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ttchooch · 08-18-2004, 04:01 PM

i have a friend of 23 years who for some reason started using cocaine,he is neglecting his children and wife she called me and his brother for help..we are heading up to michigan to help him does anyone have any advice on approches or ways to get him into rehab....
Thank you,
tony

ButterflyChaser · 08-19-2004, 10:42 AM

you can't make that person do anything or force him into rehab, the only way is WHEN HE IS READY for help, he's not gonna want the help unless he really really wants it! If you try to force this person, they only become rebelious!!!!! When he's sick & tired of being sick & tired, he'll grt the help he needs or wants!! BUT HE'S GOTTA WANT IT!!
Good Luck!!

alqaedagirl · 08-25-2004, 02:42 AM

If you go to see your friend with the intention of him going into a rehab program as a result of you going there, I do not think that will be effective at all because he will not go to rehab just because you go and see him, no matter what you do or say. He won't do it for you if he can't even do it for himself.
Like ButterflyChaser said: he's gotta want to do it himself and be ready.
The best advise that I could give you is to just be supportive of your friend, always. Accept him, never judge him, and most important stay his friend.
Good luck to your friend.
alqaedagirl

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ttchooch Paused Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: toledo ohio Posts: 1	help i have a friend of 23 years who for some reason started using cocaine,he is neglecting his children and wife she called me and his brother for help..we are heading up to michigan to help him does anyone have any advice on approches or ways to get him into rehab.... Thank you, tony

08-19-2004, 10:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
ButterflyChaser Meow! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,023	you can't make that person do anything or force him into rehab, the only way is WHEN HE IS READY for help, he's not gonna want the help unless he really really wants it! If you try to force this person, they only become rebelious!!!!! When he's sick & tired of being sick & tired, he'll grt the help he needs or wants!! BUT HE'S GOTTA WANT IT!! Good Luck!! __________________ "If a Child feels Safe, Wanted & Loved, You are a Successful Parent!" ~~"A relationship is like sand in your hand. If held loosely in the palm of your hand it stays there, but as soon as you close your hand tightly it slips through your fingers!!~~

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08-25-2004, 02:42 AM	#3 (permalink)
alqaedagirl Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: canada Posts: 8	If you go to see your friend with the intention of him going into a rehab program as a result of you going there, I do not think that will be effective at all because he will not go to rehab just because you go and see him, no matter what you do or say. He won't do it for you if he can't even do it for himself. Like ButterflyChaser said: he's gotta want to do it himself and be ready. The best advise that I could give you is to just be supportive of your friend, always. Accept him, never judge him, and most important stay his friend. Good luck to your friend. alqaedagirl

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