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littlefeather02 · 05-25-2007, 10:09 AM

Hello Everyone, I'm new to this message board. I began my recovery in 2001. It has been quite a recovery. I'm a mother of three daughters. I have two that live in NJ with their father, who is also in recovery. And my youngest lives with me. Lately my spirituality has seemed different, not as connected. Can anyone give me some advice and does this happen from time to time?

Thanks,

littlefeather02

Phinneas · 05-25-2007, 10:16 AM

Hello and welcome to SR, littlefeather.

Yes, I am feeling a biy "dry" right now myself so I can totally relate. Here's what I do when this happens - go to meetings, read the BB, pray, meditate, slow down, get back to basics, focus on the next right thing.

I needed your question today, too. So thanks!

Glad you're here. Keep reading and posting and reaching out, ok?

Rowan · 05-25-2007, 10:22 AM

Hi Littlefeather,

Welcome! I have two daughters, and my youngest lives with me, too, and my eldest lives with their father.

I've definitely felt disconnected spiritually at different periods in my sobriety - I think it's perfectly normal to go through this. My sponsor had told me that I wasn't going to always 'feel' connected, but to keep doing the right things (prayer, journaling, meetings, whatever works for you) and soon that connection would return.

There is a lovely church, a shrine, really, about 30 miles from my house and it's only open from late May to October. I love visiting through the week. It sits high on a hill, the doors are open and you can smell the burning candles and feel the summer breeze blowing through. And it's so quiet, reverential, even. Going there by myself really recharges me - I might go tomorrow!

I hope you keep posting - you've found a wonderful place. Others will be along to welcome you.

Rowan

littlefeather02 · 05-25-2007, 10:42 AM

Hi Phinneas! Thank you so much for your support! I needed it today.
Nice meeting you and look forward to getting to know you better.

littlefeather02

littlefeather02 · 05-25-2007, 10:51 AM

Hi Rowan! Nice meeting you too. Wow, I didn't think anyone else could relate to having a child that lived with their father. Thank you for your advice. I sometimes get questioned about, "Why aren't your other two daughters with you"? I will have to see if there is a shrine close to me.

Thank you and looking forward to getting to know you better!
littlefeather02

Rowan · 05-25-2007, 11:08 AM

Me too!

***Anna*** · 05-25-2007, 01:21 PM

Hi Littlefeather,

Welcome!

I find that I have to work on the balance every day - physical, mental and spiritual. If one area slides, then I don't do well. Have you tried listening to your favorite music or meditating, or just spending time taking a walk by yourself. Those are the kinds of things that help me.

littlefeather02 · 05-25-2007, 01:25 PM

Thanks Anna! So nice to meet you. I haven't been doing to much of meditation. I seem to get distracted or up in head. I have to work on keeping that balance everyday.

Thank you!

Fluttering · 05-25-2007, 04:18 PM

hi Little feather

It is not uncommon to sometimes feel disconnected. When I feel that way I have found it beneficial to write in my journal. Even if I cannot identify the cause when I begin; I often know the root of it by the time I lay the pen back down. The other two things that are extremely helpful is writing out all the things I am grateful for and calling folks. Many meetings ahev a phone list.
Teh times I get squirrley or I find myself isolating just touching base with others keeps my mind and my "stinkin thinking in check.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

indigo · 05-26-2007, 12:51 AM

Welcome to women in recovery, I can relate I haven't seen my only daughter for years it will be her birthday on 29 may, she cut me out of her life blaming me for her genetic condition, so I can empathize with any mom who feels bad. My 3 son's are with me, yet nothing fills the gap where my daughter is concerned. Keeping you in my thoughts.

indigo

05-25-2007, 10:09 AM	#1 (permalink)
littlefeather02 Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philadelphia PA Posts: 5	Introduction Hello Everyone, I'm new to this message board. I began my recovery in 2001. It has been quite a recovery. I'm a mother of three daughters. I have two that live in NJ with their father, who is also in recovery. And my youngest lives with me. Lately my spirituality has seemed different, not as connected. Can anyone give me some advice and does this happen from time to time? Thanks, littlefeather02

05-25-2007, 10:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
Phinneas Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,611	Hello and welcome to SR, littlefeather. Yes, I am feeling a biy "dry" right now myself so I can totally relate. Here's what I do when this happens - go to meetings, read the BB, pray, meditate, slow down, get back to basics, focus on the next right thing. I needed your question today, too. So thanks! Glad you're here. Keep reading and posting and reaching out, ok? __________________ If ten people tell you that you have a tail... you might want to turn around and look.

05-25-2007, 01:21 PM	#7 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 27,850	Hi Littlefeather, Welcome! I find that I have to work on the balance every day - physical, mental and spiritual. If one area slides, then I don't do well. Have you tried listening to your favorite music or meditating, or just spending time taking a walk by yourself. Those are the kinds of things that help me. __________________ Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Marianne Willianson

05-25-2007, 04:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
Fluttering Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Fluttering About Posts: 3,473	hi Little feather It is not uncommon to sometimes feel disconnected. When I feel that way I have found it beneficial to write in my journal. Even if I cannot identify the cause when I begin; I often know the root of it by the time I lay the pen back down. The other two things that are extremely helpful is writing out all the things I am grateful for and calling folks. Many meetings ahev a phone list. Teh times I get squirrley or I find myself isolating just touching base with others keeps my mind and my "stinkin thinking in check. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing. __________________

05-25-2007, 10:22 AM	#3 (permalink)
Rowan Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 12,136	Hi Littlefeather, Welcome! I have two daughters, and my youngest lives with me, too, and my eldest lives with their father. I've definitely felt disconnected spiritually at different periods in my sobriety - I think it's perfectly normal to go through this. My sponsor had told me that I wasn't going to always 'feel' connected, but to keep doing the right things (prayer, journaling, meetings, whatever works for you) and soon that connection would return. There is a lovely church, a shrine, really, about 30 miles from my house and it's only open from late May to October. I love visiting through the week. It sits high on a hill, the doors are open and you can smell the burning candles and feel the summer breeze blowing through. And it's so quiet, reverential, even. Going there by myself really recharges me - I might go tomorrow! I hope you keep posting - you've found a wonderful place. Others will be along to welcome you. Rowan

05-25-2007, 10:42 AM	#4 (permalink)
littlefeather02 Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philadelphia PA Posts: 5	Hi Phinneas! Thank you so much for your support! I needed it today. Nice meeting you and look forward to getting to know you better. littlefeather02

05-25-2007, 10:51 AM	#5 (permalink)
littlefeather02 Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philadelphia PA Posts: 5	Hi Rowan! Nice meeting you too. Wow, I didn't think anyone else could relate to having a child that lived with their father. Thank you for your advice. I sometimes get questioned about, "Why aren't your other two daughters with you"? I will have to see if there is a shrine close to me. Thank you and looking forward to getting to know you better! littlefeather02

05-25-2007, 11:08 AM	#6 (permalink)
Rowan Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Posts: 12,136	Me too!

05-25-2007, 01:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
littlefeather02 Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Philadelphia PA Posts: 5	Thanks Anna! So nice to meet you. I haven't been doing to much of meditation. I seem to get distracted or up in head. I have to work on keeping that balance everyday. Thank you!

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