. I'm a mother of three daughters. I have two that live in NJ with their father, who is also in recovery. And my youngest lives with me. Lately my spirituality has seemed different, not as connected. Can anyone give me some advice and does this happen from time to time?
|05-25-2007, 10:16 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: fumbling towards ecstasy
Hello and welcome to SR, littlefeather.
Yes, I am feeling a biy "dry" right now myself so I can totally relate. Here's what I do when this happens - go to meetings, read the BB, pray, meditate, slow down, get back to basics, focus on the next right thing.
I needed your question today, too. So thanks!
Glad you're here. Keep reading and posting and reaching out, ok?
If ten people tell you that you have a tail... you might want to turn around and look.
|05-25-2007, 10:22 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2003
Welcome! I have two daughters, and my youngest lives with me, too, and my eldest lives with their father.
I've definitely felt disconnected spiritually at different periods in my sobriety - I think it's perfectly normal to go through this. My sponsor had told me that I wasn't going to always 'feel' connected, but to keep doing the right things (prayer, journaling, meetings, whatever works for you) and soon that connection would return.
There is a lovely church, a shrine, really, about 30 miles from my house and it's only open from late May to October. I love visiting through the week. It sits high on a hill, the doors are open and you can smell the burning candles and feel the summer breeze blowing through. And it's so quiet, reverential, even. Going there by myself really recharges me - I might go tomorrow!
I hope you keep posting - you've found a wonderful place. Others will be along to welcome you.
|05-25-2007, 10:51 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Philadelphia PA
Hi Rowan! Nice meeting you too. Wow, I didn't think anyone else could relate to having a child that lived with their father. Thank you for your advice. I sometimes get questioned about, "Why aren't your other two daughters with you"? I will have to see if there is a shrine close to me.
Thank you and looking forward to getting to know you better!
|05-25-2007, 01:21 PM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: Dancing in the Light
I find that I have to work on the balance every day - physical, mental and spiritual. If one area slides, then I don't do well. Have you tried listening to your favorite music or meditating, or just spending time taking a walk by yourself. Those are the kinds of things that help me.
|05-25-2007, 04:18 PM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Fluttering About
hi Little feather
It is not uncommon to sometimes feel disconnected. When I feel that way I have found it beneficial to write in my journal. Even if I cannot identify the cause when I begin; I often know the root of it by the time I lay the pen back down. The other two things that are extremely helpful is writing out all the things I am grateful for and calling folks. Many meetings ahev a phone list.
Teh times I get squirrley or I find myself isolating just touching base with others keeps my mind and my "stinkin thinking in check.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
|05-26-2007, 12:51 AM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Mid-Life Express
Welcome to women in recovery, I can relate I haven't seen my only daughter for years it will be her birthday on 29 may, she cut me out of her life blaming me for her genetic condition, so I can empathize with any mom who feels bad. My 3 son's are with me, yet nothing fills the gap where my daughter is concerned. Keeping you in my thoughts.
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté
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