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**Done-With-It** · 11-08-2007, 09:51 PM

I'm sorry ((Amy))

**BigSis** · 11-08-2007, 09:58 PM

Amy.... ((hugs)) How wonderful you can bring this here... that you can talk about your pain, not hide from it. That you are finding the sweet support of a kind and loving family.

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your Uncle... and thank you for honoring us with this.

((hugs))

Lizrox · 11-09-2007, 05:29 AM

Amy,

I am very sorry for your loss..

You gave ALLOT of words of wisdom in that post. Congrats on your 8 mos; excellent!!

much love,

Liz

exjunky · 11-09-2007, 05:57 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. When you lose somebody to a horrible disease like cancer, it's tempting for your mind to dwell on the cancer itself. Don't do it--that's not what's important. Remember the good times you spent with him instead; that's what's it's really about.

tennchick9598 · 11-09-2007, 06:03 AM

I am so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong you are sooo loved here!!

Jane63 · 11-09-2007, 06:19 AM

Morning Amy...I was just checking the site before heading off to see my daughter for the wknd and saw this. I am so sorry for the loss of your uncle. Please accept my condolences for you and your family.

I am happy for you that you get to go spend time with your family and what a lovely family it sounds like you have!!

Quote:

Any time there's been a funeral in the family, it is much more of a celebration of life than a gloomy occasion. I never thought I could laugh when my mom (my best friend) died, but I did because we had so many wonderful memories.

How wonderful to be able to do that!!
{{HUGS}}
Jane

PS...CONGRATS on your 8-months too!! Excellent!!!

ccgirl · 11-09-2007, 06:33 AM

Amy, thank you for letting us know and I am so sorry for your loss. Your family sounds wonderful, though, so try to enjoy that time with them and spend lots of time reminscing and laughing about your uncle.

newsandi · 11-09-2007, 07:33 AM

Hi Amy, I hope everything goes ok. Sounds like this might be a good thing for you to get away from the stresses of your home life and see some family and celebrate your uncles life. Sorry you have to go thru this and you are well cared for on this forum. It doesn't surprise me, you are the warmest person that I have talked to on here. You are such a caring and understanding person. Dont worry about your friend needing money, if she is a true friend, she has to understand that you have your own responsibilties to take care of. Take care and be careful and I will miss hearing from you for a few days. Your friend in Cincy.

newsandi · 11-09-2007, 07:36 AM

Ohhhhh, I almost forgot HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO AMY!!!!!!

emmer · 11-09-2007, 07:50 AM

Hi Amy, Im sorry for your loss ......I too lost an uncle this week ...he was 93 and lived a good life.
Again I am very sorry for your loss.

Joe

2ala2 · 11-09-2007, 09:43 AM

My heart goes out to you and your family.
He definately is in a better place.

***Impurrfect*** · 11-09-2007, 01:54 PM

Thanks so much, everyone.

Joe - sorry about your uncle.

Today was a good test of my 8 months clean time. My mind is scattered all over the place and I'm having to make lists or I can't get anything done. I know this is how I react to the death of a loved one because, unfortunately, I've been through it many times.

I went to get my oil changed, should have been $30. Found out the only belt my car has was worn and wouldn't have made it to MN, so ended up spending $170 that I really don't have. I'd transferred the last $50 of my savings to my checking account to cover what I had to buy today. Only thing is, apparently I didn't complete the transfer. So the charges were taken out of my savings account anyway, but now will cost me $10 per transaction.

I discovered my newly-recovering stepsister has a ways to go on her thinking. Told her I'd be going to MN and she kept telling me "Dr W will give you something if you think you need it" - we go to the same Dr. I kept telling her I don't WANT anything, but finally just said "I'll call him if I change my mind".

Luckily, the only thing I'm really craving right now is sleep and junk food and that's okay. I'm going to MN on a wing and a prayer, but I have enough room on a credit card to get gas and my dad said he will loan me money if I need it. If necessary, I will swallow my pride and ask my cousins, aunt or uncle for a loan - just enough to cover gas.

I know that this is something I need to do, and it's the right thing to do, so everything will be okay.

Thanks again for all the thoughts and prayers. It definitely helped me get through this crazy day.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

***Impurrfect*** · 11-09-2007, 05:09 PM

Prayers answered!!

Just got a call from a guy that dad does deliveries for. Dad can't do it because he just got home from St. Louis. I'm driving some small packages up to Lexington, KY, will get a room, then head on to MN. It will pay me $500 and that's more than what I've been making in a week at work.

I'm so glad I turned this over today. Otherwise, I'd still be stewing about it.

I'll be careful and will try to check in. I know I CAN do without SR for a few days, but don't really want to.

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

**best** · 11-09-2007, 05:29 PM

Prayers for a safe travel. God's mercies go with you as you ride.

11-08-2007, 09:51 PM	#1 (permalink)
Done-With-It InAButtonKindOfWay. Seriously? Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hollywood Posts: 8,250 Blog Entries: 15	I'm sorry ((Amy)) __________________ Living in fast forward Hollywood RockStar outta control Need to rewind real slow Alwys Runin Time to take control Oh yeah ...

11-08-2007, 09:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
BigSis On a tear Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Volcano Country! Posts: 3,164	Amy.... ((hugs)) How wonderful you can bring this here... that you can talk about your pain, not hide from it. That you are finding the sweet support of a kind and loving family. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your Uncle... and thank you for honoring us with this. ((hugs)) __________________ No matter how spoiled the past may be, our future is spotless.... BigSis

11-09-2007, 05:57 AM	#4 (permalink)
exjunky Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Miami, FL Posts: 602	I'm so sorry for your loss. When you lose somebody to a horrible disease like cancer, it's tempting for your mind to dwell on the cancer itself. Don't do it--that's not what's important. Remember the good times you spent with him instead; that's what's it's really about. __________________ Is addiction a disease, or a choice? Who cares about semantics? If it's a disease, cure thyself. If it's a choice, make the right one.

11-09-2007, 06:03 AM	#5 (permalink)
tennchick9598 Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: TN Posts: 1,376 Blog Entries: 10	I am so sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your family. Stay strong you are sooo loved here!! __________________ Its Better To Have Loved and Lost Then Never To Have Loved At All........

11-09-2007, 07:50 AM	#10 (permalink)
emmer The lion sleeps tonight Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 1,641	Hi Amy, Im sorry for your loss ......I too lost an uncle this week ...he was 93 and lived a good life. Again I am very sorry for your loss. Joe __________________ Love conquers all.

11-09-2007, 05:29 AM	#3 (permalink)
Lizrox Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 513	Amy, I am very sorry for your loss.. You gave ALLOT of words of wisdom in that post. Congrats on your 8 mos; excellent!! much love, Liz

11-09-2007, 06:33 AM	#7 (permalink)
ccgirl Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Harwich, MA Posts: 2,593	Amy, thank you for letting us know and I am so sorry for your loss. Your family sounds wonderful, though, so try to enjoy that time with them and spend lots of time reminscing and laughing about your uncle.

11-09-2007, 07:33 AM	#8 (permalink)
newsandi Content with my past Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Cincinnati Ohio Posts: 637	Hi Amy, I hope everything goes ok. Sounds like this might be a good thing for you to get away from the stresses of your home life and see some family and celebrate your uncles life. Sorry you have to go thru this and you are well cared for on this forum. It doesn't surprise me, you are the warmest person that I have talked to on here. You are such a caring and understanding person. Dont worry about your friend needing money, if she is a true friend, she has to understand that you have your own responsibilties to take care of. Take care and be careful and I will miss hearing from you for a few days. Your friend in Cincy.

11-09-2007, 07:36 AM	#9 (permalink)
newsandi Content with my past Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Cincinnati Ohio Posts: 637	Ohhhhh, I almost forgot HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO AMY!!!!!!

11-09-2007, 09:43 AM	#11 (permalink)
2ala2 Affiliate Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Cairo Posts: 753	My heart goes out to you and your family. He definately is in a better place.

11-09-2007, 01:54 PM	#12 (permalink)
*Impurrfect* Community Greeter Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Atlanta Posts: 5,606	Thanks so much, everyone. Joe - sorry about your uncle. Today was a good test of my 8 months clean time. My mind is scattered all over the place and I'm having to make lists or I can't get anything done. I know this is how I react to the death of a loved one because, unfortunately, I've been through it many times. I went to get my oil changed, should have been $30. Found out the only belt my car has was worn and wouldn't have made it to MN, so ended up spending $170 that I really don't have. I'd transferred the last $50 of my savings to my checking account to cover what I had to buy today. Only thing is, apparently I didn't complete the transfer. So the charges were taken out of my savings account anyway, but now will cost me $10 per transaction. I discovered my newly-recovering stepsister has a ways to go on her thinking. Told her I'd be going to MN and she kept telling me "Dr W will give you something if you think you need it" - we go to the same Dr. I kept telling her I don't WANT anything, but finally just said "I'll call him if I change my mind". Luckily, the only thing I'm really craving right now is sleep and junk food and that's okay. I'm going to MN on a wing and a prayer, but I have enough room on a credit card to get gas and my dad said he will loan me money if I need it. If necessary, I will swallow my pride and ask my cousins, aunt or uncle for a loan - just enough to cover gas. I know that this is something I need to do, and it's the right thing to do, so everything will be okay. Thanks again for all the thoughts and prayers. It definitely helped me get through this crazy day. Hugs and prayers! Amy __________________ "I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm not where I used to be" - Joyce Meyer

11-09-2007, 05:09 PM	#13 (permalink)
*Impurrfect* Community Greeter Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Atlanta Posts: 5,606	Prayers answered!! Just got a call from a guy that dad does deliveries for. Dad can't do it because he just got home from St. Louis. I'm driving some small packages up to Lexington, KY, will get a room, then head on to MN. It will pay me $500 and that's more than what I've been making in a week at work. I'm so glad I turned this over today. Otherwise, I'd still be stewing about it. I'll be careful and will try to check in. I know I CAN do without SR for a few days, but don't really want to. Hugs and prayers! Amy __________________ "I'm not where I want to be, but thank God I'm not where I used to be" - Joyce Meyer

11-09-2007, 05:29 PM	#14 (permalink)
best Don't get undies in a bunch Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: South Shore MA Posts: 7,190	Prayers for a safe travel. God's mercies go with you as you ride. __________________ * I asked God to spare me pain. God said "No", Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me. Recovery Related Acronym B. E. S. T. = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today?

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