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ChrisMan · 08-13-2004, 06:59 AM

Hi, I'm Chris, and I am new here. I just wanted to say hello.

I am recovering from sexual addiction and I thought a good place to start would be this general forum. It is good to be here.

I have ten days of sobriety which is not too bad. It could be better, but I used to get obsessed about sobriety a lot (how many months do I have, how many weeks do I have). I would end up losing my sobriety by obsessing about it so much.

Now I am trying to live in the present moment. Sobriety can be lived only in the present moment, because I can't live in the past (it no longer exists) nor in the future (it doesn't exist yet). So I am really trying to live in the here and now.

That's where I am at right now. Hope to make some new friends here!

2stop · 08-13-2004, 08:57 AM

Welcome to SR!! So glad you found us..I too am like you..I stay in today....time clean does not matter to me..as long as right now, this moment I am doing the right thing and facing life on life's terms. Post wherever you like, there is lots of awesome support here.

KelKel · 08-13-2004, 03:13 PM

Hi Chris
Glad you found us and welcome.
There is alot of support here and we are all doing one day at a time.

Boots · 08-13-2004, 04:21 PM

Welcome!
Yes! One day at a time...one hour at a time...one minute at a time. I really appreciate the Here and Now. What do we have, if not this very moment? I miss out on so much that is going on right now, when my thoughts are whirling around what I did yesterday or what I might do tomorrow.
Every moment adds up to a constructive, clean day.
At one point in my life, a few years back, my closest sober friends were all wrapped up in everything but today. I was planning on getting another tattoo, so guess what I had put on my upper arm? HERE AND NOW. A little drastic, maybe? It was that or "death to you m#th#r@ck*r." Just kidding. I'm really a nice person. Just a little into levity.
Being in the here and now, keeps me mindful of my motivations and the motivations of others. It unclutters my path and brings hope into my life.
Good luck.
Boots

ChrisMan · 08-13-2004, 05:32 PM

Thanks everybody. I feel a lot of support already!

It will be fun to explore the different options here.

Is this particular forum (General) the best one to post on if one is recovering from sexual addiction?

Boots, I've been actually thinking along your lines with the tatoo. One day I'm gonna get one, and, quite frankly, yours sounds like a great idea.

Drastic? Sure. But I think I did more drastic things when acting out. :beerchug:

Stoic · 08-14-2004, 07:06 AM

This is as good a place as any, Chris, and we're glad you're here. There's no special place for sexual addiction here, but I suspect a number of people here have struggled with internet/sex addiction as well as alcoholism, etc. All addictions have certain things in common, and this is a great place for working on those things.

ChrisMan · 08-14-2004, 01:24 PM

Thanks, Stoic. You are right -- there are many commonalities among various addictions. There's a great sense of sharing and understanding in these threads.

It's great to be here!

08-13-2004, 06:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
ChrisMan Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 398	New here and saying Hello! Hi, I'm Chris, and I am new here. I just wanted to say hello. I am recovering from sexual addiction and I thought a good place to start would be this general forum. It is good to be here. I have ten days of sobriety which is not too bad. It could be better, but I used to get obsessed about sobriety a lot (how many months do I have, how many weeks do I have). I would end up losing my sobriety by obsessing about it so much. Now I am trying to live in the present moment. Sobriety can be lived only in the present moment, because I can't live in the past (it no longer exists) nor in the future (it doesn't exist yet). So I am really trying to live in the here and now. That's where I am at right now. Hope to make some new friends here!

08-13-2004, 08:57 AM	#2 (permalink)
2stop ~Author of My Life~ Join Date: May 2003 Location: Doing what I thought I couldn't.... Posts: 4,794	Welcome to SR!! So glad you found us..I too am like you..I stay in today....time clean does not matter to me..as long as right now, this moment I am doing the right thing and facing life on life's terms. Post wherever you like, there is lots of awesome support here. __________________ Many Hugs and Hope too, Tammie "Think of all the beauty still left around you and BE HAPPY." ~Anne Frank~ "Things do not change, WE change." ~Henry David Thoreau~

08-13-2004, 04:21 PM	#4 (permalink)
Boots Boots Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: West Bend, WI Posts: 11	Hi Chris Welcome! Yes! One day at a time...one hour at a time...one minute at a time. I really appreciate the Here and Now. What do we have, if not this very moment? I miss out on so much that is going on right now, when my thoughts are whirling around what I did yesterday or what I might do tomorrow. Every moment adds up to a constructive, clean day. At one point in my life, a few years back, my closest sober friends were all wrapped up in everything but today. I was planning on getting another tattoo, so guess what I had put on my upper arm? HERE AND NOW. A little drastic, maybe? It was that or "death to you m#th#r@ck*r." Just kidding. I'm really a nice person. Just a little into levity. Being in the here and now, keeps me mindful of my motivations and the motivations of others. It unclutters my path and brings hope into my life. Good luck. Boots __________________ Boots

08-14-2004, 07:06 AM	#6 (permalink)
Stoic Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Illinois Posts: 51	This is as good a place as any, Chris, and we're glad you're here. There's no special place for sexual addiction here, but I suspect a number of people here have struggled with internet/sex addiction as well as alcoholism, etc. All addictions have certain things in common, and this is a great place for working on those things. __________________ Stoic

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08-13-2004, 03:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
KelKel Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert Posts: 2,307	Hi Chris Glad you found us and welcome. There is alot of support here and we are all doing one day at a time.

08-13-2004, 05:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
ChrisMan Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 398	Thanks everybody. I feel a lot of support already! It will be fun to explore the different options here. Is this particular forum (General) the best one to post on if one is recovering from sexual addiction? Boots, I've been actually thinking along your lines with the tatoo. One day I'm gonna get one, and, quite frankly, yours sounds like a great idea. Drastic? Sure. But I think I did more drastic things when acting out. :beerchug:

08-14-2004, 01:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
ChrisMan Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 398	Thanks, Stoic. You are right -- there are many commonalities among various addictions. There's a great sense of sharing and understanding in these threads. It's great to be here!

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