1987

[gelfling]

Was the year my husband went into rehab. He stopped drinking. And of course, I thought that with him not drinking, our lives would be peachy again. Like in the early days of dating. I didn't go to alanon meetings, nor did I seek help for our son. We were told he was well adjusted for being a child of an alcoholic and thought he was fine.

1999-Life is okay, but I know it could be better. I begin therapy.

2002-Got a call from our son. He admits to being an alcoholic. I go totally off the wall. Hysterical is the only way to describe my emotions. I flashed back to the days when husband was drinking. My therapist was really helpful, but something was missing.

2003-Searched online for help with alcoholism issues. Lots of recovery sites, but none touched on issues that were affecting me directly. I also began alanon.

2004-Son is spiralling out of control. My therapist had passed away and I never looked for another. Typed "sober" one night and found Sober Recovery. An amazing site that allowed us to discuss issues other than those deemed acceptable by AA/Alanon. It covered the psychology, spiritual and personal issues that were a part of my daily life. I found answers. I found people who felt the same emotions I did at different times in my life while married to a recovering alcoholic. I found some of the best friends a person could ask for. It became my home for continued growth. My shoulder in times of pain or anger.

I am still sick. But I'm getting better and stronger. At one time I used SR to supplement my alanon meetings. I am only able to go once a week. That has changed. My alanon meetings now supplement my SR home. I can come here everyday, as many times as I feel the need. I read. I learn and learn how to put what I've read to use in my life. I'm not always successful. But the little growth spurts make my heart tingle with joy.

I gain strength and courage from the people on this site. I am loved unconditionally. Inner peace is becoming a regular part of my life. All because of a wonderful site called Sober Recovery. I could never put into words what I've grasped from SR in the last year. It actually makes me want to cry when I think about it. Heck, I am now.

I pray and wish that this site continues to help others as much as I've been helped.

Blessings