2000

[popaid]

In 2000 I thought life was just great.. little did I know the ups and downs I would be confronted with. As a matter of fact my husband says that this would be about when he really got started in his addiction. I may be misguided but I think WE got lucky. Trust is still an issue but I believe we have made it through the worst and can now proceed on.

There were many a time when I wanted to give up on him, on me, on us but with perservance and support from this site, even if I write/post little, I didn't and today I can honestly say WE are healthy and happy. AND MOST IMPORTANTLY I BELIEVE HE IS CLEAN!!!

I'm not ignorant enought to realize that there may be slip ups but I have set the boundaries and will not allow them to be crossed. The hardest thing for me is the realization that I won't fully recover from my hurt and trust issues any more than he as an addict will completely recover from his addiction. It isn't something that just goes away in either case. You can only do so much and each persons happiness depends on the understanding of that fact..your personal fulfillment is what is important.. whatever you choose to accept or whatever action will satisfy what you need is what you need to do. Individuals are first then the others around them. We can not help others unless we take care of ourselves.

[livenletlive]

We can not help others unless we take care of ourselves.

So true.

Thx for posting and just wanted to say that I am happy to hear your relationship is better. Good luck.