Feeling lonely

[hopefully tryin]

Hi everyone,
I am almost hesitant to post this but I need to get it out. I am a week away from 7 months clean. Due to certain circumstances, I moved out of the country when I was about 2 months clean. SInce I am abroad I have been mainly coming to this forum for the support I need and boy does it help. Anyways, I guess the reason I posted this is because I have been here for about 5 months and I am going nuts with boredom and I am so homesick. I don't have my residence visa, therefore, I cant drive, cant work, cant really do anything. I am a very outgoing, people person. I love to meet new people, get out of the house and do things and socialize. Well needless to say I go up to 5-6 days without ever leaving with the exception of taking my kids to the park so we can all get some fresh air. I usually keep a good head about this situation and always try to remind myself why I am in this situation (has to do with hubby job and money) But I am starting to feel so lonely. I don't seem to have anything to look forward to that involves the rest of the world. I would love to just be able to maybe go for a walk by myself when my hubby gets home but it is always dark by the time he gets home and it is not really that safe where I am at for a woman to be alone at night. Anyways, I don't know if there is anything anyone can suggest but I really just needed to vent. I am lonely all day, bored, exhausted, slightly depressed and just down right homesick.
Thanks
HT

[hopefully tryin]

Sorry I should also add that my time difference is 8 hrs ahead of EST so even calling family and friends is a huge deal and cant happen until it's very late here

[tw33k]

i can fully relate to your current situation. even tho i haven't left the country, i've had to cut contact with those i used to call friends and even my family. i leave the house for an hour a day then i've got nothing to do for the rest of it. i try to fill time doing housework etc but it's wearing thin. everyone needs adult company some of the time. without it we'd all go loopy. i'm not sure what's available to you as far as meetings or other social activities go but i do want you to know that as long as you keep coming here you'll never be alone.

[hopefully tryin]

Thanks, I also try to keep myself busy with housework and have rediscovered my love for cooking and trying new recipes. But like you said, that adult interaction is so good for the mind. I think cooking, cleaning, listening to music and coming to this forum is what has kept me halfway sane for the last 5 months. I keep thinking that if I move back to the states and get a job that it will be better. But the I start to remember how lonely my nights were w/o my husband and how much that triggered my using and d*mn it sucks that I am such a coddie. I feel kinda stuck right now. Like I don't know what's best for me. I am so grateful for where I am spiritually and in my recovery but I am also so lonely. I miss the freedom to get in my car and go to the beach or a friends house. It is something that truly gets taken for granted when it is so readily available.

[bval]

Sorry you're feeling this way, HT.

Are you hitting any kinda 'meetings'? The kind where 'people in recovery' gather and talk? If not, ... well, consider that my personal suggestion

[hopefully tryin]

Yes a meeting is a great suggestion :-) I am somewhat reluctant to go because of where I live. Not an excuse, believe me, just a reality of the country I am in. Which is why I love SR so much!! Anyways, I am feeling a little better today. Just really upset and worried because my son is sooo sick. Fever, vomiting, BAD upset stomach, etc etc. He's only 2 and won't eat or drink anything. Took him to the Dr and of course just a virus. But atleast he has some meds to make him feel a little better while it runs the course. If only I could get him to take the meds w/o wasting half of them.

[hopeful62]

Not sure why doctors don't suggest it, but compazine suppositories will stop the vomiting. They make a children's dose, but in the US it does require a prescription. This helps them to keep the meds and fluids down. If it's available in the country you're in, you might ask about it.

My sympathies are with you. Any way to meet anyone, maybe other parents with children your son's age? How long will you be there?

You know what's best for you, but it sounds like you're making the right decision to stay with your husband, especially if being without him is a trigger. I personally have low social interaction needs . . . if I'm living with my partner, I could stay alone (other than seeing my bf) for months. When I was single (meaning dating but not in any one serious monogamous committed relationship) I did get lonely at times. Loneliness made me very depressedn as well.

I found that getting out and doing productive things that I enjoyed helped me. I love the library, taking college classes, and usually have some new hobby I'm learning about to keep me occupied.

Good luck, hugs.

[lugnut]

If only I could get him to take the meds w/o wasting half of them

Hope he is doing better trying!!

One way you can get him to take it all is put the dropper or spoon between his cheek and tongue. They cannot spit it back out and swallow it much easier when it is between the cheek and tongue. Trick I learned with my daughter.She still fights me to the bitter end but she at least gets it all!