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Andy F · 04-27-2005, 01:18 PM

Ok

Here is an exercise for those interested.

The perfect day

Imagine you have a blank cheque/check. For one day you can have anything, be anything, do anything with anyone. Absolutely anything. This is your perfect day.

Would you sleep with Julia Roberts, George Clooney? or both? Where would you be? Would you be working? What type of work do you do?

Lots of detail and imagine your hearts desires. Close the thread, and take your time putting together your perfect day.

I will write what you are supposed to learn from this at the very bottom of this post. If you read the answer below before doing the exercise you will not be able to do it properly. You'll ruin it for yourself. Once you know why your doing this it will change how you approach it so stop and do it now.

read backwards

Have to supposed your think you goals the not and goals true your represent may this

CAPTAINZING2000 · 04-27-2005, 01:29 PM

Andy,

a perfect day is a N/W wind blowing at 10 to 15 knotts on a sail boat no clouds 80's temp low humidity and no time limit

Or just for the day, have all my kids home at once

My son's been at sea in the Persian Gulf for the past 6 months I haven't seen him in a year and a half. haven't seen my other daughter or grand daughters in over 5 months.

HE11 any day sober is a perfect day.

Don't have to have money, I just want to be happy and my family and friends be happy as well. That's all that matters

michaelj · 04-27-2005, 01:44 PM

Andy,

My perfect day is a bright clear crisp morning, getting out of a warm comfortable bed and having a cooked breakfast. Then a good hard hike up into the mountains alone with my thoughts. Back to sea level and a great evening at a superb restaurant with my family. Bed, food, mountains, family.....heaven on earth.
Michael

Gabe · 04-27-2005, 03:39 PM

Oh goodie, my true goals are the goals I think I have.
The moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter is aligned with Mars.
Can't post about my perfect day because parts of it are not rated PG-13.
I can only say that it involves a plane ticket, a certain someone and the beach.

Andy F · 04-27-2005, 03:51 PM

Hey Gabe

I can't share all of mine either. lol.

**Ann** · 04-27-2005, 04:53 PM

My perfect day would be any day, rain or shine, that my son would call and tell me that he was back in recovery and trying once again to get clean and stay clean.

Not very imaginative, but it's my honest answer. I can't think of any day more perfect than that.

Hugs
Ann

Gabe · 04-27-2005, 05:24 PM

I think that's a great perfect day...Ann

I'm looking forward to hearing about it.

**Ann** · 04-27-2005, 05:36 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gabe

I think that's a great perfect day...Ann

I'm looking forward to hearing about it.

Not as much as I'm looking forward to telling you about it.

Faith and prayers, that's what it's all about.

Hugs
Ann

Tapery · 04-28-2005, 06:43 AM

Ok, I am in the mood to daydream. My perfect day, just for me, would be floating down a cannel on my own barge through interesting landscapes and small towns. I would have a pleasant but un-intrusive crew so I would not have to do anything I didn’t choose to do. I would wave to the people I saw, listen to music or not, take photographs or not, get out of the barge and walk along the path next to the cannel as long I wanted, etc. I would have a delicious breakfast of fruit, cheese, bread and coffee on the barge but would stop at small interesting restaurants next to the cannel for lunch, pastry and coffee or tea, and for dinner alfresco. I would sleep on the barge to the gentle rocking of the water and end my day (24 hours) with a perfect sunrise.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 04-28-2005, 08:19 AM

Nice Thread Andy,

kind of interesting to hear what every has to say about what a perfect day can be for them.

Just to be alive to experience everything

Kahlia · 04-28-2005, 08:56 AM

My perfect day would be that my WHOLE family would acall me and tell me that they are all in rehab and getting sober.....I pray for them daily and miss them but cannot have anything to do with them as they aer all so dysfunctional....and maybe a little trip to Greece.....Kahlia

bruno123 · 04-28-2005, 09:34 AM

Waking up and just being able to roll over and go back to sleep...sounds good right now, but I know I'm not so easily sated.....the perfect day is yet to come to be shared with someone I've yet to meet....a Spring day would be nice, too...it is snowing..again....
Love, B

nutz · 04-28-2005, 10:31 AM

realisticly
I just hope nothing crazy happens.
I try to suit up, show up and be in the moment,
do or experince whats in front of me.
I can't even get this right half of the time.

Holy schmoly andy !
my imaginations ???

**Phinneas** · 04-28-2005, 10:37 AM

K- My perfect day... I get up early and spend time in prayer and meditation, workout and then spend the day at a job that I love, doing challenging, meaningful work. I come home to my dogs and a special someone. We talk about our days and flirt and laugh, have dinner and watch a movie snuggled together on the couch. Later we take the dogs for a long walk in the moonlight before bed. After making love, we drift off to a peaceful, restful sleep.

*sigh*

--phinny

**Phinneas** · 04-28-2005, 10:38 AM

OK, Andy. Would you elaborate on the meaning of this exercise...?

Andy F · 04-28-2005, 10:43 AM

Hi Phinny

The meaning is at the very foot of the first post. But before you look, have you enough detail to your perfect day, ie do you know what that perfect job was?

**Phinneas** · 04-28-2005, 10:54 AM

Yeah, I do. About the job, anyway. The special someone is a bit harder to picture.

- lol

I did look and... um, er... ah... I still don't get it. What's the difference between true goals vs. the ones I think I am supposed to have? I have some ideas, but I'd like to hear you thoughts.

--phinny

Andy F · 04-28-2005, 11:00 AM

Ok, I'll PM you in 2 minutes because anyone who reads my answer here and then goes up to do the exercise will have it spoiled.

CAPTAINZING2000 · 04-28-2005, 11:20 AM

Enlighten me old British one

Andy F · 04-28-2005, 11:26 AM

bloody hell...ok

Dan · 04-28-2005, 11:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Andy F

bloody hell...ok

CAPTAINZING2000 · 04-28-2005, 11:50 AM

I like the way you talk

nutz · 04-28-2005, 01:08 PM

I'm still lost
so ...what hell is my true goal ?
holy crap ....get lost in my imaginations all the time???

Andy F · 04-28-2005, 01:51 PM

I have PM'd you Nutz.

quercusalba · 04-28-2005, 02:27 PM

Anything, huh? The key thing in the equation you offer is “be anything.” I think if I had my fantasy, it would be thus: I am living in an undeveloped country, somewhere in the world (anywhere, really).. I am a physician, and I am working to save people. I am working passionately to make better the lives of people that I work with – giving vaccines, teaching hygiene, good nutrition, good mental health… and I am helping these people to know their own worth, and the worth of their children. To take care of their own environment. To respect the animals that share their lives. I would be on top of the world if I could be right there, in that place.

You said perfect, though… so, to make it perfect… I would have the love of my heart there with me, and he would have the same goals I would.

I guess that’s it. That’s pretty much my fantasy world.

04-27-2005, 01:18 PM	#1 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	Perfect day Ok Here is an exercise for those interested. The perfect day Imagine you have a blank cheque/check. For one day you can have anything, be anything, do anything with anyone. Absolutely anything. This is your perfect day. Would you sleep with Julia Roberts, George Clooney? or both? Where would you be? Would you be working? What type of work do you do? Lots of detail and imagine your hearts desires. Close the thread, and take your time putting together your perfect day. I will write what you are supposed to learn from this at the very bottom of this post. If you read the answer below before doing the exercise you will not be able to do it properly. You'll ruin it for yourself. Once you know why your doing this it will change how you approach it so stop and do it now. read backwards Have to supposed your think you goals the not and goals true your represent may this Last edited by Andy F; 04-27-2005 at 04:13 PM.

04-27-2005, 01:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,333	Andy, a perfect day is a N/W wind blowing at 10 to 15 knotts on a sail boat no clouds 80's temp low humidity and no time limit Or just for the day, have all my kids home at once My son's been at sea in the Persian Gulf for the past 6 months I haven't seen him in a year and a half. haven't seen my other daughter or grand daughters in over 5 months. HE11 any day sober is a perfect day. Don't have to have money, I just want to be happy and my family and friends be happy as well. That's all that matters __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

04-27-2005, 04:53 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ann Sharing Our Light Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 15,164	My perfect day would be any day, rain or shine, that my son would call and tell me that he was back in recovery and trying once again to get clean and stay clean. Not very imaginative, but it's my honest answer. I can't think of any day more perfect than that. Hugs Ann __________________ Somewhere between the gator swamp and the Taj Mahal there is a path, it may be hidden, overgrown or may blend in with the other surroundings, but it is there, it's your path and it is calling you.~Frankly~

04-28-2005, 06:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
Tapery Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: USA Posts: 56	Ok, I am in the mood to daydream. My perfect day, just for me, would be floating down a cannel on my own barge through interesting landscapes and small towns. I would have a pleasant but un-intrusive crew so I would not have to do anything I didn’t choose to do. I would wave to the people I saw, listen to music or not, take photographs or not, get out of the barge and walk along the path next to the cannel as long I wanted, etc. I would have a delicious breakfast of fruit, cheese, bread and coffee on the barge but would stop at small interesting restaurants next to the cannel for lunch, pastry and coffee or tea, and for dinner alfresco. I would sleep on the barge to the gentle rocking of the water and end my day (24 hours) with a perfect sunrise. __________________ Never turn your back on the ocean.

04-28-2005, 08:19 AM	#10 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,333	Nice Thread Andy, kind of interesting to hear what every has to say about what a perfect day can be for them. Just to be alive to experience everything __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

04-27-2005, 01:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
michaelj Michael Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: London England Posts: 292	Andy, My perfect day is a bright clear crisp morning, getting out of a warm comfortable bed and having a cooked breakfast. Then a good hard hike up into the mountains alone with my thoughts. Back to sea level and a great evening at a superb restaurant with my family. Bed, food, mountains, family.....heaven on earth. Michael

04-27-2005, 03:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,959	Oh goodie, my true goals are the goals I think I have. The moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter is aligned with Mars. Can't post about my perfect day because parts of it are not rated PG-13. I can only say that it involves a plane ticket, a certain someone and the beach.

04-27-2005, 03:51 PM	#5 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	Hey Gabe I can't share all of mine either. lol.

04-27-2005, 05:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,959	I think that's a great perfect day...Ann I'm looking forward to hearing about it.

04-28-2005, 08:56 AM	#11 (permalink)
Kahlia goin' to sane land............ Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Some dusty road????? Posts: 456	MY perfect day..... My perfect day would be that my WHOLE family would acall me and tell me that they are all in rehab and getting sober.....I pray for them daily and miss them but cannot have anything to do with them as they aer all so dysfunctional....and maybe a little trip to Greece.....Kahlia __________________ Even PARANOID people have REAL enemies.........from a book I read somewhere in my 3rd yr rotation getting my master's degree....Kahlia

04-28-2005, 09:34 AM	#12 (permalink)
bruno123 Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: California Posts: 28	Waking up and just being able to roll over and go back to sleep...sounds good right now, but I know I'm not so easily sated.....the perfect day is yet to come to be shared with someone I've yet to meet....a Spring day would be nice, too...it is snowing..again.... Love, B

04-28-2005, 10:31 AM	#13 (permalink)
nutz doing the inside job Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: planet happy Posts: 545	realisticly I just hope nothing crazy happens. I try to suit up, show up and be in the moment, do or experince whats in front of me. I can't even get this right half of the time. Holy schmoly andy ! my imaginations ??? __________________ practice, practice, practice What had been the source of devastation became the seed of a new me.

04-28-2005, 10:37 AM	#14 (permalink)
Phinneas Forum Leader Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,596	K- My perfect day... I get up early and spend time in prayer and meditation, workout and then spend the day at a job that I love, doing challenging, meaningful work. I come home to my dogs and a special someone. We talk about our days and flirt and laugh, have dinner and watch a movie snuggled together on the couch. Later we take the dogs for a long walk in the moonlight before bed. After making love, we drift off to a peaceful, restful sleep. sigh --phinny __________________ “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~Marianne Williamson

04-28-2005, 10:38 AM	#15 (permalink)
Phinneas Forum Leader Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,596	OK, Andy. Would you elaborate on the meaning of this exercise...? __________________ “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~Marianne Williamson

04-28-2005, 10:43 AM	#16 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	Hi Phinny The meaning is at the very foot of the first post. But before you look, have you enough detail to your perfect day, ie do you know what that perfect job was?

04-28-2005, 10:54 AM	#17 (permalink)
Phinneas Forum Leader Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: fumbling towards ecstasy Posts: 2,596	Yeah, I do. About the job, anyway. The special someone is a bit harder to picture. - lol I did look and... um, er... ah... I still don't get it. What's the difference between true goals vs. the ones I think I am supposed to have? I have some ideas, but I'd like to hear you thoughts. --phinny __________________ “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” ~Marianne Williamson

04-28-2005, 11:00 AM	#18 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	Ok, I'll PM you in 2 minutes because anyone who reads my answer here and then goes up to do the exercise will have it spoiled.

04-28-2005, 11:20 AM	#19 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,333	Enlighten me old British one __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

04-28-2005, 11:26 AM	#20 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	bloody hell...ok

04-28-2005, 11:50 AM	#22 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 ZING Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 5,333	I like the way you talk __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD

04-28-2005, 01:08 PM	#23 (permalink)
nutz doing the inside job Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: planet happy Posts: 545	I'm still lost so ...what hell is my true goal ? holy crap ....get lost in my imaginations all the time??? __________________ practice, practice, practice What had been the source of devastation became the seed of a new me.

04-28-2005, 01:51 PM	#24 (permalink)
Andy F Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: London Posts: 451	I have PM'd you Nutz.

04-28-2005, 02:27 PM	#25 (permalink)
quercusalba Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Kingston, NY Posts: 391	Anything, huh? The key thing in the equation you offer is “be anything.” I think if I had my fantasy, it would be thus: I am living in an undeveloped country, somewhere in the world (anywhere, really).. I am a physician, and I am working to save people. I am working passionately to make better the lives of people that I work with – giving vaccines, teaching hygiene, good nutrition, good mental health… and I am helping these people to know their own worth, and the worth of their children. To take care of their own environment. To respect the animals that share their lives. I would be on top of the world if I could be right there, in that place. You said perfect, though… so, to make it perfect… I would have the love of my heart there with me, and he would have the same goals I would. I guess that’s it. That’s pretty much my fantasy world. __________________ "The lure of the distant and the difficult is deceptive. The great opportunity is where you are." --John Burroughs

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