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lonlion · 12-03-2004, 07:03 PM

Hi guys. I read something in a book last night that totally hit me. I just wanted to share it with my friends here at SR.

The definition of fear is False Expectations Appearing Real

Think about all the things we fear....

Fear of rejection they say is mankinds # 1 fear
Fear of failure
Fear of being hurt
Fear of not being good enough
Fear of hurting someone
Fear of success (yes thats actually a fear)
Fear of losing someone
Fear of the truth
Fear of change

OK people, here's the deal. Let's try to stop operating our lives based on fear. Fear imoblizes us. It prevents us from taking necessary action. If we start to look at the things we don't want to see, then that is a step in conquering our fears. Only by facing them can we deal with them. Otherwise they continue to be a monkey on our backs.
In the definition above notice it says that they are false expectations....appearing real. Sometimes we truly make mountains out of molehills.

Perhaps if we truly believe that we have a Higher Power watching out for us we can eliminate some of our fears. We may say we have faith, but are we truly living our lives in accord with complete faith? If we try to perceive ourselves as more spiritual beings rather than letting the worldly cares of our human existence overtake us, I believe it will relieve us of unnecessary fears and stress.
Prayer is powerful and so often we neglect it.

Thanks for letting me share
My thoughts and prayers go out to each and every one of you
Love Diana

Cadence57 · 12-04-2004, 06:33 AM

Thanks Diana,
I needed to read that today!

Hadenuff · 12-04-2004, 08:00 AM

hi,
Thanks for sharing.
H

**Ann** · 12-04-2004, 08:54 AM

The only antidote to Fear I ever found was Faith. I can't live in both at the same time, so as long as I hang on to my faith, even blind faith, then fear has no place to rest in my heart.

Thanks for posting this. I need the reminder.

Hugs
Ann

pumuckl · 08-28-2005, 01:07 PM

I don't know why this bothers me, but the definition of fear is not "false sexpectations appearing real." According to the American Heritage Dictionary, the definition of fear is a feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or imminence of danger.

Someone made that other one up because it happens to fit nicely. Just because the words start with the letters that spell "fear" doesn't mean it is true.

Gabe · 08-28-2005, 01:09 PM

"Sexpectations"?
Ooo Pum, Sigmund would have a field day with that one.

Being Honest · 08-28-2005, 04:30 PM

Thanks Diana for posting that...I really needed to hear that today!

BH

Phinneas · 08-28-2005, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lonlion

Perhaps if we truly believe that we have a Higher Power watching out for us we can eliminate some of our fears. We may say we have faith, but are we truly living our lives in accord with complete faith?

Once again, Diana, you hit exacty where I'm at dead on. I've had what I call this "wall of fear" right in front of me for awhile now. I feel it physically even. And it's not just holding me back, I am paralyzed.

I just read in a book yesterday- what would you do if you were not afraid? Wow. That question hit my right between the eyes. So, I am going to carry that question around with me and when the fear hits, do it anyway. I do have faith. I am going to grab onto that faith and walk through my fears.

hugs,

phinny

Hopefloats · 08-28-2005, 05:48 PM

"sexpectations"..Bless you Pum

I needed a big smile before bed!

On Fear, I try very hard to not allow fear to overcome my life. Praying is my antidote to fear.
Hopefloats

12-03-2004, 07:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
lonlion Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 423	Definition of Fear Hi guys. I read something in a book last night that totally hit me. I just wanted to share it with my friends here at SR. The definition of fear is False Expectations Appearing Real Think about all the things we fear.... Fear of rejection they say is mankinds # 1 fear Fear of failure Fear of being hurt Fear of not being good enough Fear of hurting someone Fear of success (yes thats actually a fear) Fear of losing someone Fear of the truth Fear of change OK people, here's the deal. Let's try to stop operating our lives based on fear. Fear imoblizes us. It prevents us from taking necessary action. If we start to look at the things we don't want to see, then that is a step in conquering our fears. Only by facing them can we deal with them. Otherwise they continue to be a monkey on our backs. In the definition above notice it says that they are false expectations....appearing real. Sometimes we truly make mountains out of molehills. Perhaps if we truly believe that we have a Higher Power watching out for us we can eliminate some of our fears. We may say we have faith, but are we truly living our lives in accord with complete faith? If we try to perceive ourselves as more spiritual beings rather than letting the worldly cares of our human existence overtake us, I believe it will relieve us of unnecessary fears and stress. Prayer is powerful and so often we neglect it. Thanks for letting me share My thoughts and prayers go out to each and every one of you Love Diana __________________ WHEN WE SPEND TOO MUCH TIME LOOKING IN THE REAR VIEW MIRROR, IT TAKES OUR FOCUS OFF THE ROAD AHEAD, AND WE CAN CRASH

12-04-2004, 06:33 AM	#2 (permalink)
Cadence57 Barn Goddess Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Southern NJ Posts: 250	Thanks Diana, I needed to read that today! __________________ ~Marti~ Bless the moment, Trust yourself and Expect the best Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty & well preserved body -- but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming *"WOW -- WHAT A RIDE!!!"*

12-04-2004, 08:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,104	The only antidote to Fear I ever found was Faith. I can't live in both at the same time, so as long as I hang on to my faith, even blind faith, then fear has no place to rest in my heart. Thanks for posting this. I need the reminder. Hugs Ann __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

08-28-2005, 01:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
pumuckl Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 33	No it isn't I don't know why this bothers me, but the definition of fear is not "false sexpectations appearing real." According to the American Heritage Dictionary, the definition of fear is a feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or imminence of danger. Someone made that other one up because it happens to fit nicely. Just because the words start with the letters that spell "fear" doesn't mean it is true. __________________ All the rusted signs we ignore throughout our lives Choosing the shiny ones instead --Pearl Jam

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12-04-2004, 08:00 AM	#3 (permalink)
Hadenuff Member Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USA Posts: 123	hi, Thanks for sharing. H

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Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,955	"Sexpectations"? Ooo Pum, Sigmund would have a field day with that one.

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Being Honest Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 3	Thanks Diana for posting that...I really needed to hear that today! BH

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Hopefloats Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: With Good Spirit Posts: 378	"sexpectations"..Bless you Pum I needed a big smile before bed! On Fear, I try very hard to not allow fear to overcome my life. Praying is my antidote to fear. Hopefloats

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