making freinds in recovery

[Toby2k2]

Hi i was a iv heroin user for 4 years and i am now on meth....as we have to brake all contacts with junkie freinds if we want to stand a chance of geting clean life seems to become lonley......i find it imposible to assosiate with normies as they dont understand and mostly dont want to,thats if they no. i find it hard to tell most of them the reel truth as i dont no how they will react this makes making new freinds very hard i cant go to na because i dont beleave in higher powers, dont get me wrong i have no problem with people who do and i wish i could but i dont wich makes recovery so hard going at it alone, i do see a councillor about once every 2 weeks id like to see them every night but they are very busy,,,,,,all that seems to go thru my mind is heroin....my councillor suggests going out to do sport or going to the jym but going places like that if i do meet any 1 i will be living a lie with them right from the start because i cant just say hello my names toby im an x junkie whats yours.......im sure alot of others have gone thru this any tips thankyou


yours in recovery Tobyxxx

[Gooch]

Hey Toby .. I had one or two friends from my using day that quit before i did and I bumped into them at NA meetings. I met some other folks at work who didn't use but were nearly as ecentric as I was and started going out for coffee with them. I ride a motorcycle and attended a few shows and swap meets wher I watched to see who wasn't getting blasted so that gave me an opportunity to develop some other freindships. After a few years of being clean I discovered that I had agreat deal more in common with "normal" people than I first thought.

The first move is the hardest, sometimes just a smile can break the ice. You don't have to tell people your an ex junkie.. You can just tell them your name is Toby and if the topic coomes up later on then you can decide how much you feel comfortable sharing with them.

[ssindi]

I'm sure not every friend you try to make has to know the truth of your inner soul right from the very beginning. Have you considered starting out a friendship without uncovering your herion addiction? I'm no expert on making friends but I don't tell everybody everything about my life. I know, it is easy to want to bear it all and tell everything but some things are better left unsaid until you really know the person. There are some people you just can't trust and that will hurt you and have preformed opinions on certain things. Try to think of other items you can talk about other than just drugs, you have to get out of that cycle too. I still suggest giving NA a try and meeting some recovering addicts there, you never know what will happen. I also would suggest maybe going to a gym or something social like that.

Hey, if you find out I would like to make new friends too

A lot of my contacts are not close because I meet a lot of people from my husbands business but can't really tell them the truth either.