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teke · 05-12-2006, 09:27 AM

is this fact or myth and if so what is the mindset? all comments welcome

**Done-With-It** · 05-12-2006, 09:41 AM

Didn't do anything for me, but crystal meth is widely used in the gay men's community for sex.

Buzz Kilowatt · 05-12-2006, 09:46 AM

Didn't quite understand your post . . . are you trying to relate drug abuse to self-abuse?

;-)

Buzz

teke · 05-12-2006, 09:52 AM

thanks buzz, thats a good answer,got more?

Buzz Kilowatt · 05-12-2006, 10:04 AM

Drug use is a behavior. Sex is a behavior.

Drug use can lower inhibitions, resulting in more sexual behavior.

Obsessive / compulsive tendencies can make either a big problem.

Drug users tend to be compulsive people. It is reasonable that their compulsions can spread to other areas of their life, including sex . . .

Sorry, don't have quantitative figures to back up my assertions . . . .

Buzz

(or were you seeking a humorous reply??)

teke · 05-12-2006, 10:13 AM

This Is Definitly Not A Laughing Matter, Thanks, Trying To Make Sense Of The Nonsense Thats Giong On In My Head. This Is Hard For Me To Understand. JUST NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT GOES ON IN THE MIND OF THE ADDICT

Barto · 05-12-2006, 10:51 AM

Are you asking: whether they necessarily go hand in hand; whether they can go hand in hand; are drugs required for good sex; whether sex can be good without drugs?

teke · 05-12-2006, 11:19 AM

I've Read A Lot Of Post Lately And I Am Trying To Understand The Mindset Behind This Behavior, So Yes I Would Like To Hear Your Comments On Any Of The Questions That You Just Post. I Forgot To Add The ? Mark. I Am Tring So Hard To Understand. Hoping That From Here, I Can Move Forward Wth My Recovery.

daddysgirl29 · 05-12-2006, 11:22 AM

Teke- deep breath, hon. No one is making fun of you. I think they're just confused as to what, exactly, you're asking(?) There are many ways to read your question.

Barto · 05-12-2006, 11:34 AM

Q: Whether sex and drugs can go hand in hand
• Yes

Q: Whether sex and drugs necessarily go hand in hand
• No

Q: Are drugs required for good sex?

• For an addict thinking about getting clean, maybe.
• For an addict going through w/d; doesn’t matter.
• For an addict that has completed w/d and is clean for a period of time, absolutely not.

Q: Whether sex can be good without drugs
• Much, much better!

Of course there are many other scenarios, and facts that may affect these answers, and these answers are based on my personal experience. Your experience may not be the same, but I wouldn’t bet on it!

**51anna** · 05-12-2006, 11:37 AM

Hi Teke,

I hope you continue to read and post here at SR. I do believe people are trying to figure out exactly what information you're looking for when they respond to you. You seem like you may be in a difficult situation and there's lots of support here at SR.

teke · 05-12-2006, 11:42 AM

Okay, Let Me Try Again, I Don't Feel Made Fun Of. Seems As If, When My Ah Who I'm Separated From Right Now, Go On These 4-5 Day Binges, Then The Sex Games Come Into Play. He Has Admitted To It Before And Now He Can't Tell Me Anything Different. I Am A Recovering Addict Myself And I Have Known A Lot Of Addicts Who Seem To Think That This Is A Norm. My Question Would Be What Could Be Going On In Their Mind Or In Their Bodies. Please Let Me Know If This Is Still Not Clear, I Am Tring To Find Some Kind Of Understanding

**Done-With-It** · 05-12-2006, 11:52 AM

For some it's just the nature of the drug. The adrenaline kicks up the sex drive and they get obsessed with having sex. That's what I've seen anyway.

windysan · 05-12-2006, 03:57 PM

Opiates kill the sex drive. Sex is much better without opiates. My drive shot up through the roof after kicking.

roadie58 · 05-12-2006, 05:10 PM

Cocaine seems to trigger kinky urges in a lot of people. Alcohol lowers inhibitions. A lot of drug use seems to take the place for normal human sexual activity.

You might try the Mental Health Forum of this board. We have been warned to keep this particular forum PG, so not much sex talk is tolerated by the moderators.

teke · 05-12-2006, 08:28 PM

thank you so much roadie, i took your suggestion to heart and maybe i am find out more of the kind of info that i have been looking for, i honestly had no intention of changing the rating in my post, maybe like it was said before, i was not expressing my thoughts very well. sorry again if it sounded that way and thanks so much for directions.

05-12-2006, 09:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	Drugs And Sex/ Hand In Hand/ is this fact or myth and if so what is the mindset? all comments welcome

05-12-2006, 09:41 AM	#2 (permalink)
Done-With-It InAButtonKindOfWay. Seriously? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 8,250 Blog Entries: 15	Didn't do anything for me, but crystal meth is widely used in the gay men's community for sex. __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Alwys Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

05-12-2006, 10:51 AM	#7 (permalink)
Barto Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Righthere, Rightnow Posts: 1,416	Please clarify. Are you asking: whether they necessarily go hand in hand; whether they can go hand in hand; are drugs required for good sex; whether sex can be good without drugs?

05-12-2006, 11:22 AM	#9 (permalink)
daddysgirl29 Still learning; ever grateful Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: VA Posts: 842	Teke- deep breath, hon. No one is making fun of you. I think they're just confused as to what, exactly, you're asking(?) There are many ways to read your question. __________________ daddysgirl29 _____________________________________________ When in doubt, look up!

05-12-2006, 11:37 AM	#11 (permalink)
51anna Forum Leader Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 11,020	Hi Teke, I hope you continue to read and post here at SR. I do believe people are trying to figure out exactly what information you're looking for when they respond to you. You seem like you may be in a difficult situation and there's lots of support here at SR. __________________ Anna "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. Maya Angelou

05-12-2006, 09:46 AM	#3 (permalink)
Buzz Kilowatt Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Terminus, GA Posts: 477	Didn't quite understand your post . . . are you trying to relate drug abuse to self-abuse? ;-) Buzz

05-12-2006, 09:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	thanks buzz, thats a good answer,got more?

05-12-2006, 10:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
Buzz Kilowatt Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Terminus, GA Posts: 477	Drug use is a behavior. Sex is a behavior. Drug use can lower inhibitions, resulting in more sexual behavior. Obsessive / compulsive tendencies can make either a big problem. Drug users tend to be compulsive people. It is reasonable that their compulsions can spread to other areas of their life, including sex . . . Sorry, don't have quantitative figures to back up my assertions . . . . Buzz (or were you seeking a humorous reply??)

05-12-2006, 10:13 AM	#6 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	This Is Definitly Not A Laughing Matter, Thanks, Trying To Make Sense Of The Nonsense Thats Giong On In My Head. This Is Hard For Me To Understand. JUST NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT GOES ON IN THE MIND OF THE ADDICT

05-12-2006, 11:19 AM	#8 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	I've Read A Lot Of Post Lately And I Am Trying To Understand The Mindset Behind This Behavior, So Yes I Would Like To Hear Your Comments On Any Of The Questions That You Just Post. I Forgot To Add The ? Mark. I Am Tring So Hard To Understand. Hoping That From Here, I Can Move Forward Wth My Recovery.

05-12-2006, 11:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
Barto Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Righthere, Rightnow Posts: 1,416	Q: Whether sex and drugs can go hand in hand • Yes Q: Whether sex and drugs necessarily go hand in hand • No Q: Are drugs required for good sex? • For an addict thinking about getting clean, maybe. • For an addict going through w/d; doesn’t matter. • For an addict that has completed w/d and is clean for a period of time, absolutely not. Q: Whether sex can be good without drugs • Much, much better! Of course there are many other scenarios, and facts that may affect these answers, and these answers are based on my personal experience. Your experience may not be the same, but I wouldn’t bet on it!

05-12-2006, 11:42 AM	#12 (permalink)
teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	Okay, Let Me Try Again, I Don't Feel Made Fun Of. Seems As If, When My Ah Who I'm Separated From Right Now, Go On These 4-5 Day Binges, Then The Sex Games Come Into Play. He Has Admitted To It Before And Now He Can't Tell Me Anything Different. I Am A Recovering Addict Myself And I Have Known A Lot Of Addicts Who Seem To Think That This Is A Norm. My Question Would Be What Could Be Going On In Their Mind Or In Their Bodies. Please Let Me Know If This Is Still Not Clear, I Am Tring To Find Some Kind Of Understanding

05-12-2006, 11:52 AM	#13 (permalink)
Done-With-It InAButtonKindOfWay. Seriously? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 8,250 Blog Entries: 15	For some it's just the nature of the drug. The adrenaline kicks up the sex drive and they get obsessed with having sex. That's what I've seen anyway. __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Alwys Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

05-12-2006, 03:57 PM	#14 (permalink)
windysan Large Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: La Posts: 3,483	Opiates kill the sex drive. Sex is much better without opiates. My drive shot up through the roof after kicking.

05-12-2006, 05:10 PM	#15 (permalink)
roadie58 "The BAND" workshop ROCKS! Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 1,489	Cocaine seems to trigger kinky urges in a lot of people. Alcohol lowers inhibitions. A lot of drug use seems to take the place for normal human sexual activity. You might try the Mental Health Forum of this board. We have been warned to keep this particular forum PG, so not much sex talk is tolerated by the moderators. __________________ Roadie read about my adventures in trying to stay clean in sober in 'I'm ALIVE' in the Substance Abuse Forum..

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teke grateful rca Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: hidden between states Posts: 3,427	thank you so much roadie, i took your suggestion to heart and maybe i am find out more of the kind of info that i have been looking for, i honestly had no intention of changing the rating in my post, maybe like it was said before, i was not expressing my thoughts very well. sorry again if it sounded that way and thanks so much for directions.

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