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08-07-2005, 06:48 AM

We love because it's the only true adventure.
--Nikki Giovanni

In loving, we meet ourselves. As we have become more honest, we no longer make excuses about our relationship problems. We can't blame our troubles on our partner. Our problems with love were often because we didn't know how to be close or we didn't dare to be.

When we let ourselves engage in this adventure, we meet many obstacles - things we can't control, and sometimes we want to quit right there. We have arguments and disappointments as well as good feelings. But what adventure is without difficulty or surprises? Part of the reason for choosing new experiences is to confront forces outside our control. A relationship is a dialogue. Only if we stay with it through the frustrations, express our deepest feelings openly, and listen to our partner, do we achieve a new level of understanding and confidence in the relationship. Then deeper levels also open within ourselves.

Today, I will let honesty guide me in this adventure of my love dialogue.

Touchstones

**Ann** · 08-07-2005, 10:07 AM

That's a beautiful post, Doug. Respect, honesty and trust, in ourselves first and shared with another is a beautiful thing.

Hugs
Ann

findinganewme · 08-07-2005, 11:56 AM

SHARING everything and allowing some space for perhaps different interests is what it's all about. HOWEVER, having said that though, the KEY element to LOVE, I believe, is COMMUNICATION ..... and that's where HONESTY comes in!

In addition I have found that most men have their heart well guarded and refuse to SHARE their feelings ..... afraid of being hurt perhaps ..... but if one does not take risks in life, then it's not really LIVING, now is it!

Now, don't curse me out guys! In all honesty, I believe there are men out there that believe in the same and love and yearn for that ULTIMATE 4-letter word!

NOW NOW ..... I meant LOVE! ROFLMAO! Sorry, I have a warped (but harmless) sense of humor)! I do believe there are men that are true romantics and who apply passion not only to their relationships but also to everything they do. AHHHHHHHH ..... PASSION ..... ain't it a wonderful thing!

Yes, I too, believe it starts with LOVING ourselves and having the confidence, self-esteem, believing in our self-worth before we can share and complement another for what I think is the most beautiful of EMOTIONS ..... LOVE, of course!

If only .......

Fill in the blank as you see fit!

Thanks Doug, for this thread ...... it truly reinforces what I believe men can be capable of ..... those that allow themselves to FEEL! Those that don't miss out on an AMAZING adventure!

Much love,
Maria

In memory of miracle · 08-07-2005, 12:15 PM

A relationship is a dialogue. Only if we stay with it through the frustrations, express our deepest feelings openly, and listen to our partner, do we achieve a new level of understanding and confidence in the relationship. Then deeper levels also open within ourselves
I like that...

findinganewme · 08-07-2005, 01:49 PM

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Originally Posted by miraclen2003

A relationship is a dialogue. Only if we stay with it through the frustrations, express our deepest feelings openly, and listen to our partner, do we achieve a new level of understanding and confidence in the relationship. Then deeper levels also open within ourselves
I like that...

AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

08-07-2005, 06:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
Doug Guest Posts: n/a	Love We love because it's the only true adventure. --Nikki Giovanni In loving, we meet ourselves. As we have become more honest, we no longer make excuses about our relationship problems. We can't blame our troubles on our partner. Our problems with love were often because we didn't know how to be close or we didn't dare to be. When we let ourselves engage in this adventure, we meet many obstacles - things we can't control, and sometimes we want to quit right there. We have arguments and disappointments as well as good feelings. But what adventure is without difficulty or surprises? Part of the reason for choosing new experiences is to confront forces outside our control. A relationship is a dialogue. Only if we stay with it through the frustrations, express our deepest feelings openly, and listen to our partner, do we achieve a new level of understanding and confidence in the relationship. Then deeper levels also open within ourselves. Today, I will let honesty guide me in this adventure of my love dialogue. Touchstones

08-07-2005, 10:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ann Sharing Our Light Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 15,148	That's a beautiful post, Doug. Respect, honesty and trust, in ourselves first and shared with another is a beautiful thing. Hugs Ann __________________ Somewhere between the gator swamp and the Taj Mahal there is a path, it may be hidden, overgrown or may blend in with the other surroundings, but it is there, it's your path and it is calling you.~Frankly~

08-07-2005, 12:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
In memory of miracle In Memory Of Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Connecticut. Posts: 3,740	A relationship is a dialogue. Only if we stay with it through the frustrations, express our deepest feelings openly, and listen to our partner, do we achieve a new level of understanding and confidence in the relationship. Then deeper levels also open within ourselves I like that... __________________ In Memory Of Teach only love...

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findinganewme old enough to know BETTER!!!!! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NY, NY Posts: 406	SHARING everything and allowing some space for perhaps different interests is what it's all about. HOWEVER, having said that though, the KEY element to LOVE, I believe, is COMMUNICATION ..... and that's where HONESTY comes in! In addition I have found that most men have their heart well guarded and refuse to SHARE their feelings ..... afraid of being hurt perhaps ..... but if one does not take risks in life, then it's not really LIVING, now is it! Now, don't curse me out guys! In all honesty, I believe there are men out there that believe in the same and love and yearn for that ULTIMATE 4-letter word! NOW NOW ..... I meant LOVE! ROFLMAO! Sorry, I have a warped (but harmless) sense of humor)! I do believe there are men that are true romantics and who apply passion not only to their relationships but also to everything they do. AHHHHHHHH ..... PASSION ..... ain't it a wonderful thing! Yes, I too, believe it starts with LOVING ourselves and having the confidence, self-esteem, believing in our self-worth before we can share and complement another for what I think is the most beautiful of EMOTIONS ..... LOVE, of course! If only ....... Fill in the blank as you see fit! Thanks Doug, for this thread ...... it truly reinforces what I believe men can be capable of ..... those that allow themselves to FEEL! Those that don't miss out on an AMAZING adventure! Much love, Maria

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