Torn Between NA and AA - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Chance · 11-06-2005, 09:15 PM

OK I just don't know what to do here I am torn it feels like I don't know which one to focus on will I deny one addiction if I leave the other. I just posted on the AA forum yet I have always posted on the NA but yet it seem like I am going from one to the other. I have not been reading the NA for a while and now am really active in the AA program feel comfortable, yet I almost feel like a trader I don't know I should probably just stop I probably am not making a damn bit of sense..OK

Love Vic

Gooch · 11-06-2005, 09:40 PM

keep it simple Vic. Stick with what is working for you.

Don't worry about being a traitor. As long as you stay straight your setting an example for recovery, no matter what room you get it.

the thing that pisses me off most about this disease is that even after we find people we can relate to it still finds ways to try and isolate us from one another.

Time2Surrender · 11-06-2005, 10:05 PM

As usuall,well said Gooch.

I'm gonna stick with NA myself.It seems to work for me.

Chance · 11-07-2005, 05:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Gooch

keep it simple Vic. Stick with what is working for you.

Don't worry about being a traitor. As long as you stay straight your setting an example for recovery, no matter what room you get it.

the thing that pisses me off most about this disease is that even after we find people we can relate to it still finds ways to try and isolate us from one another.

I just don't know what to do I love NA and AA. I really do but here you can only belong to one home group and in NA they don't have one that meets everyday hell most of them only meet 2 or 3 times a week..That is why we started the Where Dreams Come True Group back home cause we wanted a NA meeting everyday.

Then I find myself reading one book and not the other, like the last 3 weeks all I have been doing is reading AA now I have not done that for a long time. I feel like I am saying that I don't have a alcohol problem when I had that problem well before I used drugs but yet today I know that I am an addict. OH boy here goes my head LOL>>>>OK I just don't know anymore...

Love Vic

Dan · 11-07-2005, 07:40 AM

Work your program with one sponsor. Don't matter where.
The rest, is gravy

bartender129 · 11-07-2005, 08:03 AM

I have a question that is really going to expose my complete ignorance about 12 step groups, but other than the home group issue you describe, what are the differences between AA and NA?

Perhaps a good analysis of them will help you decide which is more conducive to your journey.

tyler · 11-07-2005, 08:37 AM

The primary difference is that AA focuses on Alcohol only, while NA focues on drugs, of which alcohol is included. The problem many run into, and it sounds like this may be an issue for vic here, is that AA, having been around for a lot longer has many more meetings and is more established in general. However some AA groups completely forbid any discussion of any drugs other than alcohol, thus making it difficult or uncomfortable for someone who has issues with alcohol and other drugs as well. I have been to other AA groups where other drugs are discussed openly with no problem, it really depends on the area and the individual group I think. The basic priciples behind both groups are essentially the same.

Personally, vic, I dont' see the problem with going to both AA and NA if it helps you. It's not like the bloods and the crips!! My understanding is that drugs are your primary issue, so I would think you might be more comfortable with NA, but like I said it depends on what your local AA meetings are like. Bottom line is, do what works for you. Take care.

Dan · 11-07-2005, 09:23 AM

Step one of AA states we were powerless over alcohol.
Step one of NA states we were powerless over our addiction.

bartender129 · 11-07-2005, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan

Step one of AA states we were powerless over alcohol.
Step one of NA states we were powerless over our addiction.

But other than that they are essentially the same? If you are working the same steps and going through the same process, why would an AA group feel the need to not let a person addicted to something else participate? Sounds like turning someone away because they are addicted to the wrong substance.

From what I am hearing it sounds like this is not always the case. That is a good thing and I hope Vic finds a more open-minded AA group with meetings that fit his schedule.

Dan · 11-07-2005, 10:11 AM

Well, there's the whole primary purpose thing, which is somewhat of a contentious issue at times in the rooms of AA, or at least, in my lived experience in those rooms, I should say. I've been in meetings where introducing one's self as an addict will raise the ire of longtimers, and I've also been in rooms where the longtimers don't give a chit 'bout what you call yourself.
They see a life made unmamageable through the use and abuse of a substance, and believe the program of AA can help and want to share it.

FaeryQueen · 11-07-2005, 10:13 AM

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I have a question that is really going to expose my complete ignorance about 12 step groups. Bartender

Dude, you did that awhile ago.

FaeryQueen · 11-07-2005, 10:17 AM

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Personally, vic, I dont' see the problem with going to both AA and NA if it helps you. It's not like the bloods and the crips!! tyler

I agree! I use AA, but I hit NA and CA meetings regularly. Take what you need and leave the rest.

However, when I sponsor, I stick to women with pill and alcohol problems....simply because I don't know what it is like to be a heroin, cocaine, meth addict.

Peace

bartender129 · 11-07-2005, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan

They see a life made unmamageable through the use and abuse of a substance, and believe the program of AA can help and want to share it.

Cool. And the other groups should just keep a "primary purpose" of trying to help people.

bartender129 · 11-07-2005, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by FaeryQueen

Dude, you did that awhile ago.

LOL...now that was funny!

Dan · 11-07-2005, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by bartender129

Cool. And the other groups should just keep a "primary purpose" of trying to help people.

But they do.
You just need to dig for it sometimes, depending on your level of desperation.

FaeryQueen · 11-07-2005, 10:41 AM

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LOL...now that was funny! Bartender129

You're a good sport Bart.

Phinneas · 11-07-2005, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Dan

You just need to dig for it sometimes, depending on your level of desperation.

Exactly. When I was ready, I found it.

Y'all know my story. I am a drug addict who found recovery in AA. I have an AA sponsor who works the steps out of the NA Workbook with me in addition to working the program of AA. It works for me (and isn't that the point?).

My answer to you, Vic, is BOTH. And, I cordially invite you to discuss this conflict you are having with your SPONSOR.

--phinny

Gooch · 11-07-2005, 04:37 PM

I'm an addict who found Narcotics Anonymous through an AA New years eve party attended by some long haired, addicts wearing leather vests. For the first year of my pre recovery, I attended both fellowships. After I spent a year back out trying to use anything successfully, and some time in jail, I decided to just do what I needed to do to stay clean and the hell with what anyone else thought. I went to an nA meeting the day I got out of jail, and it was a couple years before I wentto an AA meeting again and that was to support a sponsee who chose to attend meetings of both fellowships. Just for the record I haven't heard from him in a long time but last I knew he was doing a 2 year bid.

My heart is in NA but I have friends and family all over the place. These days when I hear someone from AA share, the similarities of emotional, difficulty, the insanity, and the denial cut righ through any differences of terminology.

I goit a friend that says ... "pick a program, drive a stake in there and claim your place, because when the storm hits you wnat something to hang onto thats close. You don't want to have to get caught in the middle between shelters."

'If a storms brewing Vic, just grab on where you are and don;t worry about us over in teh other tent. We'll get by just fine and still welcome you when the weathers better.

11-06-2005, 09:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Chance JUST DO IT!! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Here Or There Posts: 7,398 Blog Entries: 10	Torn Between NA and AA OK I just don't know what to do here I am torn it feels like I don't know which one to focus on will I deny one addiction if I leave the other. I just posted on the AA forum yet I have always posted on the NA but yet it seem like I am going from one to the other. I have not been reading the NA for a while and now am really active in the AA program feel comfortable, yet I almost feel like a trader I don't know I should probably just stop I probably am not making a damn bit of sense..OK Love Vic __________________ With Love and Respect Vic With God and A Little Luck We won't have to use today

11-07-2005, 08:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
tyler Not all better, getting better Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: The Beautiful Inner Banks of NC Posts: 1,600 Blog Entries: 8	The primary difference is that AA focuses on Alcohol only, while NA focues on drugs, of which alcohol is included. The problem many run into, and it sounds like this may be an issue for vic here, is that AA, having been around for a lot longer has many more meetings and is more established in general. However some AA groups completely forbid any discussion of any drugs other than alcohol, thus making it difficult or uncomfortable for someone who has issues with alcohol and other drugs as well. I have been to other AA groups where other drugs are discussed openly with no problem, it really depends on the area and the individual group I think. The basic priciples behind both groups are essentially the same. Personally, vic, I dont' see the problem with going to both AA and NA if it helps you. It's not like the bloods and the crips!! My understanding is that drugs are your primary issue, so I would think you might be more comfortable with NA, but like I said it depends on what your local AA meetings are like. Bottom line is, do what works for you. Take care. __________________ Peace and Love, Tyler *"I used to do a little but a little wouldn't do it so a little got more and more. I just keep tryin' to get a little better, said a little better than before."* Mr. Brownstone G-n-R Heck is where people go who don't believe in Gosh

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11-06-2005, 09:40 PM	#2 (permalink)
Gooch Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: out there... Posts: 2,654	keep it simple Vic. Stick with what is working for you. Don't worry about being a traitor. As long as you stay straight your setting an example for recovery, no matter what room you get it. the thing that pisses me off most about this disease is that even after we find people we can relate to it still finds ways to try and isolate us from one another.

11-06-2005, 10:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
Time2Surrender Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Washington State Posts: 7,263 Blog Entries: 7	As usuall,well said Gooch. I'm gonna stick with NA myself.It seems to work for me.

11-07-2005, 07:40 AM	#5 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,710	Work your program with one sponsor. Don't matter where. The rest, is gravy

11-07-2005, 08:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
bartender129 learning Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Where I need to be Posts: 281	I have a question that is really going to expose my complete ignorance about 12 step groups, but other than the home group issue you describe, what are the differences between AA and NA? Perhaps a good analysis of them will help you decide which is more conducive to your journey.

11-07-2005, 09:23 AM	#8 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,710	Step one of AA states we were powerless over alcohol. Step one of NA states we were powerless over our addiction.

11-07-2005, 10:11 AM	#10 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,710	Well, there's the whole primary purpose thing, which is somewhat of a contentious issue at times in the rooms of AA, or at least, in my lived experience in those rooms, I should say. I've been in meetings where introducing one's self as an addict will raise the ire of longtimers, and I've also been in rooms where the longtimers don't give a chit 'bout what you call yourself. They see a life made unmamageable through the use and abuse of a substance, and believe the program of AA can help and want to share it.

11-07-2005, 04:37 PM	#18 (permalink)
Gooch Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: out there... Posts: 2,654	I'm an addict who found Narcotics Anonymous through an AA New years eve party attended by some long haired, addicts wearing leather vests. For the first year of my pre recovery, I attended both fellowships. After I spent a year back out trying to use anything successfully, and some time in jail, I decided to just do what I needed to do to stay clean and the hell with what anyone else thought. I went to an nA meeting the day I got out of jail, and it was a couple years before I wentto an AA meeting again and that was to support a sponsee who chose to attend meetings of both fellowships. Just for the record I haven't heard from him in a long time but last I knew he was doing a 2 year bid. My heart is in NA but I have friends and family all over the place. These days when I hear someone from AA share, the similarities of emotional, difficulty, the insanity, and the denial cut righ through any differences of terminology. I goit a friend that says ... "pick a program, drive a stake in there and claim your place, because when the storm hits you wnat something to hang onto thats close. You don't want to have to get caught in the middle between shelters." 'If a storms brewing Vic, just grab on where you are and don;t worry about us over in teh other tent. We'll get by just fine and still welcome you when the weathers better.

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