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M_K · 11-03-2006, 06:28 PM

Hi, I'm new to this sight and new to all this.

I was denying that I was an alcoholic because I wasn't always drunk. But I was drinking everyday. The amount would change, some months it would be up to 2 bottles of wine a night or one bottle of liquor.

All my friends drank just as much as me and for a while it was like an inside joke. Look we're functional alcoholics! We drink all we want and still have jobs/go to school!

But recently after another fight with my boyfriend while I was drunk I realised that it was out of control. I was drinking way too much and when I was drunk I wasn't having fun, I was getting angry and being mean. This had happened before in relationships too.

I came to the conclusion that I don't want to be that mean drunk anymore and that I care enough for this person that I want to show him that this is not me. That I really am a nice, caring person.

So, there's my introduction. What I am looking for here is support from anyone, but especially people my own age. I don't know anyone my age who is ready to admit they have a problem. Most of them just say, we're young and this is what young people do. But I don't want to wake up in 20 years and realise I am an alcoholic still.

Thanks for reading.

-MK.

**CarolD** · 11-03-2006, 06:51 PM

Welcome to SR!

My drinking friends and I used to joke
"We put the FUN into functional alcoholics"

We had careers and apartments and money..
and then some of us did not.

I choose to quit while I did.
I'm glad to see you are doing the same.

I'm not sure how old you are...but you
are never too young or old to recover.

Glad to see a new member..very

***Anna*** · 11-03-2006, 06:54 PM

Hi M K,

Welcome and I'm glad you found us.

It sounds like you're ready to make a decision to live a sober life. There is lots of support here and information too, so I hope you keep visiting and posting.

Hope · 11-04-2006, 11:58 PM

Welcome! I can relate to your post.

I'm in my 20s and a college student who thought that I was just living the normal life of the typical college student. I was only kidding myself. I realized that alcoholism and addiction are progressive and it gets worse.

When I stopped and really took a good look at myself, I realized that my drinking/using was not normal. While I had not lost everything yet, I realized that it could happen to me unless I got into recovery.

There have been times when I looked around at others and kind of felt jealous that they were still out drinking... but then I stopped and realized how blessed and fortunate I am that I am sober and living the life of sobriety. People who are caught up in drinking and that lifestyle can many times overlook how wonderful a life truly can be without being in a constant haze. There is so much more to do in life besides drinking.... it just takes putting down the booze to realize it.

I'm glad that you are here and I hope that you will continue to reach out. Be proud of yourself that you are asking questions and looking at your options.

indigo · 11-05-2006, 11:28 AM

Welcome to the women's forum it's good to meet you, you made the first step when you aknowledged you have a problem. I hope you keep on posting.

indigo

parentrecovers · 11-10-2006, 08:32 AM

Hello MK,

I am the mother of a 22 year old recovering alcoholic. She is finding that there are a lot of young people in AA. Please go to the adults in your life that you trust, and ask for the help you need - you deserve it.

Blessings, K

Latte · 11-16-2006, 11:20 PM

Welcome, I love it here.

It's like a big comfy chair with an extra squeak at the appropriate time.

One day at a time.

11-03-2006, 06:28 PM	#1 (permalink)
M_K Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 1	New and young Hi, I'm new to this sight and new to all this. I was denying that I was an alcoholic because I wasn't always drunk. But I was drinking everyday. The amount would change, some months it would be up to 2 bottles of wine a night or one bottle of liquor. All my friends drank just as much as me and for a while it was like an inside joke. Look we're functional alcoholics! We drink all we want and still have jobs/go to school! But recently after another fight with my boyfriend while I was drunk I realised that it was out of control. I was drinking way too much and when I was drunk I wasn't having fun, I was getting angry and being mean. This had happened before in relationships too. I came to the conclusion that I don't want to be that mean drunk anymore and that I care enough for this person that I want to show him that this is not me. That I really am a nice, caring person. So, there's my introduction. What I am looking for here is support from anyone, but especially people my own age. I don't know anyone my age who is ready to admit they have a problem. Most of them just say, we're young and this is what young people do. But I don't want to wake up in 20 years and realise I am an alcoholic still. Thanks for reading. -MK.

11-03-2006, 06:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 34,835	Welcome to SR! My drinking friends and I used to joke "We put the FUN into functional alcoholics" We had careers and apartments and money.. and then some of us did not. I choose to quit while I did. I'm glad to see you are doing the same. I'm not sure how old you are...but you are never too young or old to recover. Glad to see a new member..very __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

11-03-2006, 06:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
*Anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 22,845	Hi M K, Welcome and I'm glad you found us. It sounds like you're ready to make a decision to live a sober life. There is lots of support here and information too, so I hope you keep visiting and posting. __________________ And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

11-05-2006, 11:28 AM	#5 (permalink)
indigo Community Greeter Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Mid-Life Express Posts: 9,928	Welcome to the women's forum it's good to meet you, you made the first step when you aknowledged you have a problem. I hope you keep on posting. indigo __________________ When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself." Namasté

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11-04-2006, 11:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
Hope Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 3,300	Welcome! I can relate to your post. I'm in my 20s and a college student who thought that I was just living the normal life of the typical college student. I was only kidding myself. I realized that alcoholism and addiction are progressive and it gets worse. When I stopped and really took a good look at myself, I realized that my drinking/using was not normal. While I had not lost everything yet, I realized that it could happen to me unless I got into recovery. There have been times when I looked around at others and kind of felt jealous that they were still out drinking... but then I stopped and realized how blessed and fortunate I am that I am sober and living the life of sobriety. People who are caught up in drinking and that lifestyle can many times overlook how wonderful a life truly can be without being in a constant haze. There is so much more to do in life besides drinking.... it just takes putting down the booze to realize it. I'm glad that you are here and I hope that you will continue to reach out. Be proud of yourself that you are asking questions and looking at your options.

11-10-2006, 08:32 AM	#6 (permalink)
parentrecovers let it grow! Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: USA Posts: 15,536	Hello MK, I am the mother of a 22 year old recovering alcoholic. She is finding that there are a lot of young people in AA. Please go to the adults in your life that you trust, and ask for the help you need - you deserve it. Blessings, K

11-16-2006, 11:20 PM	#7 (permalink)
Latte I love my Coastie and 44 MLB's Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Coos Bay, OR Posts: 2,095	Welcome, I love it here. It's like a big comfy chair with an extra squeak at the appropriate time. One day at a time.

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