Could be a tough trip...

[shestruggles]

HI all,

I just wanted to let you know that I will be leaving Monday to go to the Panhandle & visiting my new in-laws. I may have some internet access there, so maybe I'll pop in once in a while.

My MIL is a real sweet lady, everything nervous new bride could want. She seems to love me dearly and is oh-o-happy I married her son.

Small problem, though, both her and her bf (and my father in law who lives down the street from them) are alcoholics. We went to visit them a few years ago and had fun, but it was all booze booze booze. They start early and drink all day.

I'm a little nervous about not drinking. I know they would never be angry at me about it, but I don't want to make them feel uncomforatble, or feel like I'm looking down on them.

I'm sure it will be OK - it's just been a while since I've been in that type of environment.

I'll stop by and say g'bye before I leave.

Love to you all: SS

[eddie z.]

((((SS))))),
Do you have a plan? Make sure you take some phone numbers with you so's you can call someone if you start feeling weird, OK? I'll be thinking of you!!

Did you see my post to you on the Naltrexone, Suboxone, methadone thread? Check it out.

Love and hugs,
Eddie

[51anna]

I hope you have a good trip and like Eddie says, have a plan. Just be calm and don't let the pressure get to you.

Love, Anna

[shestruggles]

Thanks for the support, guys!

I will be taking my laptop, and I think his mom has internet,mso I'llbe sue to jump onhere if anything icky arises. I also have my wonderful husband to help. He rarely drinks (probably b/c his parents are alkies), but I'm sure he can explain why it's not a good idea for me partake, although I'm quite content to hang out with them drinking, just as long as I have a big Ice T or somethin.

I'll keep y'all posted. I am actaully really looking forward o the trip. I hope to get a little R&R and it is baeutiful there. Also, I've been having some serious eating problems, but his mom is always cooking up wonderful food.

Our power is being shut off tomorrow and we're so broke, we can't even buy food or smokes. This trip will also give us a break on the financial worries - a nice place to sleep and eat. By thetime we get back our paychecks should be here, and we'll be well-rested and fed. Then we can pay our bills and start to get back on track...

Gotta look at the positive!

Love you all! SS

[eddie z.]

Originally Posted by shestruggles

Also, I've been having some serious eating problems...

You mean keeping stuff down? Or like eating disorder issues, if I may ask? Well, I hope that goes OK, too, either way. You know we're here for you regardless, right? I'll be thinking of you!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

[mendingheart]

Thinking of you, and remember stay in the moment. Enjoy the sunshine, and if you must remove yourself to find your own inner self. As the other flip side, (me not the addicted one.....)try to separate yourself from the situation. You can be removed while acting as if.....and know that you will go home to your calm nest.

[Evanna]

Have a good one SS and please know my thoughts go with you.

[shestruggles]

Thanks again all-

Eddie- I'm not sure what's up with my eating. I've posted in the easting disorder forum about it. (i've had mild bouts with anorexia and bulimia in the past)

For the past 4 months, the only food I will eat is trail mix, and the only thing I will drink is GreenT. I'm like a little ocd, or something. I get on these kicks, and will only want to eat one thing. The problem is, over time, I lose my appetite for anything but..the thought of a 'meal' makes me natious.

The trail mix fills me up & I know I eat enough (enough 2-3 bags a day) so I'm not walking around hungry - but I now I'm missing alot, like dairy, and fruits vegetables (unless craisins count..) I drink about 2 gallons of diet GreenT a day also, so I'm not dhydrated - just weird.....As I said, I'm hoping a week of good cooking will get me back on track...

Thanks to Evanna, mending, and Anne too! You guys are the best! It's great to know others are pulling for you & I'm sure I'll be fine. I'm just concentrating on all the things I want to do, and none of them include me drinking!

Love you all! SS

[angelgirl]

Hey SS, good to see you feeling better about going. I think this will be posititve for you. Especially with the electricity being turned off.
Make the most of it, and try not to feel funny about not drinking, hopefully your husband will also not drink. That will make it easier.
About your eating, I know you talked to your therapist before, but since you chewed her out, has anything gotten better? Maybe you shoul dtlak to her once again, and maybe she'll respond a little better tis time??
You hang in there, you've gotten alot of good advice here. Make it as fun as you can, and get some Good R&R if you can.
Love ya Becky

[eddie z.]

Originally Posted by shestruggles

I'm hoping a week of good cooking will get me back on track...

I hope so, too! Thank you for clearing that up. And I'm glad you're posting about it also. My eating problems are more often of the overeating variety although I've had bouts of restricting as well. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts in that department, too!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

[Evanna]

Thoughts still with you. Speak when you get back.

[Time4Change]

Hey Sweetie! Sorry I'm so late coming into this thread. Been busy at work with no time to enjoy my SR family.

Anyway, we'll miss ya very, very much while you're gone! Also, lots of prayers going out for you, my friend. I know it'll be hard being around so much booze. It's funny that you mentioned iced green tea and trail mix .... I freaked when I read that, because I, too, have been living on that, almost solely, during my recovery. Maybe a Sub craving or something? I dunno. It certainly won't hurt me to lose a few extra pounds, too! (Gotta look at the positive, right?) Heehee!

Hope you'll get a chance to pop in here while you're away and say hello and fill us in on any good gossip! Dish it up, SS! Take care of YOU!

[eddie z.]

(((((shestruggles))))) Miss you!! Hope all is well on your trip!!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

[roadie58]

Hope all goes well. I was going to suggest hotel accomodations so as to be able to escape the drinking, but sounds like financial situation may not allow that. Know when to get away from them, if the drinking gets out of control. And although it's a 'nice place' to stay, don't overstay the welcome....

[shestruggles]

Hey all,
Just thought I'd pop on with a quick hello. we're loving it up here in the Panhandle. Hubs grew up here, so he is not as awed with the gorgeous white sand an emerald waters...Things at the house are just fine. they drink from 9am right thru to 9pm, but are not bothered that I don't join in. I just went out and bought 3 gallons of greenT and keep drinking that throughout our endless beach days and poker games!
Better go, my cards have been delt and have to re-claim my title of texas holdem champ! ( I never played before this visit and still look at my paper to see whats what - that's why being the champ is so much fun!)

I'll be home Sunday to catch up with you all. I really love you folks!

SS

PS _ Eddie - I went to the coolest store today - everything kitty cats - books, toys, cards, dishes, clothes - everything! I was thinking of you!

[Time4Change]

Hey SS! So glad you got a chance to check in! Sure do miss ya around here! I'm happy you're having a good time. And I lurrrrrve Texas Hold 'Em!! And YUM! about the green tea. Beach days and poker games sounds like a blast! Can't wait to hear more when you get home. Take care!

[eddie z.]

Thanks for checking in, SS!! Glad things are going well and that you're having a good time! Sorry I missed the store. Wah! I wanna go to the beach, too! LOL.

Love and hugs,
Eddie

[roadie58]

Thanks for checking in, glad you're doing okay. Come home nice and tan now, will ya?

[Evanna]

Originally Posted by shestruggles

Hey all,
Just thought I'd pop on with a quick hello. we're loving it up here in the Panhandle. Hubs grew up here, so he is not as awed with the gorgeous white sand an emerald waters

I am beginning to think it was terribly selfish of you not to invite all of us.

[shestruggles]

Hey guys, I'm back!!!

Yes, I am now really tan (as opposed to the 'out-of-a-bottle-tan I usually sport), I know it's bad, but it feels and looks 100% better + I wore 30 sunscreen the whole time!!

We made it home safe and sound, and are exhuasted and dreading the thought of returning to work tommorrow. It's the first day of school, always bound to be a nightmare. We plan on sitting on the couch and unwinding for an hour than hitting the sak, but I wanted to check in with you all first.

I am a bad girl for not inviting you all - 'specially b/c his parents are the "more the merrier type"...they would have been thrilled! But we managed real good to party with just the 4 of us: lots of fishing, swimming, crabbing, games and movies.

Also, lots of bonding. I am so blessed to have such a great set of in=laws. They treat me like family and I can 100% be myself. (ie smoke and cuss all the time, sleep till noon and not speak till I've got my coffe down), and boy can they cook! Great feasts of King crab legs, ribs, steaks, oysters - not to mention the best salads I've ever had!

I now say "I love you" to his mom easily(b/c I mean it), and look forward to spending time with them, rather than dreading it as I have with past bf's parents. It's remarkable to have found even more loving family. So precious!

My husband truely loves his mother & given her great temperment and sense of values, I now know for certain that I married the most wonderful man in the world! For example, he explained that I was not drinking to his mom, and she was really happy for me - isn't that cool? But not weird - they did their thing (ie - whisky and vodka) and I did mine (iceT) and we were all happy!

Thanks to all of you kind souls who popped in to see how I was doing. I'll be back on the boards when I get home from (ugh) work Monday!

Much Love: SS

[eddie z.]

So, it sounds like you ate something besides trail mix! LOL. Seriously, I'm so glad you had a great time. Best wishes on your return to work and the first day of school tomorrow!!

Love and hugs,
Eddie