'Recovery is the greatest gift of all'

The holidays are a time of giving and receiving, exchanging good wishes, and looking forward to a brighter year ahead.

But for someone trapped in a cycle of addiction to alcohol and other drugs, the holidays can be a nightmare. Family arguments and the financial chaos that often results from addiction can make the holidays a time to dread rather than cherish. That is exactly what many people caught in addiction do--they run as fast as they can from this time of year, because facing it honestly is too painful.

This time of year is also one of renewal. For those who have tasted what recovery has to offer, the holidays may conjure up painful images of the past. They also offer the chance of memories filled with hope and personal discovery.

Mark is a recovering alcoholic who now sees the holidays as a time of gratitude. But it wasn't always that way.

"I've got 10 years of sobriety," Mark said. "That first day I walked into an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting was the lowest of my life. It was the first week of January and the holidays were mercifully over. It had been another year of promising to buy gifts for family and friends, and another year when I didn't. My drinking came before anything else.

"I wasn't very good at sharing personal problems. So every holiday I'd show up at my family's door and do my best for a week to hide the shame I felt. Leaving brought great relief.

"Sobriety has brought me many gifts; gifts that have been hard won. My self-respect, for one. It started coming back as I listened to people at AA meetings share stories nearly identical to mine. It was good to know I wasn't alone.

"But the best gift is the ability to have a healthy relationship--something not possible when I was drinking. Within the past year I've met and married the most wonderful woman in the world. I never thought this could happen to me.

"I look forward to the holidays now. I have done my best to make amends to those I hurt during my drinking years. The adults in my family still don't acknowledge my alcoholism. But I do talk to my nieces and nephews about it, and I'm gratified by their love and support.

"Recovery is the greatest gift of all I have ever received. It gave me my life back. No other gift can hope to do that. What I enjoy most about the holidays now is that I get to celebrate that gift and realize that nothing in my life would be possible without it. I've also had the privilege to speak to a number of groups and tell my story. Every time I do I multiply that gift many times. I am truly grateful."

Mark's story can be told over and over. The characters and circumstances may change, but it's still the same story of wellness, personal growth, hope and gratitude, no matter who's telling it.

Maybe you or someone you love knows the first part of Mark's story all too well. There's no better time than now to change and stop the pain. You don't have to hit bottom to get help. There is hope and there are many helpful, confidential sources who can tell you about recovery opportunities. AA and Narcotics Anonymous chapters in your area can help. Many employee assistance programs and county social services offer 24-hour help lines that can give guidance. Or call a chemical dependency treatment center near you.

Help is also available for family members who face another painful year with an addicted loved one. Al-Anon and Nar-Anon are mutual-help support groups for loved ones of alcoholics and drug addicts, respectively. They help members care for themselves. Many treatment centers offer special family programs to help people cope during their loved one's disease.

[Ann]

Prayers for everyone who struggles on either side of this disease. May the light of recovery shine on every one.

Hugs
Ann

[marteen]

Yes, recovery truly is the greatest gift of all for both the addict
and their loved ones.

I pray that recovery is on the horizon for everyone!

Hugs,

Marteen

[octoberbabye]

"No other kind of bankruptcy is like this one." "Our admissions of personal powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which happy and purposeful lives may be built."(Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pg.21)
How wonderful that now each of us can live life, one day at a time. Pray for the still suffering alcoholic who is either in and out of the rooms. Prayer is the best thing you can do for another person.
Janet