Whatcha doing for New Years?

[shestruggles]

Hi all,

I'm just sitting here, trying to figure out how to deal with tonight...not getting anywhere, so I thought I'd ask what y'all are doing?

My husband (who works 12 hours a day) wants to go out - nothing big - just go see a few friends. I don't really blame him - he's a real friendly guy and we never EVER go out anymore.

I, on the other hand, have had a super duper crap-ola day and have found mysef unable to get off the couch. (Tends to happen on 'festivity days'). Also, I've been off work for 2 weeks and am a tad depressed, sitting around the house alone all day/night.

So, Im sure it would do us both good to get out, but I still have reservations - even on my great days, I still get edgy bring around folks that are drinking and drugging. Mu husband is usally really good ( just has a few beers, if anything), but once in a while 9like New Years) he likes to get a buzz on. So, that, added to my already miserable mood, could be fixin's for an argument.

I'm depressed, my hair is a mess, my face has broken out. I can't imagine myslef getting in the shower, trying to find something half decent to wear (I;ve gained 15-20 pounds since getting off dope). Arg.

Sorry, I guess I'm just complaining here. Oneof those moods where no matter what anyone suggests, I'll find a reason to shoot it down. I think I need a head check, rather than a miserable night out. Crap, if I've already decided toniteis gonna be miserable, how can it be any other way.

Sorry all. But do check in, say hi and lemme know what you're all doing.

Later,
SS

[Jane63]

Hiya {{{SS}}}
I'm sorry you are feeling down today/tonight but keep in mind that it really is just another day and if you don't feel like going out, then don't, but it really might do you some good to get out for awhile.
I get in those 'funks' now and then when my energy level is "pffftttt" and all I want to do is vegg on the couch...especially with the cold weather and my stupid menopausal thingy that is going on here recently...but I do feel better when I get out for awhile, even if its just to Walmart and to get dinner out!

As for being around people who are drinking, you really have to make that call yourself and if you are uncomfortable then don't go.
We actually celebrated New Years early and had some friends over for drinks, snacks and chat last night in which I over-indulged and spent most of the day recouping on the couch. I've never had a problem with drinking so it doesn't bother me.
We are spending a quiet night home tonight, watching TV and I will be filling out my calendar for 2006!! Woohoo, I AM a party animal!! LOL!! {actually I get great enjoyment looking back at the previous years calendar and planning ahead for the next!!! Seriously!!}

At any rate, you do what you feel comfortable doing and what makes you happy!! It is good to know we will have a nice, brand new year tomorrow to look forward to and my wish is that it will be a prosperous, happy, safe and wonderful year for all!!!
Take care hun and Happy :abg: !!!! Hope you feel better!!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Jane

[roadie58]

I've got a hit of Wellbutrin in me, a Diet Rock Star in my hand, and am GOING OUT!

wooohooo, there is a buddy in my workshop who is having a get together, and right around the corner my AA club is having an all night alcathon of meetings. One meeting every hour.

Sorry you're feeling so down. Instead of moping around the house, wouldn't you feel better semi-gussied up (don't get too fancy), and socializing with some folks? I did the 'stay home and feel sorry' thing on Christmas and it was terrible. Ruined the next day as well cause I was so depressed. So this year, my first New Year sober, I'm gonna give it a try...

Problem is that the party doesn't start until like 9 pm, what do I do until then?

[angelgirl]

Hey SS,,

I only have a minute here,

But, I stopped here quick, and saw this ans wanted to say,, GIRL, GO OUT!@!!!
I ( ME) think you should go.. You will be so much happier if you do,, because I think
I know you well enough that no matter if you have a ton of fun, and stay out for hours, or just for a while, and call it a night early, you will be much happier that you
got up and got ready, got all prettied up ( yes, you ARE pretty all the time, but, ok, dressed up) and went. That way your husband will feel good, and so will you,, that you did something. Otherwise, you like me, sit here, and feel like we have nothing to do, no friends, ya know..
So, please go.. Go home early if you aren't feeling like you're having fun..
Or,, give it all ya got, ( sober of course)( I know you will ) and have a grea time..

You ae a beautiful girl, inside and out. Don't forget that..

I will PM you later of tommorow.. Tell you about the doctor and all of that.. Ok..

Love ya,.

Hey Jane,,
I hope all is well. It's great to hear from you...
My husband is yelling at me that I have to go..
I miss talking to you.. I wish you a very HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

Love ya
Becky

[best]

I am sitting right here where it is safe and quiet. My sons are out drinking but they are at my sister's house and she takes keys away.
My wife is out of state at my daughter's house.

It is peace and quiet here with the exception of the dog...phew! and her noises from the back end *LOL*
I will stick around till it is time for some sleep and I will wake up next year.

[velvet]

go out and have fun. Once you're there, you'll be glad you went. I am staying home. My younger kids have movies, pizza and sparkling grape juice. woooho. It's me and the key board. First New years that I've stayed home in 7 yrs. Just broke up with adbf. But it feels right. Go, have fun.

[roadie58]

went to a private party of AA friends. charades, watched 40 year old virgin, laughed, but I felt strangely very alone at midnight. I just don't see what all the fuss is about. I kept thinking of my hottie fantasy girl on ski week with her bf. I'm so sick with jealousy over this! I had to give my cell phone to a girl at the party so I wouldn't call Beth and interrupt her good times.

So then I went to our club, did a meeting and had breakfast. They are open until 3 am. There was like 35 people there. I didnt' talk to anyone though. Feeling very sad and alone right now.

Michael

[Time2Surrender]

I went to my NA home group. There is an NA dance going on in Portland, but I wasnt really in the mood and dont wanna drive that far. Im just grateful to be clean and sober. I think tommorow I will take my truck out 4 wheelin.

[angelgirl]

Hey all,, :abx:

Sounds like for the most part, everyone had a pretty good night so far, and stayed clean and sober !!!! Oh, that's just cool!!

So girly, what did you end up doing?? Please, tell me about it.. I will check in tomorrow when I get up, hopefully, you will have posted what you did by then
I just hope you had fun, no matter what you did..

We went to our friends house. One of my frineds that I have been friends with since, oh, at least high school. I was roomies with this girl, and another girl after we graduated high school,, oh the fun we had, LOL. ( I mean when we lived together, we were naughty,, LOL ) , anyway, forget that,, ..
We went there, like we have for many years, and the they drank, and I drank my propel, and diet coke, and we ate, and played games.. It was fun. We shot off fireworks at midnight, along with the neighbors, LOL, that was cool too.. Home by about 1:3-2.

That was my exciting night.... That is what I like to do anyway..

I hope yours went as well, please let me know.. Anyone else,, please let us know what you did too..

Hey, how do you like my new avatar??? :abe:
Love ya,
Becky

[shestruggles]

Ah, I had a great night!

I adjusted my attitude (duh) and decided I would have fun no matter what we did. My husband felt the same. So, we ended up making diner and eating it in bed. Just hanging out and talking about our first year of marraige and our plans fir the next year. We got our PJs on at about 9pm, ate some more snacks, hung out and watched the New Year coutdown in bed. :cai

Souds cheesy, but, we won;t be newlyweds much longer & need to sqeeze every last minute out of it. Now I'm officially in my second year of marraige (will be 2 years in March) .I'm sober and somewhat sane... who woulda thunkit?

I hope you all had fun!

Love and hugs,
Sarah

[Jane63]

Awww {{SS}} that is sooo CUTE!!! Sounds like you and the hubbs had the best New Years ever and one to talk about when your celebrating your 50th!! {LOL!} Sometimes the best memories are made when we are least expecting it!!!

{{Angel}} Hiya!! Sounds like you had a good night too and lots of FUN!! Hubby and I plan to teach each other to play cards {poker!} this year and I'm going to teach him to play Chess so I finally have someone to play against!! That 'empty nest' thing inched abit closer with the ringing in of the new year and we need LOTS of stuff to keep us busy!! {other than the "obvious" stuff!!! Lmao!! }

Hubby and I ended up being couch potatos, watching a movie and eating up all my leftovers from the night before!! We watched the ball drop at midnight, had our first kiss of the new year, checked in with our daughter who was staying with friends and were in bed by 1am!

I made out my ~2006~calendar today and began a few resolutions! It sure was nice to look over the old year, toss it out and begin anew!! That is always the best part for me, but then again ya'll know how easily amused I am!! {LOL}

*I noticed alot of "exercise type" smilie icons!! Humm...looks like everyone made the same resolutions!!
Happy New Year all!!!!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Jane