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**Ann** · 06-26-2007, 03:06 AM

You will never solve your problems by getting other people to change. The way to move beyond whatever is holding you back is to make positive changes within yourself.

The problem is not the particular situation you are in. The problem is the way you interpret and relate to that situation.

The problem is not the way you are treated by others. The problem is the way you allow the actions of others to affect you.

The problem is not what has happened in the past. The problem is that you're letting it continue to hold you back.

Take complete responsibility for a problem, and suddenly you are ninety percent of the distance toward solving it. For when you truly take responsibility, you gain real and powerful control.

Fully accept that it is up to you to get where you choose to go. And you'll find everything necessary to make it so.

-- Ralph Marston

**Ann** · 06-26-2007, 03:13 AM

I have choices how I let a problem affect me. Most times, how something affects me IS the problem.

The behaviour of others belongs to them, I don't have to take ownership. And if bad behaviour is directed at me, I don't have to stick around and allow that to happen. I can hang up, take a walk, not answer or do whatever I choose to take myself to a better place of respect and self-worth.

When I choose to stop reacting to others and instead pause and take time to "act" with my best interests in mind, my path becomes more peaceful. I have a choice - who knew?

Hugs

06-26-2007, 03:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,204	Up to You You will never solve your problems by getting other people to change. The way to move beyond whatever is holding you back is to make positive changes within yourself. The problem is not the particular situation you are in. The problem is the way you interpret and relate to that situation. The problem is not the way you are treated by others. The problem is the way you allow the actions of others to affect you. The problem is not what has happened in the past. The problem is that you're letting it continue to hold you back. Take complete responsibility for a problem, and suddenly you are ninety percent of the distance toward solving it. For when you truly take responsibility, you gain real and powerful control. Fully accept that it is up to you to get where you choose to go. And you'll find everything necessary to make it so. -- Ralph Marston __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

06-26-2007, 03:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,204	I have choices how I let a problem affect me. Most times, how something affects me IS the problem. The behaviour of others belongs to them, I don't have to take ownership. And if bad behaviour is directed at me, I don't have to stick around and allow that to happen. I can hang up, take a walk, not answer or do whatever I choose to take myself to a better place of respect and self-worth. When I choose to stop reacting to others and instead pause and take time to "act" with my best interests in mind, my path becomes more peaceful. I have a choice - who knew? Hugs __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

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