Choosing not to post while using

[StagebearNJ]

I respect that there are a couple of regular members here who are choosing not to post because they are actively using. But please keep in touch, even just a daily "hi".
No-one ever told me in early recovery not to go to a meeting because I was drunk, they just asked that I not rant on or give unasked for advice. They still let me show up and still listened.
So, please, don't let guilt keep you away from a potential lifeline. That's why we're here.
You know who you are...
All my best,
The Stagebear

[margo]

Thanks for posting this, Stagebear.

[t_a_n_y_a_]

Thanks Stagebear and I second that, and i mean REALLY second that. I go crazy not hearing from those who are actively using especially. No judgments here

[T1]

I'm guilty of this. When I originally joined this community I got clean, relapsed, then vanished from here because I felt embarrassed. I now know that for some like me relapse can be part of the recovery process. I've learned alot since then... and still learning all the time. I now realize I should have just hung in there and opened up about it. Great topic!

[ccgirl]

Absolutely. If you can't be honest here, where can you be honest? Come back guys

[Barto]

I’ve always believed it is better for a drunk to be in an AA meeting while drunk, rather than to be drunk somewhere else.

[chiynita]

I did this too. And I ended up trying to kill myself after relapsing. I think maybe if I would have stayed active on the board even a little I might not have taken it as far as I did.
We are always here..and thx bear for posting this.

[Sugah]

In nearly all cases, posting while still using indicates a desire. All things in recovery begin with that...

North? Misti? et al?

Peace & Love,
Sugah

[mikiglen]

i slacked off cause it didn't feel fair or right to you all to be posting while using. i mean, what do i talk about? just my normal every day stuff like everything is ok when it's not? or moan and groan cause i want to get sober but won't? i feel like if i want to encourage or support someone (and i felt weird posting this am to some other members)...people will say "who is she to try to support someone else? she can't even get her own head out of her ass?" or "look at her, acting like everything's just great. she is so in denial."
i don't know if that makes sense to anyone, but it kinda does to me. i just feel weird talking about mundane things when i am so struggling....but if all i do is whine noone will ever read my posts again.
i'm just thankful that saturday is day one and i can come home to you all again

[Alera]

Originally Posted by mikiglen

i slacked off cause it didn't feel fair or right to you all to be posting while using. i mean, what do i talk about? just my normal every day stuff like everything is ok when it's not? or moan and groan cause i want to get sober but won't? i feel like if i want to encourage or support someone (and i felt weird posting this am to some other members)...people will say "who is she to try to support someone else? she can't even get her own head out of her ass?" or "look at her, acting like everything's just great. she is so in denial."
i don't know if that makes sense to anyone, but it kinda does to me. i just feel weird talking about mundane things when i am so struggling....but if all i do is whine noone will ever read my posts again.
i'm just thankful that saturday is day one and i can come home to you all again

I'm thankful that you posted. I didn't notice your myspace before today, but I went there and we share the same "fav books". I just finished a Robin Cook and James Patterson. Do you like either Faye or Jonathan Kellerman?

Oh, wow. Did I just find something to talk about with you

[StagebearNJ]

Originally Posted by mikiglen

people will say "who is she to try to support someone else? she can't even get her own head out of her ass?"

Ooohhh...you said "ass"!
Seriously, your experience is your experience. I respect whatever you choose to do. But you were very supportive of me when I first came around and told me things about my withdrawl I needed to know. I won't ever, ever forget that.

Checking in to say hi and let us know you're okay is a beautiful thing.

Best,
Bear

[butterflylover]

I've been guilty of this. I'm still using Hydro's (they are prescribed now) but I still post. I like the people here and reading their stories of struggles and success. It helps me realize I'm not the only one going through this horrible thing. It also gives me a chance to get my feelings out since I don't talk to people in my life about my addictions. Well, a few people know.

I hope everyone is doing well and has a great week!