hamandcheese

When crisis is at yr door it all seems so clear. But you can't carry that trauma and shame and guilt with you indefinitely. But you can't forget it either.

It's a tough line to walk.

Dee74

Coming here helps me not forget - I read variations of my story every day.

But I've stopped beating mysaelf up for my past.

I can't change a second of my past...I do a lot with these 24 hours tho....

I think that's a good place for your focus to be H&C


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hamandcheese

Thnx D.

"One day at a time" has been helpful for sure.

But we all have a tendency to forget the bad times and only remember the good. Like an old lover.

I guess that's why (in part) the 12th step is to help other addicts. So that you never forget the truth of yr own story.

Marcus

We do have a tendency to forget the bad times, but for me as I got further into recovery whenever a using thought came all I could remember were the bad times. I am not saying I never look back and remember the good times and reminisce once in a while, but when it counted and when my mind started to go there the bad horrible experiences came flooding in. I am not quite sure when the change took place, but it is quite empowering once I got to that point. Just keep on keeping on. It gets better I promise!

leviathan

a tough line, indeed. my biggest struggle in the sobriety game. i can remember the fun times without much effect. obviously, i know that it serves no good purpose to glamorize...

guilt and shame over poor decisions and lost time, however...

discomfort spurs the need to change, so im grateful. i am a ninja MASTER at beating myself up, though. mindfulness is a discipline i enjoy. i just need more discipline. LOL!