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04-30-2006, 06:04 AM
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| Sharing Our Light  Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake
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| Actions and Reactions
You are reading from the book Touchstones. A life of reaction is a life of slavery, intellectually and spiritually. One must fight for a life of action not reaction. --Rita Mae Brown All men in recovery confront their reactive habits in relationships. Whether we came to recovery as a codependent or as an addict, we soon must face how much other people's behavior has been a cue for our own reactions. There is always a three-part process in any reactionfirst, the other person's behavior; second, a moment of choosing a response; and third, our reaction. But in our spiritual slavery, we don't notice the choice stage. It feels automatic. It may feel as though "the other person made me do it." No amount of changing on someone else's part can change us. We are becoming more responsible for our own lives and for our own behavior regardless of others around us. There is liberation in noticing the choice stage. It is tough to follow through on our choices, but when we do, it is truly a sign of a grown man. Then a remarkable thing happens - our self-esteem rises. Today, I will pause to notice the choices I have in the moment between someone's action and my reaction.
__________________ Somewhere between the gator swamp and the Taj Mahal there is a path, it may be hidden, overgrown or may blend in with the other surroundings, but it is there, it's your path and it is calling you.~Frankly~  |
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05-02-2006, 02:02 PM
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| I bite. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA
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__________________ Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, surviving in life is about not doing what we want to do but rather doing what we need to do. | |
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05-02-2006, 02:24 PM
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| Sharing Our Light Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake
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Good to see you Grimnar  Blind faith has led me many times and each time I have had no regrets. Just trusting that things are as they should be and that life is unfolding as intended helps me go with the flow and find my own resting spots along the way.
__________________ Somewhere between the gator swamp and the Taj Mahal there is a path, it may be hidden, overgrown or may blend in with the other surroundings, but it is there, it's your path and it is calling you.~Frankly~ |
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05-02-2006, 03:16 PM
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| Acting not reacting  Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: My happy place
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__________________ The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason. -- Marya Mannes (1904-1990) American Journalist  | |
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05-03-2006, 08:21 AM
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| I bite. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: USA
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__________________ Sometimes, perhaps most of the time, surviving in life is about not doing what we want to do but rather doing what we need to do. | |
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