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spun_8_ball · 07-04-2005, 04:48 PM

god now they are really back,,,, i am so aggrivated and i want them to go away. the urges are ******* killing me. i am so stressed out what can i do besides so to some freakin NA bullshit meeting..

shestruggles · 07-04-2005, 05:09 PM

How long have you been in recovery??

What can you do?
Sit on your hands and wait for it to pass...
Jump up and down and scream bloody murder...
Take a shower/bath (in cold water)..
Go for a run...

These are just a few of the things I've resorted to

stormyautumn · 07-04-2005, 05:16 PM

I don't knwo what you like to do but sometimes when I get the urge I take a piece of paper and start writing down how much I hate the feeling and cursing the DOC. It helps a little. Then when I'm done I save it...I've written some pretty fiery stuff too. The next time I get an urge I read what I wrote in fury and it some how passes seeing how crazy the urge got me. I also get outside, come on here, read about recovery, read other things, bake, crosswords. One day I took about 6 showers because I knew I am calm in the shower...Whatever works do it.

Jane63 · 07-05-2005, 01:20 AM

Hey {{{8-ball}}},
I hope this finds you feeling better about things! I agree with the other posters ideas and sitting in a warm tub of water does calm you down...maybe even having a good cry and getting it all out?! Go for a walk or sit outside and try to pick out all the different sounds you hear...look for the good gifts that are often overlooked! And maybe a meeting wouldn't be so bad once you got there and got with others who might be feeling or have felt the same way?
Just please try to stay focused and remember that the urges will subside and that having them won't kill you but using again could! You hang in there, OK?!!
Jane

sumtimes slowly · 07-05-2005, 02:17 AM

Hi Spun,

Well, you are journaling about it here and that takes a lot of the power out of it.

I've had that feeling about the meetings lots of times, espcially when I'd have strong cravings. I'd much rather talk to a trusted sponsor during such times than open up about some stuff in meetings, but I'd take the meeting if sponsor was not available. A lot of these solutions just work better in 3D.

Another thing I'd do (as a last resort), and some didn't like this, is sit down, face the pain of the strong urge and say, OK urge, I see you, it's hurting, I don't like it, but I accept it so hurt if you must hurt. Me and my HP are gonna ride this one out.

That's not a fun thing but something I have to stay in practice doing because life throws me a bunch of stuff I don't like. I deflect some of it, disagree with some, deny some, feel a lot more of it, accept what I can and have to.

It's getting better all the time (all the time I stay in the solution and out of the problem). Sometimes I gotta get our of my own way and just let good things happen.

Keep it up Spun!

Peace,

sumtimes slowly

Jane63 · 07-06-2005, 01:00 PM

Hey 8-ball...where you at?? I hope you are doing better and this day finds you more at peace with yourself! Please post soon!
Take care!
Jane

KelKel · 07-06-2005, 01:19 PM

Getting out of self... is exactly what you may need to do... that may entail attending one of "those" damn NA meetings...

spun_8_ball · 07-08-2005, 06:15 PM

yeah that night i pretty much did what everyone said. i went outside had a few ciggs then came inside took a freezing cold shower then wrote things down it pretty much all helped. i have been recovering here and there since december area.

leileikattx · 07-08-2005, 09:38 PM

Hey Spun,

I just came out of a craving from hell. Been clean 44 days and today it hit me so hard. Had the phone in my hand and was set to dial, but I tell you the thing that got me through. I played the tape in my head over and over and over with different endings all the way to envisioning my arrest if I were to have taken the risk and gotten caught. After doing that for a good 30 minutes I went to a meeting and yes, honestly, continued the process there. I got to my car after the meeting and prayed to my Higher Power for strength and I got through it. To tell you the truth in looking back over the evening I am relieved and proud of myself. I know it's tough, but you can get through it too. Remember to have hope...

Peace...

KelKel · 07-08-2005, 10:51 PM

Kattx
I am proud for you as well, it is no easy feat, this thing we do one day at a time, sometimes one minute ata time.

07-04-2005, 04:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
spun_8_ball Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Ca Posts: 14	urges are back god now they are really back,,,, i am so aggrivated and i want them to go away. the urges are ******* killing me. i am so stressed out what can i do besides so to some freakin NA bullshit meeting..

07-04-2005, 05:09 PM	#2 (permalink)
shestruggles Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: waysouth Posts: 394	How long have you been in recovery?? What can you do? Sit on your hands and wait for it to pass... Jump up and down and scream bloody murder... Take a shower/bath (in cold water).. Go for a run... These are just a few of the things I've resorted to __________________ "Things do not change; we change" (Henry David Thoreau)

07-04-2005, 05:16 PM	#3 (permalink)
stormyautumn Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 944	I don't knwo what you like to do but sometimes when I get the urge I take a piece of paper and start writing down how much I hate the feeling and cursing the DOC. It helps a little. Then when I'm done I save it...I've written some pretty fiery stuff too. The next time I get an urge I read what I wrote in fury and it some how passes seeing how crazy the urge got me. I also get outside, come on here, read about recovery, read other things, bake, crosswords. One day I took about 6 showers because I knew I am calm in the shower...Whatever works do it. __________________ "If life is a bowl of cherries; what am I always doing in the pits" - Erma Bombeck

07-08-2005, 09:38 PM	#9 (permalink)
leileikattx Kattx Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Houston, TX Posts: 7	Hey Spun, I just came out of a craving from hell. Been clean 44 days and today it hit me so hard. Had the phone in my hand and was set to dial, but I tell you the thing that got me through. I played the tape in my head over and over and over with different endings all the way to envisioning my arrest if I were to have taken the risk and gotten caught. After doing that for a good 30 minutes I went to a meeting and yes, honestly, continued the process there. I got to my car after the meeting and prayed to my Higher Power for strength and I got through it. To tell you the truth in looking back over the evening I am relieved and proud of myself. I know it's tough, but you can get through it too. Remember to have hope... Peace... __________________ Kattx

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07-05-2005, 01:20 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jane63 Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,928 Blog Entries: 8	Hey {{{8-ball}}}, I hope this finds you feeling better about things! I agree with the other posters ideas and sitting in a warm tub of water does calm you down...maybe even having a good cry and getting it all out?! Go for a walk or sit outside and try to pick out all the different sounds you hear...look for the good gifts that are often overlooked! And maybe a meeting wouldn't be so bad once you got there and got with others who might be feeling or have felt the same way? Just please try to stay focused and remember that the urges will subside and that having them won't kill you but using again could! You hang in there, OK?!! Jane

07-05-2005, 02:17 AM	#5 (permalink)
sumtimes slowly Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Trabuco Canyon, CA Posts: 13	Hi Spun, Well, you are journaling about it here and that takes a lot of the power out of it. I've had that feeling about the meetings lots of times, espcially when I'd have strong cravings. I'd much rather talk to a trusted sponsor during such times than open up about some stuff in meetings, but I'd take the meeting if sponsor was not available. A lot of these solutions just work better in 3D. Another thing I'd do (as a last resort), and some didn't like this, is sit down, face the pain of the strong urge and say, OK urge, I see you, it's hurting, I don't like it, but I accept it so hurt if you must hurt. Me and my HP are gonna ride this one out. That's not a fun thing but something I have to stay in practice doing because life throws me a bunch of stuff I don't like. I deflect some of it, disagree with some, deny some, feel a lot more of it, accept what I can and have to. It's getting better all the time (all the time I stay in the solution and out of the problem). Sometimes I gotta get our of my own way and just let good things happen. Keep it up Spun! Peace, sumtimes slowly

07-06-2005, 01:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
Jane63 Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,928 Blog Entries: 8	Hey 8-ball...where you at?? I hope you are doing better and this day finds you more at peace with yourself! Please post soon! Take care! Jane

07-06-2005, 01:19 PM	#7 (permalink)
KelKel Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert Posts: 2,313	Getting out of self... is exactly what you may need to do... that may entail attending one of "those" damn NA meetings...

07-08-2005, 06:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
spun_8_ball Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Ca Posts: 14	yeah that night i pretty much did what everyone said. i went outside had a few ciggs then came inside took a freezing cold shower then wrote things down it pretty much all helped. i have been recovering here and there since december area.

07-08-2005, 10:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
KelKel Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Mohave Desert Posts: 2,313	Kattx I am proud for you as well, it is no easy feat, this thing we do one day at a time, sometimes one minute ata time.

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