Dealing with Resentments -- Resentment Level
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Resentful thinking I get a lot of, especially during stressful family interactions. still learning how to allow the toxic nests of these thoughts go completely and I'm good at holding things and turning it in on myself.
Time alone to relax, recharge & re-adjust allowing the mind to do what it does and accept that I still have a long way to go before I'm under full control.
Nice thread MMB
Time alone to relax, recharge & re-adjust allowing the mind to do what it does and accept that I still have a long way to go before I'm under full control.
Nice thread MMB
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Resentment level may be a process that takes time.
I think back to my ex wife.
What a rough unloving one at the time she was.
After our divorce my resentment level was close to 10 for a very long time.
I started praying for her to have a happy life.
Years down the road my resentment level towards her stayed low 1 - 2.
For many, many years now it has been at 0.
Saw her at my daughters wedding a couple of years back
we truly enjoyed each others company and had a great time together.
She and my current wife even did the girl dance thing together.
That was very warming for my heart watching those two.
This morning (another issue) resentment level hit a 1.
I have learned how to do fast work on that today -- dropped to .25 in no time.
A blessed day wished for all,
M-Bob
I think back to my ex wife.
What a rough unloving one at the time she was.
After our divorce my resentment level was close to 10 for a very long time.
I started praying for her to have a happy life.
Years down the road my resentment level towards her stayed low 1 - 2.
For many, many years now it has been at 0.
Saw her at my daughters wedding a couple of years back
we truly enjoyed each others company and had a great time together.
She and my current wife even did the girl dance thing together.
That was very warming for my heart watching those two.
This morning (another issue) resentment level hit a 1.
I have learned how to do fast work on that today -- dropped to .25 in no time.
A blessed day wished for all,
M-Bob
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Originally Posted by Breighz 
I was at a five 2 days ago. Instead of "reacting" I prayed. I talked to a friend about it. I've let it go. What a relief that is.
Day 34
Day 34
Wow -- family members can sure bring on some resentments.
Big family blow out last week at my son's house.
Not directed at me but, oh how we get drawn in at times.
For a few days I was fighting with a 3 to 6 resentment level.
Running a 1 or 2 now I think.
A nice sober day wished for all,
M-Bob
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Oh yeah... family members and pushing buttons.
Never liked my brother's wife. It's all about the money. Funny thing is they never earned it. The big bucks came from the wife kissing the ass of a relative for years. When the relative died the wife was in the will. Apparently the deceased relative was quite loaded. Worth millions.
Now my brothers wife is screwing up the kids. Heaven help the son if he doesn't measure up to her lofty expectations.
Fortunately my brother, sister and I live in different states. We don't have to interact that much.
Never liked my brother's wife. It's all about the money. Funny thing is they never earned it. The big bucks came from the wife kissing the ass of a relative for years. When the relative died the wife was in the will. Apparently the deceased relative was quite loaded. Worth millions.
Now my brothers wife is screwing up the kids. Heaven help the son if he doesn't measure up to her lofty expectations.
Fortunately my brother, sister and I live in different states. We don't have to interact that much.
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Originally Posted by Stronger2017
I was at an 8 about 20 minutes ago when I was walking somewhere and ruminating😡. Now probably a 3. Thanks for giving me something to think about.
Good job with your dropping from an 8 to a 3..
MB
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Good thread. I'm in early sobriety, which is when I've noticed my resentment levels are at their worst.
I have lots of resentment towards my ex-wife the past few days, but it's gone down slightly each day as I calm down in general. It was pretty darn near 10 yesterday morning.
I have lots of resentment towards my ex-wife the past few days, but it's gone down slightly each day as I calm down in general. It was pretty darn near 10 yesterday morning.
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In AA they call resentments the
#1 offender.
As much as I would like to,
I cannot argue with that.
I have found that acknowledging my resentments and then doing my best to work them out of me with God's help at many times is what's best for me (and others).
M-Bob
#1 offender.
As much as I would like to,
I cannot argue with that.
I have found that acknowledging my resentments and then doing my best to work them out of me with God's help at many times is what's best for me (and others).
M-Bob
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Resentments not too bad today as it was a glorious day that I could spend with my family. An echo of yesterday's 8 (now maybe a 4) at times. It's my biggie that I have to let go but also the most complicated😣.
I actually heard a nice quote from the Dalai Lama today: "When you think everything is someone else's fault, you suffer a lot. When you realize that everything only springs from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy." I probably need to reflect on that.
Good night🙂
I actually heard a nice quote from the Dalai Lama today: "When you think everything is someone else's fault, you suffer a lot. When you realize that everything only springs from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy." I probably need to reflect on that.
Good night🙂
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