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08-01-2005, 08:12 PM

i am a 22yr old mom of 2 1/2 boys (7 months prego). I have been an addict for 3 yrs, since I met my boyfriend. I love him but he has introduced me to a lot of things. My drug of choice is oxys, I waste so much money on them. I have done them 5 times since being pregnant. I am also on methadone through a doc. The problem, one of many...is I don't want nothing to be wrong with my baby. I want him to be healthy, what do I do? I am too young for so many boys and I want everything to be right. What do I do?

Chance · 08-01-2005, 08:20 PM

Hey welcome to SR, I am no doctor although one time in my life I was LOL and that was not too long ago either. All I know is that I would like to welcome you to SR, and here you will find the support and help that you need and want. I am an addict of sorts LOL and I can not use any mood or mind altering chemicals, well I can but I choose not too. All we have to do is not use today, things will get better. Good Luck

Love Vic

eddie z. · 08-01-2005, 08:23 PM

((((help123)))),
WELCOME to SR!! Methadone is the opiate of choice in pregnancy, so you're probably alright there. But you probably need help to steer clear of the oxy. I highly recommend you find a face-to-face support group preferably one specifically for those on methadone. Ask your prescribing doc for some guidance here. I'll see if I can find some resources in your area. Hope this helps!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

eddie z. · 08-01-2005, 08:50 PM

Dean Whiteway M.D.
LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital Methadone Program
1910 South Ave.
La Crosse, WI 54601
(608) 782-7300

You may want to call this program. Best wishes!!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

08-01-2005, 08:56 PM

that's who I see, thank you

angelgirl · 08-01-2005, 10:48 PM

Hello there and welcome Help..
Boy, sounds like you have alot on your plate. But it is managable, if you get the right help you need. eddie is right, you really should go get some face to face help. Have you ever considered or do you go to NA? It might be very helpful for you, especially since your boyfriend is introducing you to these new things that aren't very healthy for you, your baby,. or for that matter your other boys. I understand it's difficult. You are on Methadone, so you should really work hard to not use anything other than that. SR is a great place for support. Have you checked out any churches in your area? There are some churches that have 12 stpe recovery meeting, that aren't NA also. I go to something called Celebrate Recovery. I love it.. I don't know how you feel about god, but I need him to help me manage this disease everyday. I am also on suboxone, don't know if you are familiar with it, but it is on the line of methadone. It helps me alot, although lately I have been craving alot more often. I need to pray alot, and I also attend a group at a local mental health clinic the group is a dual diagnosis group. It is for people that have an addiction, and a mental health issue, like I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. There are also day treatment programs, as well as inpatient programs that might be an idea for you. You really should seek as much help as you can, now, before your next baby is born. I have 4 kids. My mom as well as alot of other relatives have been addicts or alcoholics. I need and want to stop the cycle of abuse that runs down my family line, so that my kids have a chance at realizing that life can be good without drugs or alcohol. Or else it will just continue to travel through them, and their kids someday.
I hope you get some more help soon. Don't be afraid. Help yourself and your children, it's never to late...
We are always here if you need some support. I wish you the best, and hope you stick around here and meet some more people.
By the way, I live in central Wisconsin. La Crosse is about 2 hours from where I live.
I'll padd you to my prayer.
Love, Becky
PS-- My doc is oxycodone.... although most any pain killer worked for me.. I have been clean for almost 4 months, that is the longest since 2001 when I started on pain killers.

Alycia · 08-02-2005, 07:57 AM

Thank you angel so much. When I woke up today I had a beatiful letter to read, I hope you realize how much your words effect people. My plan was to go looking for things but not now. I live about 30 minutes away from Lacrosse, It's kind of cool to go shopping or to gunderson. our town is very small. I can't believe u have twin teeanagers, that must be fun. my boyfriend is on the methadone program which he goes everyday and gets couseling. I am through the docs office cuz I can't go up everyday. I use to be on Fetenal patches, eating them, for a good high. Thank god, I got off those, it was horrible, I didn't sleep for over 100hrs. Then the doc put me of vicodone, which I messed up horriblily, than I finally told them I was an addict and now I am on 20mg of methadone. That isn't helping as well but I see him this week. I use to live in whitehall, wi, do u know where it is? i want to change for my boys but as anybody knows, it's a lot of work!!!!! Nobody in my family understands what I am going through. My mom always says u look to thin, are u on drugs? I haven't done anything in 5 days which is better than nothing. They say addiction runs in family but not in mine. We do have addictive personalities like abusive men. They don't really have nothing in this town for pain addicts but maybe I'll check again. I hate that everybody looks at me and think she's pregnant and an addict. For my other boys, I wouldn't even of drank pop or tylenol now things change. I never understood how hard it was. I love to share my story so face to face is probably the best. Now with another baby on the way there ain't much time for me. My older boys father doesn't see them and my boyfriend now won't help with them. Life is always better tomorrow...they say
thanks a lot
alycia

eddie z. · 08-02-2005, 08:19 AM

((((Alycia))))
Becky is great, isn't she? That is so cool that you already see that doc. I was just thinking maybe they had some support groups through that clinic. I myself go to NA and I highly recommend it usually. I just didn't this time 'cause some groups are not very methadone-friendly. Unfortunate, but true.

Hey, you may want to check out my thread on the Newcomers board on Naltrexone, Suboxone, and methadone. I'd love it if you'd join us there! Still wishing you and family the best!

Becky,
See? You help people alot, too!!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

Blake · 08-02-2005, 08:43 AM

Hey alycia,

I'm no doctor either, but I do have experience in this kinda situation. A friend of mine was addicted to oxy's and heroin and found out she was pregnant. She told the doctor she wanted to quit using, but he told her that if she did that, she would probablt lose the baby so he put her on methadone. The baby was born dope sick and everything, but atlest he lived and now he is a happy 3 year old boy with a clean mommy (that had to leave daddy b/c daddy wouldn't get clean).

On the other hand, My friend sara was pregnant and shooting dilaudid and morphine. Her son has learning disabilities and under developed lungs and heart. The doctors are pretty sure it was from the dope.

Methadone isn't 100% safe for pregnancy, but it is soooooooo much safer than anything else out there.

I'd suggest you go to NA mettings, they help me. If anyone gives you **** about being on methadone, tell them to go **** themselves and that you have to be on it so your baby doesn't die.

There is also a program called Methadone Anonymous. It is not a group trying to dictate that you shouldn't be on methadone, it is open to anyone either on or off the 'done without being judged.

eddie z. · 08-02-2005, 09:00 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Blake

I'd suggest you go to NA mettings, they help me. If anyone gives you **** about being on methadone, tell them to go **** themselves and that you have to be on it so your baby doesn't die.

You the man, Blake!!

Love and hugs,
Eddie

Alycia · 08-02-2005, 01:11 PM

thanks blake....I know I shouldn't care what other people think. Nobody understand unless they have gone through this. It could always be worse. I found a group through my church, I want my bf to come with me but this should be something I do for myself, I just have to find cheap daycare.

eddie-where is the newcomers sight?

Alycia · 08-02-2005, 01:13 PM

also can anybody tell me how to change my name, it sucks.
thank you

Chance · 08-02-2005, 01:49 PM

I actually like it Alycia try going around with a name Vic and your a guy LOL

Alycia · 08-02-2005, 04:42 PM

I like my really name but not my screen name, sillly

eddie z. · 08-02-2005, 05:58 PM

Alycia,
Here is a link to my poll thread. And a link to the Newcomers board. Sorry I can't help you with the name change, though.

Love and hugs,
Eddie

Alycia · 08-02-2005, 09:18 PM

thanks,
also, they say everyone has a twin, u do in my town, her name is trisha and she 26, I can't believe how much u look like her.... I just got my puter and internet and this forum is my favorite, u can't keep me off it. There is so much to do on internet that it scares me kind of, I don't know what to do, got any ideas?
have a good one

eddie z. · 08-02-2005, 09:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by help123

also, they say everyone has a twin, u do in my town, her name is trisha and she 26...

I'm just happy to know I could pass for being 26! LOL.

Yeah, this forum is great! I'm quite addicted myself. LOL again.

Love and hugs,
Eddie

Blake · 08-03-2005, 07:49 AM

Hey alycia,

The only way I know to change your screen name is to re-register. If you really dislike your screen name you should do it before you get a shitload of posts under your belt. Just re-register and post in here with your new screen name to let eveyone know it is you.

Later,
Blake

08-01-2005, 08:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
help123 Guest Posts: n/a	please help me... i am a 22yr old mom of 2 1/2 boys (7 months prego). I have been an addict for 3 yrs, since I met my boyfriend. I love him but he has introduced me to a lot of things. My drug of choice is oxys, I waste so much money on them. I have done them 5 times since being pregnant. I am also on methadone through a doc. The problem, one of many...is I don't want nothing to be wrong with my baby. I want him to be healthy, what do I do? I am too young for so many boys and I want everything to be right. What do I do?

08-01-2005, 08:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
Chance JUST DO IT!! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Here Or There Posts: 7,090 Blog Entries: 9	Hey welcome to SR, I am no doctor although one time in my life I was LOL and that was not too long ago either. All I know is that I would like to welcome you to SR, and here you will find the support and help that you need and want. I am an addict of sorts LOL and I can not use any mood or mind altering chemicals, well I can but I choose not too. All we have to do is not use today, things will get better. Good Luck Love Vic __________________ With Love and Respect Vic Life isn't yesterday or tomorrow it is in the now.....

08-01-2005, 08:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,606	((((help123)))), WELCOME to SR!! Methadone is the opiate of choice in pregnancy, so you're probably alright there. But you probably need help to steer clear of the oxy. I highly recommend you find a face-to-face support group preferably one specifically for those on methadone. Ask your prescribing doc for some guidance here. I'll see if I can find some resources in your area. Hope this helps! Love and hugs, Eddie __________________

08-01-2005, 10:48 PM	#6 (permalink)
angelgirl You're never alone!! Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,195	Hello there and welcome Help.. Boy, sounds like you have alot on your plate. But it is managable, if you get the right help you need. eddie is right, you really should go get some face to face help. Have you ever considered or do you go to NA? It might be very helpful for you, especially since your boyfriend is introducing you to these new things that aren't very healthy for you, your baby,. or for that matter your other boys. I understand it's difficult. You are on Methadone, so you should really work hard to not use anything other than that. SR is a great place for support. Have you checked out any churches in your area? There are some churches that have 12 stpe recovery meeting, that aren't NA also. I go to something called Celebrate Recovery. I love it.. I don't know how you feel about god, but I need him to help me manage this disease everyday. I am also on suboxone, don't know if you are familiar with it, but it is on the line of methadone. It helps me alot, although lately I have been craving alot more often. I need to pray alot, and I also attend a group at a local mental health clinic the group is a dual diagnosis group. It is for people that have an addiction, and a mental health issue, like I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. There are also day treatment programs, as well as inpatient programs that might be an idea for you. You really should seek as much help as you can, now, before your next baby is born. I have 4 kids. My mom as well as alot of other relatives have been addicts or alcoholics. I need and want to stop the cycle of abuse that runs down my family line, so that my kids have a chance at realizing that life can be good without drugs or alcohol. Or else it will just continue to travel through them, and their kids someday. I hope you get some more help soon. Don't be afraid. Help yourself and your children, it's never to late... We are always here if you need some support. I wish you the best, and hope you stick around here and meet some more people. By the way, I live in central Wisconsin. La Crosse is about 2 hours from where I live. I'll padd you to my prayer. Love, Becky PS-- My doc is oxycodone.... although most any pain killer worked for me.. I have been clean for almost 4 months, that is the longest since 2001 when I started on pain killers. __________________ ™ Don't tell God how BIG your addiction is, tell your addiction, how BIG our GOD is!! Jesus is our teacher and he is our Savior, who takes our prayers and makes them his own.

08-02-2005, 07:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Alycia help123 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: winona, Mn Posts: 262	Thank you angel so much. When I woke up today I had a beatiful letter to read, I hope you realize how much your words effect people. My plan was to go looking for things but not now. I live about 30 minutes away from Lacrosse, It's kind of cool to go shopping or to gunderson. our town is very small. I can't believe u have twin teeanagers, that must be fun. my boyfriend is on the methadone program which he goes everyday and gets couseling. I am through the docs office cuz I can't go up everyday. I use to be on Fetenal patches, eating them, for a good high. Thank god, I got off those, it was horrible, I didn't sleep for over 100hrs. Then the doc put me of vicodone, which I messed up horriblily, than I finally told them I was an addict and now I am on 20mg of methadone. That isn't helping as well but I see him this week. I use to live in whitehall, wi, do u know where it is? i want to change for my boys but as anybody knows, it's a lot of work!!!!! Nobody in my family understands what I am going through. My mom always says u look to thin, are u on drugs? I haven't done anything in 5 days which is better than nothing. They say addiction runs in family but not in mine. We do have addictive personalities like abusive men. They don't really have nothing in this town for pain addicts but maybe I'll check again. I hate that everybody looks at me and think she's pregnant and an addict. For my other boys, I wouldn't even of drank pop or tylenol now things change. I never understood how hard it was. I love to share my story so face to face is probably the best. Now with another baby on the way there ain't much time for me. My older boys father doesn't see them and my boyfriend now won't help with them. Life is always better tomorrow...they say thanks a lot alycia __________________ Please God grant me salvation, and give me the motivation,to stop using, and quick abusing, my mind, body, and soul.

08-01-2005, 08:50 PM	#4 (permalink)
eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,606	Dean Whiteway M.D. LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital Methadone Program 1910 South Ave. La Crosse, WI 54601 (608) 782-7300 You may want to call this program. Best wishes!! Love and hugs, Eddie

08-01-2005, 08:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
help123 Guest Posts: n/a	that's who I see, thank you

08-02-2005, 08:19 AM	#8 (permalink)
eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,606	((((Alycia)))) Becky is great, isn't she? That is so cool that you already see that doc. I was just thinking maybe they had some support groups through that clinic. I myself go to NA and I highly recommend it usually. I just didn't this time 'cause some groups are not very methadone-friendly. Unfortunate, but true. Hey, you may want to check out my thread on the Newcomers board on Naltrexone, Suboxone, and methadone. I'd love it if you'd join us there! Still wishing you and family the best! Becky, See? You help people alot, too!! Love and hugs, Eddie

08-02-2005, 08:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
Blake I'm an addict. Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Hyde Park, NY Posts: 1,201	Hey alycia, I'm no doctor either, but I do have experience in this kinda situation. A friend of mine was addicted to oxy's and heroin and found out she was pregnant. She told the doctor she wanted to quit using, but he told her that if she did that, she would probablt lose the baby so he put her on methadone. The baby was born dope sick and everything, but atlest he lived and now he is a happy 3 year old boy with a clean mommy (that had to leave daddy b/c daddy wouldn't get clean). On the other hand, My friend sara was pregnant and shooting dilaudid and morphine. Her son has learning disabilities and under developed lungs and heart. The doctors are pretty sure it was from the dope. Methadone isn't 100% safe for pregnancy, but it is soooooooo much safer than anything else out there. I'd suggest you go to NA mettings, they help me. If anyone gives you ** about being on methadone, tell them to go themselves and that you have to be on it so your baby doesn't die. There is also a program called Methadone Anonymous. It is not a group trying to dictate that you shouldn't be on methadone, it is open to anyone either on or off the 'done without being judged. __________________ Warning:** I'm a sick person so take any advice I may be spewing with a grain of salt, but it's what has worked for me, so far.

08-02-2005, 01:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
Alycia help123 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: winona, Mn Posts: 262	thanks blake....I know I shouldn't care what other people think. Nobody understand unless they have gone through this. It could always be worse. I found a group through my church, I want my bf to come with me but this should be something I do for myself, I just have to find cheap daycare. eddie-where is the newcomers sight? __________________ Please God grant me salvation, and give me the motivation,to stop using, and quick abusing, my mind, body, and soul.

08-02-2005, 01:13 PM	#12 (permalink)
Alycia help123 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: winona, Mn Posts: 262	also can anybody tell me how to change my name, it sucks. thank you __________________ Please God grant me salvation, and give me the motivation,to stop using, and quick abusing, my mind, body, and soul.

08-02-2005, 01:49 PM	#13 (permalink)
Chance JUST DO IT!! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Here Or There Posts: 7,090 Blog Entries: 9	I actually like it Alycia try going around with a name Vic and your a guy LOL __________________ With Love and Respect Vic Life isn't yesterday or tomorrow it is in the now.....

08-02-2005, 04:42 PM	#14 (permalink)
Alycia help123 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: winona, Mn Posts: 262	I like my really name but not my screen name, sillly __________________ Please God grant me salvation, and give me the motivation,to stop using, and quick abusing, my mind, body, and soul.

08-02-2005, 05:58 PM	#15 (permalink)
eddie z. No expectations! Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 7,606	Alycia, Here is a link to my poll thread. And a link to the Newcomers board. Sorry I can't help you with the name change, though. Love and hugs, Eddie

08-02-2005, 09:18 PM	#16 (permalink)
Alycia help123 Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: winona, Mn Posts: 262	thanks, also, they say everyone has a twin, u do in my town, her name is trisha and she 26, I can't believe how much u look like her.... I just got my puter and internet and this forum is my favorite, u can't keep me off it. There is so much to do on internet that it scares me kind of, I don't know what to do, got any ideas? have a good one __________________ Please God grant me salvation, and give me the motivation,to stop using, and quick abusing, my mind, body, and soul.

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08-03-2005, 07:49 AM	#18 (permalink)
Blake I'm an addict. Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Hyde Park, NY Posts: 1,201	Hey alycia, The only way I know to change your screen name is to re-register. If you really dislike your screen name you should do it before you get a shitload of posts under your belt. Just re-register and post in here with your new screen name to let eveyone know it is you. Later, Blake __________________ Warning: I'm a sick person so take any advice I may be spewing with a grain of salt, but it's what has worked for me, so far.

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