Going into Sixth Month Vicodin Free and Still Suffering!
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Going into Sixth Month Vicodin Free and Still Suffering!
Well, I'm still teed off lol
My husband has been very brave. He has been successful in staying off all narcotics for over five months now. He was an 11-year Vicodin/morphine/Norco addict. When he quit, he was taking anywhere between 6 to 9 Norcos a day. I can't honestly say he's been sober -- he started downing energy drinks (Monster mostly) soon after he quit the Norcos to ease the pain of withdrawal. However, he stopped doing that about two weeks ago. He also will smoke a bowl or two or pot at night to help him sleep. Marijuana is not his thing -- he hated it when he had his Norcos.
The thing is we both thought he would feel better by now, but he does not. He vomited repeatedly this morning and was clammy, feeling hot and cold. The nausea and clamminess come and go, but he constantly feels tweaky, sore all over, has fuzzy thinking, needs to sleep a lot but has trouble falling asleep, and is so tense that he holds himself "tight" all the time (imagine someone who looks like they're freezing).
His doctor is useless. Every time my husband goes to see him, he asks if my husband is still using. When we both assure the doctor the answer is no, he makes it clear he doesn't believe us and just keeps prescribing Klonopin and Clonidine and insisting that if my husband stops taking the Norcos and takes these medications as prescribed, he will eventually feel better. This is not true because he HAS stayed off the Norcos and taken his medications as prescribed. I dole these meds out to him, he takes them as prescribed, and still he suffers.
Does anyone know what's going on? Has anyone else suffered as intensely after over five months of sobriety as they did when they first stopped using? I know everyone's experience is different, that recovery times vary, but OMG! How long will my baby have to suffer? He feels like using again because NOT using is killing him. Could this possibly be a psychological problem rather than a physical one? I know he's got issues, and he's going to start seeing a therapist next week, but I highly doubt that he's making himself throw up. He HATES to vomit...I mean he -- just take my word for it lol
Thanks, guys. It's so comforting to know you are here, and your comments are always helpful. :-)
My husband has been very brave. He has been successful in staying off all narcotics for over five months now. He was an 11-year Vicodin/morphine/Norco addict. When he quit, he was taking anywhere between 6 to 9 Norcos a day. I can't honestly say he's been sober -- he started downing energy drinks (Monster mostly) soon after he quit the Norcos to ease the pain of withdrawal. However, he stopped doing that about two weeks ago. He also will smoke a bowl or two or pot at night to help him sleep. Marijuana is not his thing -- he hated it when he had his Norcos.
The thing is we both thought he would feel better by now, but he does not. He vomited repeatedly this morning and was clammy, feeling hot and cold. The nausea and clamminess come and go, but he constantly feels tweaky, sore all over, has fuzzy thinking, needs to sleep a lot but has trouble falling asleep, and is so tense that he holds himself "tight" all the time (imagine someone who looks like they're freezing).
His doctor is useless. Every time my husband goes to see him, he asks if my husband is still using. When we both assure the doctor the answer is no, he makes it clear he doesn't believe us and just keeps prescribing Klonopin and Clonidine and insisting that if my husband stops taking the Norcos and takes these medications as prescribed, he will eventually feel better. This is not true because he HAS stayed off the Norcos and taken his medications as prescribed. I dole these meds out to him, he takes them as prescribed, and still he suffers.
Does anyone know what's going on? Has anyone else suffered as intensely after over five months of sobriety as they did when they first stopped using? I know everyone's experience is different, that recovery times vary, but OMG! How long will my baby have to suffer? He feels like using again because NOT using is killing him. Could this possibly be a psychological problem rather than a physical one? I know he's got issues, and he's going to start seeing a therapist next week, but I highly doubt that he's making himself throw up. He HATES to vomit...I mean he -- just take my word for it lol
Thanks, guys. It's so comforting to know you are here, and your comments are always helpful. :-)
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MMM...what worries me about the symptoms you have described are that he had still been using decided to quit and is not in the first part of full fledged withdrawal. If he does not take anything or use for about one week. He should be all the way through withdrawal. The hot and cold is a symptom that stars in the first day and stays around for a few days. That why alot of us suggest multiple hot showers as needed.
His doctor gave him those two medications for two purposes...1 for increased heart rate and blood pressure and the other one for anxiety. The clonidine also helps with restless legs. I would not be so convinced that he wasn't using in the past 2 weeks. Even one pill will send him backwards in his withdrawal.
He needs to ride it out. And not use. The only other explaination is that he really does have the flu.
His doctor gave him those two medications for two purposes...1 for increased heart rate and blood pressure and the other one for anxiety. The clonidine also helps with restless legs. I would not be so convinced that he wasn't using in the past 2 weeks. Even one pill will send him backwards in his withdrawal.
He needs to ride it out. And not use. The only other explaination is that he really does have the flu.
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MMM...what worries me about the symptoms you have described are that he had still been using decided to quit and is not in the first part of full fledged withdrawal. If he does not take anything or use for about one week. He should be all the way through withdrawal. The hot and cold is a symptom that stars in the first day and stays around for a few days. That why alot of us suggest multiple hot showers as needed.
His doctor gave him those two medications for two purposes...1 for increased heart rate and blood pressure and the other one for anxiety. The clonidine also helps with restless legs. I would not be so convinced that he wasn't using in the past 2 weeks. Even one pill will send him backwards in his withdrawal.
He needs to ride it out. And not use. The only other explaination is that he really does have the flu.
His doctor gave him those two medications for two purposes...1 for increased heart rate and blood pressure and the other one for anxiety. The clonidine also helps with restless legs. I would not be so convinced that he wasn't using in the past 2 weeks. Even one pill will send him backwards in his withdrawal.
He needs to ride it out. And not use. The only other explaination is that he really does have the flu.
Well, your comments explain why his doctor refuses to believe he's clean. ::sigh:: Okay. I don't know how he could have managed it, but I suppose he COULD have used again. I really don't think he has because I keep close tabs on him and our money and valuables, and he has always been brutally honest with me in this regard. If he slipped, he would tell me. But if he did use again, he would have had opportunity only within the last week to do so. That would explain him feeling worse NOW, but it doesn't explain the other three months of suffering he has experienced (I'm subtracting his first clean month from his sobriety time to allow for true withdrawal).
I don't know. I'm out of answers here and just so sick and tired of him being, well, sick and tired. And I'm worried too. I'm beginning to think there's something seriously wrong with him, and it ain't the flu, you know? Maybe his therapist can shed some light on the problem.
Anybody else out there have any ideas or similar experiences?
Again, thank you for responding and good luck with whatever has brought you to this site. :-)
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Opiate addiction can make mess you up badly for a long time. I'm 19 months clean and I still suffer from some mild effects. Maybe I will forever. I don't come close to vomiting or anything like that, but I'm still somewhat sensitive to hot and cold and my skin can get clammy too (didn't happen before I used). I'm somewhat more tense than before I used and often have trouble fully relaxing. These symptoms come and go and seem to lessen in severity and frequency as time goes by.
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My husband DOC was pain pills. I was a super sleuth, warden, babysitter....a die hard codependent. I had complete control over the money, nothing was ever missing, etc.... He was attending meetings, had a sponsor, counted and shared his clean days.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
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My husband DOC was pain pills. I was a super sleuth, warden, babysitter....a die hard codependent. I had complete control over the money, nothing was ever missing, etc.... He was attending meetings, had a sponsor, counted and shared his clean days.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
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My husband DOC was pain pills. I was a super sleuth, warden, babysitter....a die hard codependent. I had complete control over the money, nothing was ever missing, etc.... He was attending meetings, had a sponsor, counted and shared his clean days.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
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Well, I'm still teed off lol
My husband has been very brave. He has been successful in staying off all narcotics for over five months now. He was an 11-year Vicodin/morphine/Norco addict. When he quit, he was taking anywhere between 6 to 9 Norcos a day. I can't honestly say he's been sober -- he started downing energy drinks (Monster mostly) soon after he quit the Norcos to ease the pain of withdrawal. However, he stopped doing that about two weeks ago. He also will smoke a bowl or two or pot at night to help him sleep. Marijuana is not his thing -- he hated it when he had his Norcos.
The thing is we both thought he would feel better by now, but he does not. He vomited repeatedly this morning and was clammy, feeling hot and cold. The nausea and clamminess come and go, but he constantly feels tweaky, sore all over, has fuzzy thinking, needs to sleep a lot but has trouble falling asleep, and is so tense that he holds himself "tight" all the time (imagine someone who looks like they're freezing).
His doctor is useless. Every time my husband goes to see him, he asks if my husband is still using. When we both assure the doctor the answer is no, he makes it clear he doesn't believe us and just keeps prescribing Klonopin and Clonidine and insisting that if my husband stops taking the Norcos and takes these medications as prescribed, he will eventually feel better. This is not true because he HAS stayed off the Norcos and taken his medications as prescribed. I dole these meds out to him, he takes them as prescribed, and still he suffers.
Does anyone know what's going on? Has anyone else suffered as intensely after over five months of sobriety as they did when they first stopped using? I know everyone's experience is different, that recovery times vary, but OMG! How long will my baby have to suffer? He feels like using again because NOT using is killing him. Could this possibly be a psychological problem rather than a physical one? I know he's got issues, and he's going to start seeing a therapist next week, but I highly doubt that he's making himself throw up. He HATES to vomit...I mean he -- just take my word for it lol
Thanks, guys. It's so comforting to know you are here, and your comments are always helpful. :-)
My husband has been very brave. He has been successful in staying off all narcotics for over five months now. He was an 11-year Vicodin/morphine/Norco addict. When he quit, he was taking anywhere between 6 to 9 Norcos a day. I can't honestly say he's been sober -- he started downing energy drinks (Monster mostly) soon after he quit the Norcos to ease the pain of withdrawal. However, he stopped doing that about two weeks ago. He also will smoke a bowl or two or pot at night to help him sleep. Marijuana is not his thing -- he hated it when he had his Norcos.
The thing is we both thought he would feel better by now, but he does not. He vomited repeatedly this morning and was clammy, feeling hot and cold. The nausea and clamminess come and go, but he constantly feels tweaky, sore all over, has fuzzy thinking, needs to sleep a lot but has trouble falling asleep, and is so tense that he holds himself "tight" all the time (imagine someone who looks like they're freezing).
His doctor is useless. Every time my husband goes to see him, he asks if my husband is still using. When we both assure the doctor the answer is no, he makes it clear he doesn't believe us and just keeps prescribing Klonopin and Clonidine and insisting that if my husband stops taking the Norcos and takes these medications as prescribed, he will eventually feel better. This is not true because he HAS stayed off the Norcos and taken his medications as prescribed. I dole these meds out to him, he takes them as prescribed, and still he suffers.
Does anyone know what's going on? Has anyone else suffered as intensely after over five months of sobriety as they did when they first stopped using? I know everyone's experience is different, that recovery times vary, but OMG! How long will my baby have to suffer? He feels like using again because NOT using is killing him. Could this possibly be a psychological problem rather than a physical one? I know he's got issues, and he's going to start seeing a therapist next week, but I highly doubt that he's making himself throw up. He HATES to vomit...I mean he -- just take my word for it lol
Thanks, guys. It's so comforting to know you are here, and your comments are always helpful. :-)
1. He needs to be attending NA meetings, whether he wants to or not. It should not be an option. His continued recovery depends upon that, and...
2. He needs to be off ALL drugs. Until he is, his brain can't begin the repairs that are necessary in order for him to recover physically, and until he recovers physically, he won't be able to live a normal life.
3. Dump that doctor immediately. Any physician who gives benzodiazepines to an addict not only knows little or nothing about addiction, he's also harming the addict. Klonopin and its entire class of drugs are poison for addicts, because they maintain the imbalance of neurotransmitters that causes (physical) addiction in the first place. In addition to that, benzos themselves are one of the more highly addictive substances. The doc doesn't know what he's doing.
The only reason to give benzodiazepines to an addict is for alleviation of certain symptoms during acute withdrawal. There are other drugs that will treat anxiety if needed, which are acceptable for addicts. That's why you need a doc who knows what she's doing.
Hubby needs a professional inpatient medical detox at a facility that understands withdrawal and how to treat it. Benzo withdrawal can be dangerous due to seizures and blood pressure spikes. The Clonidine alone might not be enough to protect him. He also needs the education and support he would get in a good facility.
Visit the SAAMHSA website for a list of certified detox facilities.
He was doing very well until this past Dec when he broke his arm in a NA softball game. (the irony is almost unbelievable). He required surgery, 7 screws, a plate and of course pain meds.
He has been struggling ever since with his addiction. To answer your question, when I get back from a trip on the 23nd, I will be making a move.
Although, I have tried to work my own "recovery" with Alanon, a therapist and a CoDa support group, I can see that I am still his enabler and I can not get healthy with him and I together.
I have detoxed from 2 opiates. Methadone and vicodin.
Never tried heroin, thank God!!
Methadone was anywhere from 35 - 60mgs. Daily. Withdrawals were horrible and lasted about a month. This was after tapering for a couple of month.
Vicodin was get a prescription, blast thru it, about 6a day. On 2 weeks, withdrawal for 2 weeks.
I'm starting over again actually.
Methadone made my vicodin withdrawals look like a walk in the park.
I understand it will be worse depending on dosage and how long you have abused the drug.
It does sound like he has been messing with them. If he wants them bad enough, he will figure out how. That's just how the addict mind works.
He should be well thru the bad withdrawals.
I also agree about the benzos. Giving them to an addict is risky. There are non narcotic alternatives.
Good luck!!=)
Never tried heroin, thank God!!
Methadone was anywhere from 35 - 60mgs. Daily. Withdrawals were horrible and lasted about a month. This was after tapering for a couple of month.
Vicodin was get a prescription, blast thru it, about 6a day. On 2 weeks, withdrawal for 2 weeks.
I'm starting over again actually.
Methadone made my vicodin withdrawals look like a walk in the park.
I understand it will be worse depending on dosage and how long you have abused the drug.
It does sound like he has been messing with them. If he wants them bad enough, he will figure out how. That's just how the addict mind works.
He should be well thru the bad withdrawals.
I also agree about the benzos. Giving them to an addict is risky. There are non narcotic alternatives.
Good luck!!=)
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Honestly MOST doctors will not give out benzos for withdrawl. My doctor did but he knew my husbad was going to control them and I was only to take them for 4 days and then quit. He was very reluctant to give me them but he did it for me. The clondine was more helpful.
I hope he can get better soon. It does take months to even long term to get rid of symptoms and sometimes those are hard on a person and sends them towards relapse. I hope he can get clean.
I hope he can get better soon. It does take months to even long term to get rid of symptoms and sometimes those are hard on a person and sends them towards relapse. I hope he can get clean.
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I can only relate my personal experience as a former opiate user. I used Vicodin for 10 years with OxyContin boosters the last 2 years. Approx. 100mg/day towards the end. I'm almost 9 months clean now. I still only get about 6 hours of sleep per night and when I'm real tired I still get RLS too. I'm also much more sensitive to cold weather than I used to be. Other than those symptoms I am thoroughly enjoying being free of narcotics. The symptoms the OP describes her husband as having after being "clean" for so long sounds very unusual. I don't wanna rain on anybody's parade here and everyone is truly different but I suspect there may be some "chipping" going on which would explain the protracted symptoms. The body and mind really do take time to find their balance after long term use of opiates. I'm still working on it but it gets better every day. The only catch is people like me can't ever pick up again, not even one time, or the beast may wake up and start wreaking havoc in my life again. Not worth the chance. Good luck.
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I agree with FMTT and everyone else indicating that he is still using. Somehow pot smoking has taken on the aura of using like it's aspirin. It is a drug. It is a drug sufficient to draw an addict like me into its web just like all the others. He has to stop EVERYTHING in order to stop withdrawing.
I am at 10 months and fully agree with the joy of being away from this crap but also the fear of recurrence.
I am at 10 months and fully agree with the joy of being away from this crap but also the fear of recurrence.
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Opiate addiction can make mess you up badly for a long time. I'm 19 months clean and I still suffer from some mild effects. Maybe I will forever. I don't come close to vomiting or anything like that, but I'm still somewhat sensitive to hot and cold and my skin can get clammy too (didn't happen before I used). I'm somewhat more tense than before I used and often have trouble fully relaxing. These symptoms come and go and seem to lessen in severity and frequency as time goes by.
I suggest you read the attached article which explains why we don't get better right away
I suggest you read the attached article which explains why we don't get better right away
I also took note of the author's discussion on the issue of stress. I'm sure I've been a major source of stress for him -- I SUCK. It's just that it's so frustrating...I mean the dude's just not all there. I feel abandoned...actually, I really HAVE been abandoned: emotionally, financially...in every way. But I'm simply gonna have to get over it for a while. I understand that now. His self-esteem is nil, his feelings of guilt are palpable (he apologizes ad nauseum for everything)...but I've got to find a way to not exacerbate his symptoms by doing anything to elevate his already skyrocketing level of stress.
Major kudos to you for getting and staying clean for 19 months. That's simply amazing! And even though you are still experiencing symptoms from time to time, it sounds like you're managing them. I read your comments to my husband, and you've given both of us a precious gift: HOPE.
I'm so grateful to you for the article and your comments.
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My husband DOC was pain pills. I was a super sleuth, warden, babysitter....a die hard codependent. I had complete control over the money, nothing was ever missing, etc.... He was attending meetings, had a sponsor, counted and shared his clean days.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
All while still using!!!!!!!!!! IMO, an honest addict is an oxymoron.
In my original post, I stated that he had stopped drinking energy drinks about two or three weeks ago. I found out though that he did have a couple of Monsters within that one-week period of time during which I thought he might have had opportunity to use. (The Bible told me so! lol) I'm thoroughly convinced now that P.A.W.S. is the source of his misery (AND Monster), not Vicodin.
Thank you for your comment. It's ALWAYS helpful to be reminded of the dishonest nature of addicts.
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What is going on is that your husband isn't clean yet, and his scrambled brain chemistry is causing him to go in and out of withdrawal with fluctuations in his meds. The pot is making it worse.
1. He needs to be attending NA meetings, whether he wants to or not. It should not be an option. His continued recovery depends upon that, and...
2. He needs to be off ALL drugs. Until he is, his brain can't begin the repairs that are necessary in order for him to recover physically, and until he recovers physically, he won't be able to live a normal life.
3. Dump that doctor immediately. Any physician who gives benzodiazepines to an addict not only knows little or nothing about addiction, he's also harming the addict. Klonopin and its entire class of drugs are poison for addicts, because they maintain the imbalance of neurotransmitters that causes (physical) addiction in the first place. In addition to that, benzos themselves are one of the more highly addictive substances. The doc doesn't know what he's doing.
The only reason to give benzodiazepines to an addict is for alleviation of certain symptoms during acute withdrawal. There are other drugs that will treat anxiety if needed, which are acceptable for addicts. That's why you need a doc who knows what she's doing.
Hubby needs a professional inpatient medical detox at a facility that understands withdrawal and how to treat it. Benzo withdrawal can be dangerous due to seizures and blood pressure spikes. The Clonidine alone might not be enough to protect him. He also needs the education and support he would get in a good facility.
Visit the SAAMHSA website for a list of certified detox facilities.
1. He needs to be attending NA meetings, whether he wants to or not. It should not be an option. His continued recovery depends upon that, and...
2. He needs to be off ALL drugs. Until he is, his brain can't begin the repairs that are necessary in order for him to recover physically, and until he recovers physically, he won't be able to live a normal life.
3. Dump that doctor immediately. Any physician who gives benzodiazepines to an addict not only knows little or nothing about addiction, he's also harming the addict. Klonopin and its entire class of drugs are poison for addicts, because they maintain the imbalance of neurotransmitters that causes (physical) addiction in the first place. In addition to that, benzos themselves are one of the more highly addictive substances. The doc doesn't know what he's doing.
The only reason to give benzodiazepines to an addict is for alleviation of certain symptoms during acute withdrawal. There are other drugs that will treat anxiety if needed, which are acceptable for addicts. That's why you need a doc who knows what she's doing.
Hubby needs a professional inpatient medical detox at a facility that understands withdrawal and how to treat it. Benzo withdrawal can be dangerous due to seizures and blood pressure spikes. The Clonidine alone might not be enough to protect him. He also needs the education and support he would get in a good facility.
Visit the SAAMHSA website for a list of certified detox facilities.
2. Hubby's doctor -- consider him dumped.
3. NA meetings -- he attends them regularly even though he hates them. That was a condition (boundary?) I established early on in this process.
4. We can't afford inpatient detox -- I researched them and they are costly, and we have no medical insurance.
4. The Klonopin -- Hubby is/was addicted to that too, and so the doctor was tapering him off of it. He tried to go off it cold turkey when he quit the Vicodin, but the resulting headaches were unbearable for him. I could actually hear his head "purring" from the pressure of the blood traveling through his brain. It was frightening. He was down from three or four milligrams a day to only two until recently. His therapist increased his dosage back up to three milligrams daily because of his acute anxiety AND Obsessive/Compulsive Disorder, for which Klonopin was originally created to treat. I feel at a loss as to how to deal with this problem. I'll discuss it with Hubby and see if there is any possibility he would be willing to continue the tapering-off process and endure increased anxiety in the short term for his long-term well-being. I know this suggestion will be met with great resistance. Wish me luck.
5. Hubby's therapist is going to refer him to a shrink to adjust his meds. I'll make sure the shrink (they're nothing more than pill dispensers these days IMO) knows that the Klonopin should be replaced with one of those drugs you alluded to that are appropriate for addicts. Well, as soon as hubby has tapered off enough to discontinue his Klonopin use entirely without harmful results.
Great post!
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I agree with FMTT and everyone else indicating that he is still using. Somehow pot smoking has taken on the aura of using like it's aspirin. It is a drug. It is a drug sufficient to draw an addict like me into its web just like all the others. He has to stop EVERYTHING in order to stop withdrawing.
I am at 10 months and fully agree with the joy of being away from this crap but also the fear of recurrence.
I am at 10 months and fully agree with the joy of being away from this crap but also the fear of recurrence.
I'm sorry you, FMTT, and others think hubby is still using (Vicodin). However, I realize that experience has taught you lessons that you are sharing with me, and I appreciate that, but the comments here re PAWS make perfect sense to both of us. Every day he gets up, feels awful, and begs me to explain to him why he's not feeling any better. We now have some plausible answers to this question (the pot, energy drinks, and Klonopin being the culprits, i.e. he's not really "clean"), and renewed hope as a result.
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Hiya TeedofWife,
I cannot advise you on this matter as I have never been through the full withdrawal process. I applaud you for wanting to help, support n be there for your husband.
However, can I ask what you are doing for YOU? You matter too n you need to take care of yourself. There is a friends n family section here if you would like to talk to like-minded people. Please do not think I'm suggesting you not come to this section as you are more than welcome.
I really hope your husband gets better n wish you both the very best.
Evey
I cannot advise you on this matter as I have never been through the full withdrawal process. I applaud you for wanting to help, support n be there for your husband.
However, can I ask what you are doing for YOU? You matter too n you need to take care of yourself. There is a friends n family section here if you would like to talk to like-minded people. Please do not think I'm suggesting you not come to this section as you are more than welcome.
I really hope your husband gets better n wish you both the very best.
Evey
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Hiya TeedofWife,
I cannot advise you on this matter as I have never been through the full withdrawal process. I applaud you for wanting to help, support n be there for your husband.
However, can I ask what you are doing for YOU? You matter too n you need to take care of yourself. There is a friends n family section here if you would like to talk to like-minded people. Please do not think I'm suggesting you not come to this section as you are more than welcome.
I really hope your husband gets better n wish you both the very best.
Evey
I cannot advise you on this matter as I have never been through the full withdrawal process. I applaud you for wanting to help, support n be there for your husband.
However, can I ask what you are doing for YOU? You matter too n you need to take care of yourself. There is a friends n family section here if you would like to talk to like-minded people. Please do not think I'm suggesting you not come to this section as you are more than welcome.
I really hope your husband gets better n wish you both the very best.
Evey
What am I doing for me? A lot. I realized my biggest problem right now is finances, and so I decided to move to another state with a lower cost of living to ease my financial distress. I have absolutely no disposable income, but once I do, I'll be able to actively pursue my interests and, in general, greatly improve my quality of life. I've developed a support system of friends who understand addiction, have set appropriate boundaries with my husband, and am simply going about my life in a way that makes sense for ME. I am an addict as well -- my DOC is food -- and so I'm working on staying away from fast food and generally eating better. I'm doing good on that score: I recently found out I'd lost ten pounds...it just seemed to fall off with little to no effort on my part. Feels like I'm gettin' my sh-t together!
I miss my husband (he's absent emotionally and physically a lot of the time due to his withdrawal difficulties), and there's a lot of pain for me to deal with on that score, and so I don't mean to make it sound like everything's fine and all hunky dory. I'm doing almost ALL the packing and planning surrounding our move, and that's where my feelings of abandonment are coming from. This is my problem -- he's truly physically incapacitated -- but overall, things are indeed looking up.
Thank you for telling me about the friends and family section here. I'll check it out and possibly contribute after I get over the horrors of packing and moving. A big hug to you for your concern, and my prayers go out to you.
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