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angelgirl · 07-06-2005, 06:06 PM

Thought I'd share a problem I had when i first began in recovery, and I still have to work on today....

When I did my first treatment a couple of years ago, the people I was in treatment with would tease me for always hanging my head, and having a "" Little voice."" I was the cute little one... For as long as I can remember, but I didn't realize why people thought that.. Until they began to teased me, in treatment, and i really began to look at it.
I rarely looked up.. I knew Ihad low self esteem, but I guess I didn't realize how LOW it really was... When I spoke, people always had to say, "what, what, what did you say"??

Well, when I started my Intensive outpaitent treatment in April, when I had my one on one with my couselor, she told me the things I really needed to work on, and the 1st thing she said was, I needed to hold my head up, and speak loud enough for people to hear me....

You know it wasn't until then that I realized I even do that with my husband of 17 years!!!! That's pretty bad. So in group, she would constantly remind me. So one day, when my hubby and I were riding in the car, and it was like the 2nd time he said "what did you say, I can't hear you" , I then decided to tell him that everytime he can not hear me, he needs to remind me,,, because I think it became the "norm" for both him and I.. Him not hearing me, and me always repeating myself...

I am am trying to be constantly aware of my speaking, and if I am looking up when I talk.. I realize to now, how irritating it is for everyone around me to not hear me when I talk.

Just wanted to share that, too see if there are many of you that suffered that same thing. It can be a way of life, that you don't even realize, until someone points it out

Love ya all------- BECKY--- Lookin up, speaking loudly, well not to loud

jcw1964 · 07-06-2005, 06:17 PM

Becky
Thanks for sharing that. Keep up the good work.
Jeff

sloane2468 · 07-06-2005, 06:27 PM

and here's a Big (((((((((Hug))))))) for you!!

and you should be so very proud of yourself! It is a big thing to learn how to Stand Tall, and it's really great that you have support.

keep it up Becky

sloane

angelgirl · 07-06-2005, 07:06 PM

Thanks all

Love ya all!! Becky

angelgirl · 07-06-2005, 08:16 PM

bump

07-06-2005, 06:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
angelgirl You're never alone!! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,190	Thought I'd share Thought I'd share a problem I had when i first began in recovery, and I still have to work on today.... When I did my first treatment a couple of years ago, the people I was in treatment with would tease me for always hanging my head, and having a "" Little voice."" I was the cute little one... For as long as I can remember, but I didn't realize why people thought that.. Until they began to teased me, in treatment, and i really began to look at it. I rarely looked up.. I knew Ihad low self esteem, but I guess I didn't realize how LOW it really was... When I spoke, people always had to say, "what, what, what did you say"?? Well, when I started my Intensive outpaitent treatment in April, when I had my one on one with my couselor, she told me the things I really needed to work on, and the 1st thing she said was, I needed to hold my head up, and speak loud enough for people to hear me.... You know it wasn't until then that I realized I even do that with my husband of 17 years!!!! That's pretty bad. So in group, she would constantly remind me. So one day, when my hubby and I were riding in the car, and it was like the 2nd time he said "what did you say, I can't hear you" , I then decided to tell him that everytime he can not hear me, he needs to remind me,,, because I think it became the "norm" for both him and I.. Him not hearing me, and me always repeating myself... I am am trying to be constantly aware of my speaking, and if I am looking up when I talk.. I realize to now, how irritating it is for everyone around me to not hear me when I talk. Just wanted to share that, too see if there are many of you that suffered that same thing. It can be a way of life, that you don't even realize, until someone points it out Love ya all------- BECKY--- Lookin up, speaking loudly, well not to loud __________________ â„¢ Don't tell God how BIG your addiction is, tell your addiction, how BIG our GOD is!! Jesus is our teacher and he is our Savior, who takes our prayers and makes them his own. :praying

07-06-2005, 06:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
jcw1964 Let go and let God Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: illinois Posts: 116	Becky Thanks for sharing that. Keep up the good work. Jeff __________________ It is not important how short life is but how long eternity is!!!!

07-06-2005, 06:27 PM	#3 (permalink)
sloane2468 Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Nevada Posts: 41	Hi Becky and here's a Big (((((((((Hug))))))) for you!! and you should be so very proud of yourself! It is a big thing to learn how to Stand Tall, and it's really great that you have support. keep it up Becky sloane __________________ ~The invisible people, the ones we walk by every day, the ones we some time become~

07-06-2005, 07:06 PM	#4 (permalink)
angelgirl You're never alone!! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,190	Thanks all Love ya all!! Becky __________________ â„¢ Don't tell God how BIG your addiction is, tell your addiction, how BIG our GOD is!! Jesus is our teacher and he is our Savior, who takes our prayers and makes them his own. :praying

07-06-2005, 08:16 PM	#5 (permalink)
angelgirl You're never alone!! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,190	bump __________________ â„¢ Don't tell God how BIG your addiction is, tell your addiction, how BIG our GOD is!! Jesus is our teacher and he is our Savior, who takes our prayers and makes them his own. :praying

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