I am alone and want to get high on thanksgiving!!!

Is anyone like me who nobody wants to invite or anything for the holidays? Everyone just wants my kids and not me! I hate holidays! Anyone have any advice to find something to do before my mind starts thinking? Please????????

Originally Posted by help123

Is anyone like me who nobody wants to invite or anything for the holidays? Everyone just wants my kids and not me! I hate holidays! Anyone have any advice to find something to do before my mind starts thinking? Please????????

I found a listing of NA, Rehabs, Womens Groups in your area. Usually on and around the holiday's they have 24 events going on of some kind so folks need not be alone. Look thru the list, make a call or two, reach out, and you'll find some help and support, as well as better alternatives than following the racing mind.

http://search.yahoo.com/search?ei=UT...a.x=36&sa.y=16

Good luck, and lets us know how your doing and if you found something.

[splendra]

do some meetings...find out about doing volunter work for NA that can be very enlightening also homeless shelters need people to help serve holiday dinners. It is an amazing experience and oppertunity to help others....

[tramp]

yeah. here i sit home alone, lol. downloading music.
i guess im just content to be here.
try being grateful for what you have instead of getting down in the stuff.
it's ok to be alone.
it's ok to be quiet.
something to work on. we all invariably find ourselves alone at some point.
when i sponsored i used to advise that you learn to 12th step yourself.
because one day you will be alone.
unless of course you have a most excellent relationship with the creator, who i can't help but assume is busy his self from time to time.
i mean he has to keep up that little book of our dating habits and all that.
by all means go to a meeting,

[KelKel]

I wish I could say that I just love the holiday's... but I do NOT!
My husband and I are alone today, his son and my son are each with the other parent. He works tommorow so we did not travel anywhere to be with family.
I feel lonely even though I am with my best friend. I miss my family... I miss my mom so much @ the holidays and she has been dead since I was 24 (40 now).
But I am working hard this year to get out of self. Going to the noon meeting and then my hubby is coming down with the side dish I am preparing for the Thanksgiving dinner that is being held after. Part of me would love to hide under the covers and feel sorry for myself... but I just need to change what has become a pattern.
I think when we are clean and sober the holidays certainly feel more real than they did when we were numb and dumb.
Try to make yourself get out and do something today... a meeting, a walk in a park.... anything to help you get out of your head.
There is a meeting here tonight I would love to see you there...

[roadie58]

I'm going to a noon AA meeting and the club where I go is having a dinner afterwards. Then I'm just doing movies with friends to stay busy. Had a buddy who's an active alcoholic over this am just to listen to some music.

If you want friends, be a friend. Go help someone who needs you....
Best wishes to all.

I hope everyone understands how it gets. I always thought that I didnt need to do the steps. I thought I was better than that! Stupid huh?!!! It has been one month since my kid's dad killed himself, and 8 for my dad. Life is hard for everyone, as an addict does, we make tons of excuses. Now I know that I need to get more help than I have! I dont really have anyone who understands how powerful drugs are, and single parenting is.

My baby's dad is an addict, too. We are on and off all the time. He's deep into drugs again and I kind of went along for some of the ride. I have done 4 lines of coke, I have never even done coke before. I didnt have my kids but I know that doesnt make it any better!!! Whenever, you stop doing drugs, you go into a deep depression. I dont want Roger to come over anymore cuz he has the drugs. I need to be strong.
I live in a small town and for the holidays, they don't do anything. Thanks for the advice, tho! I would go to a homeless shelter and help out but we dont have one. I have my baby anyways. His dad, Roger, is doing a big family thing but he says he doesnt want his baby, he'll wreck it he says! What a jerk!!!
Well, as everyone says, tomorrow is a new day. I will stay clean and tomorrow, I will find a meeting to go to. Does anyone know if I can bring my 1 month old baby to them? Well, everyone, thanks again for ur precious words!! Have a good holiday!!!

[Sugah]

Take your baby with you to a meeting. I have two kids who were 9 & 12 when I came into recovery. No one EVER told me I would be denied the chance to recovery if I didn't have a babysitter. I've seen a lot of folks carry newborns to curious toddlers into the rooms. Go to a meeting, girl.

You're in my prayers today, Alycia.

Peace & Love,
Sugah

[Time2Surrender]

I can relate Alycia.I have been there.I hope you can find your way to a meeting today and if you do let people know you have nothing to do today.You may be surprised on how people will be willing to help.I will keep you in my prayers.

[Done-With-It]

Hang in there sweetie. Is there something you really enjoy doing that you don't do?
Like hiking, or crafts, or whatever........ Maybe if you do something just for YOU, it will help.
Take care of yourself.

[tramp]

in my early days i used to watch kids so parents could go into the meeting without disrupting it, maybe there is someone there who will do the same?

[Wolf_22]

Is anyone like me who nobody wants to invite or anything for the holidays? Everyone just wants my kids and not me! I hate holidays! Anyone have any advice to find something to do before my mind starts thinking? Please????????

You could do like I do and go between stages of watching movies you've seen over and over again already, surf the net and keep checking your IM's for away messages, or simply stare at the ceiling for intervals of 25 minutes each...

Obviously, I was being sarcastic however that really is what I've been about today. I'm struggling kinda as well because here I am alone and all and it's kinda wearin' on me. I chose this route though, so I can't complain.

I suggest however that you crank up some tunes, turn on all the lights, and clean your place up. Seriously, clean up your bedroom, turn on every single light in the house (don't tell me anything about electric bills too because it's not going to run it up THAT MUCH), and try to train your mind to accept the stillness, and be at one with it.

Main thing I hate about the holidays isn't the inccessant "lonliness", but rather thinking about being alone. I love being by myself, but it's the thought that I'm by myself that kills me because it makes me wish I had my ex back in my life, and it makes me yern for a "normal" life again. Being inside an apartment by yourself sucks when you don't have anyone to make love to! HA! I guess thats what the internet is for! HAHAHA! Just kidding of course.

Thanks guys very much!!! I had an okay thanksgiving after all. The boy's gramma called and invited me to her ma's. It was awesome!! (My two older boys are by her son, not the youngest babe, Logan) They were soo sweet to my baby, even got him a present!! I have a family where I belong. We didnt get along when Josh was alive but now is better than never. The only thing that sucked yesterday was that I was almost there and stopped for gas, my car broke down!! I didnt know the numbers to anyone up there, but thank god, an angel jumped it for me!!! I love this world!! And to top it off, I didnt get high, thanks to you guys!!! I love each and everyone of you very much, your all my inspiration! Well, on my way to the big shopping day of ever!