Another bad post

[obsessed]

Well, it seems that I only post when something bad happens and I am sorry. My 18 year old AD come home in June and things were ok, she enrolled in our local community college which I was proud but never got a job, done any housework or really keep any promises made. Also has a boyfriend with a criminal history. So on Thursday her grandfather called her and told her to get home so we could talk about what was going on, well she showed up with a police escort to get her clothes and move in with this boy and his addict parents so again i let her back in my homeand she did exactly what I told she was not going to do and that was come home, rest up, eat well and just basically recharge and now she is gone again and I am worsr this time than last.Please pray for my family

[ccgirl]

I feel so bad for you. My best friend is going through the same thing with her 20 year old daughter. It's been going on for years.

You know what? For her own sanity and safety, she turned her daughter in. She now sits in the county lock up; but you know what, my friend stoped enabling her and she told me she slept like a baby for the first time in years. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

[littlethings]

obsessed,
I am 23 and i'm an ex heroin addict. i can't even tell you what i have put my mother and father through. it's been ridiculous. I cannot say that i know what you're going through because I myself am not a mother, but i have been in your daughter's shoes (or similar ones). In my addiction I didn't realize the things that i did to my parents and quite honestly now that i am clean I HATE TALKING ABOUT MY ADDICTION to them, I think it's because i know i've hurt them so bad and there's nothing i can do to take that away. I still live with my parents and we seem to get along somewhat well now. All I can really tell you is my experience, my parents never kicked me out.... they were always TRYING to find ways to help me (but quite honestly until i came to the realization that i was addicted, there was nothing they could do for me). after trying rehab, then relapsing, i eventually got onto a methadone maintenance program, was on it for 2+ years and eventually (and slowly) detoxed and now am clean. i have been off of methadone since April 2006.

If there is ANYTHING i can do for you or any questions i can TRY to help you answer, let me know.

[bluebird]

I'm sorry obsessed. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Katie

[t_a_n_y_a_]

i'm so sorry
I'm a 20 year old cocaine addict and I cant even begin to tell you what I put my parents through. I stole from them, I moved out at 16 with numerous boyfriend, lied, cheated, left for weeks and months at a time without calling...you name it I did it to them.
Only now are we beginning to rebuild our relationship....but even now its hard and I find myself going back to old patterns and behaviours. I think the biggest problem was my parents never kicked me out, never punished me and always welcomed me back, even if I walked into their house after a night of binging high out of my mind. In my head I felt it was OK to treat them the way I did.
I don't envy the position your in, but you and your daughter are in my thoughts

[Done-With-It]

oh man, I'm sorry... I know you had high hopes this time...
(((Obsessed))))