Percocet Addiction?

[Bornwet]

My girlfriend takes or wants Percocet every night. She tells me that it relaxes her after the day. Her argument is that it's nothing more than someone coming home to have a glass of wine.

This scares me and just doesn't seem right. I was in a 5 yr relationship with an alcoholic so I know the signs of that - however Percocet is new to me.

Can this be an addiction? She gets very po'd if I call her on it and ask her not to. She says she is an adult and turns it around on me telling me I don't trust her. This is the same quaking I heard from my ex alcoholic girlfriend.

But I have ni idea if one Perc a day can get someone addicted?

So what say you?

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[krisgrace]

It always starts with just one....
Then 3...
Then 5...
and 7... and then 10 like me.
Where is she getting the pills from?

[Stagebear]

The problem with any opiate is potentiation. The amount of the drug one ingests is rarely enough in the long term to evoke the same high...thus the person needs more. Sooner than later comes the phenomenon of craving...needing rather than wanting the drug.

Having lived with an alchoholic, you are keyed in to the warning signs. Stay keyed in.

[Bornwet]

No she does not have a script for Percocet. She has been taking them from me. I helped clean up my Dad's house after my step mother passed away from cancer and there was a big bottle of Percocet left over. I foolishly took the bottle gave my GF half of the contents and the other half was in my house. So she at least 60 of them. This occurred the middle of August.

Other stuff:
I have ripped my cartilage in my hip and I need a hip resurfacing - I have a script for Vicodin but I maybe take at the most 5-10 a month as I don't like the way it makes me feel but it does get rid of the pain on bad days. So my rate of usage is extremely low. On August 8th I noticed almost all of my Vicodin gone. I asked her about it and she got really angry at me for even thinking she took them.

So you see I took the Percocet thinking I might need it for my hip in the future but the stuff makes me sick so I only took one. No excuse it was wrong and I am an idiot for doing so...

I've found out she has used the 60 Percocet she originally got and has been sneaking out the of the 60 I had. She is always asking me for some.

Like I said I confronted her on this and... Quack Quack Quack... sure enough she turned it all around on me - deja-vu all over again...

I am sick to my stomach over this as I became her enabler/supplier. I threw the rest down the toilet.

I thought maybe I was being overly sensitive because of the previous alcoholic but now I'm thinking my gut is correct... She even said I was being overly sensitive over this. This is the same blame game the alcoholic played on me.

Now I have absolutely no way of knowing if in fact she only took one a day as a "relaxer" like she said or if she woofed down multiple Percs a day.

Dam! I really love this girl and poof it's all happening again.

I am a fool...

Thanks for giving me feedback!

[hello-kitty]

I used to take opiates (percocet, vicodins, oxcotin cut in pieces) to relax. Then I used to take it because when I didn't I felt sick and depressed. And yeah. I didn't take that much but over time your body becomes dependent on it to feel normal.

[krisgrace]

Sounds like she is defensive becasue she does have something to hide. GET RID OF THE PILLS. Or keep them on you at all times. Don't help her addiction.

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by Bornwet

I am a fool...

I was in a 5 yr relationship with an alcoholic so I know the signs of that

Nah, just another codependent.

Welcome!!!

Keep coming back, you'll find a lot of support here.

[Lily]

I would get rid of every pill too. My husband has hidden them from me in the past and my obsession was to look till I found them. I can honestly say once he hid a script and I told him to hide it in the machine shed. (Our shed is HUGE! like big enough for several tractors and other farm equipment.) I went in there, looked around and found the pills within less than 5 minutes in the back of a drawer in his workbench. Right now sounds like she likes them too much, hopefully she is not a full blown addict yet. BTW..if she is, don't blame yourself, you didn't make her that way. Sheila

[ashleek]

I've been clean 30 some days and let me tell you, when my husband would question me about pills....oh my God I got so mad.....he was the biggest sob in the world. That was just me covering it up that I wasn't as bad as I was. Then when I couldn't stop on my own I had to make myself look like an idiot...i felt so small because I had treated him like that...then I was going to tell him I couldn't stop....i was addicted. So, it's been crazy for me but life is wonderful now that I am clean and I thank God for my wonderful husband everyday.

[Celestiale]

Originally Posted by Lily

I would get rid of every pill too. My husband has hidden them from me in the past and my obsession was to look till I found them. I can honestly say once he hid a script and I told him to hide it in the machine shed. (Our shed is HUGE! like big enough for several tractors and other farm equipment.) I went in there, looked around and found the pills within less than 5 minutes in the back of a drawer in his workbench. Right now sounds like she likes them too much, hopefully she is not a full blown addict yet. BTW..if she is, don't blame yourself, you didn't make her that way. Sheila

OMG this is ME...yes, I spent hours trying to find them at times...and I always did. The longer it took me to locate them, the more I would feel entitled to take...is that f'd up or what!

If your supply is low and it wasn't because of you...then yes, she took them. I would get defensive and lie about it when I got accused too. If she's doing it daily, she WILL become dependent and that leads to addiction. She's just making excuses, she may be an adult, but her logic doesn't make much sense. I hope so much that she will stop for your sake. I'm only on day 12 without pills, so I feel very close to the issue, and I can definitely see red flags from her.

[christin1225]

Originally Posted by Celestiale

If she's doing it daily, she WILL become dependent and that leads to addiction.

It worked exactly the opposite for me. Immediately, I became addicted to the way that the pills made me feel which compelled me to take them regularly enough and long enough to become dependent and then. Then, voila! I had both sides of the coin: psychological addiction and physical addiction.

Your girlfriend didn't need any more than the first pill to get addicted. You take them for pain in spite of the way that they make you feel. She takes them because of the way that they make her feel. That's why she's addicted and you're not.

(And yes, if we were betting, I'd bet that she took your pills. It's practically impossible for an addict not to. If you love your girlfried, don't leave your pills accessible to her. Learn about addiction so that you won't enable her disease to progress any further than necessary. Oxys are a terrible addiction to overcome.)

[Stagebear]

Originally Posted by christin1225

It worked exactly the opposite for me. Immediately, I became addicted to the way that the pills made me feel

It was almost like feeling whole for the first time...
Unfortunately, I then ignored everything I already knew with 15 years of recovery from alcoholism.

[Cherybaby66]

My husband has legitimate pain issues due to surgery he had on his leg some years ago. He takes them only when he is traveling long hours on a plane because his leg starts to throb with pain. We did them recreationally together for a long time...only thing is...he was able to stop after a day of partying. I couldn't. I took them all week long while he was away...more and more. Then, he'd run out. I'd almost talk him into the fact that HE needed more for his pain. He'd get a new script. I'd fill it. I'd take it. When he needed them...they weren't there. 120 pills would last me two weeks at best.

Now, the pills are locked away in a safe so that he can get to them if he needs to...and I cannot. I feel foolish for not being able to have them in the cabinet and simply walk away from them, however, I am powerless over my addiction. I need to have these safeguards in place while I am still early in my recovery. My husband is so understanding...but he will not tolerate my addict behavior any longer. He will not make excuses for me, nor will he accept me playing the blame game on him. I am a big girl, made my own bed in which I am now lying in.

Get those pills out of the house, or, if you need them for your pain, lock them in a combination lock safe. (Don't do a key lock. I broke into one of those quite easily while I was in a frenzied state).

Good luck to both of you.