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02-25-2007, 06:49 PM
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| Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: VA
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| I told my husband
I did it. I told my husband about my serious pain pill use over the last six months. And everything bad I expected to happen - for him to be angry about the betrayal, or ashamed of me, or to walk away, etc. - did NOT happen, just like so many of you said. I wanted to thank everyone for their encouragement and advice. Most of all I wanted to tell anyone out there in a similar situation that it DOES feel better. As some of the shame lifted I realized for the first time just how much that puppy weighs. All the sayings about lies making you sick, and worry shared being worried halved- all true. Still, this is one day at a time. Today I told my husband. Summerpup |
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02-25-2007, 06:51 PM
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| Keeper of the Stars  Join Date: May 2006 Location: A little left of center
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Summerpup....... Doesn't that feel great??? Keep putting one foot in front of the other and doing the next, right thing! Good luck and keep posting! It's a HONEST program!
__________________ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Mackie "In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back!" (Charlie Brown) |
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02-25-2007, 06:56 PM
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| Lurker  Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Western NC
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I emember telling my wife I wanted to go to AA. It was like telling her about evey lie I had told her was just that. I fretted about it for days, but once it was done it was like a huge weight was lifted off me. Congrats on your success
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02-25-2007, 07:26 PM
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| Take it like a bear...  Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In the den
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I am so very glad it worked out as many of us had guessed it would. You are an incredible example to others here today. My very best to you both, Stagebear
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02-25-2007, 09:21 PM
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| Dopeless Hope Fiend Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: anchorage Alaska
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Good job!! So now are you getting off the pills ?? Let us know how you are..SR is a great place to stay sober at!!! Lots of very cool people with alot of strength adn hope to share.. love north |
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02-25-2007, 10:04 PM
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 Good for you, Summerpup i like hearing the good news and the breakthroughs. Yeah you got the right idea, keep it geared to one day at a time. Ten | |
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02-26-2007, 05:42 AM
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Ten, Mackie, Stagebear, North, ccgirl, all of you, Thanks for the encouragement. Yesterday was the battle to tell the truth. So I guess today begins the battle against the pills. Hubby says we can do this as a team, and call in the calvary (friends, doctors, rehab, whatever it takes). I'm lousy asking for help - the whole don't want to be a burden thing - yet I've more than proven I can't quit alone. What's the key to asking and allowing help? Thanks. Summerpup |
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02-26-2007, 05:58 AM
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| Take it like a bear... Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In the den
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Basically, not wanting to ask for help, for me, is pride. But I needed to recognize that I really had no pride left, if I was jockeying prescriptions, lying to doctors, friends, etc. So, it's a false G*d we sometimes worship, it's not really pride at all. Happy to hear you're on the road, I remain your humble servant, Da Stagebear
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02-26-2007, 06:00 AM
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The hardest thing I had to do (after telling my husband, or course) was to tell my regular doctor. She was very understanding, and referred me to an outpatient detox where I was given meds to help the symptoms of w/ds. So, I guess if you've told the person who means everything to you, telling your doctor shouldn't be quite as hard. You did it once, you can do it again!
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02-26-2007, 07:55 AM
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| Keeper of the Stars Join Date: May 2006 Location: A little left of center
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What's the key to asking and allowing help?? ONE BIG WORD...................SURRENDER!! Surrender to the disease and move on. Get cracking!
__________________ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Mackie "In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back!" (Charlie Brown) |
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02-27-2007, 12:08 PM
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| You're never alone!!  Join Date: May 2003 Location: Wisconsin
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Hey thanks for sharing your hope with everyone here.  It's hard, but so important to our recovery to open up to the people that we love, and love us. Because they love us, they do want what is best for us, and although they are often hurt, they will still love us, and we need that. It's also the time that we are deciding to make changes like becomeing honest. You have done a good thing for yourself, and thanks again for sharing here. You help others when you do that. I hope things are going well for you.. Prayers, Becky
__________________  ™Don't tell God how BIG your addiction is, tell your addiction, how BIG our GOD is!! Jesus is our teacher and he is our Savior, who takes our prayers and makes them his own.  |
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02-27-2007, 01:28 PM
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Hey folks (esp. Waldo who's checking up on me - thanks), Today was one of the hardest days yet. I sat down with my husband and made a list of all the ways I have access to pain pills. He was surprised I knew so many devious ways and I was ashamed to admit I'd crossed a few lines (taken some from family, went to an Urgent care with fake back pain). Next we go down the list and put road blocks in front of every single one. This means telling the friend who is writing the scripts for me (humiliating), telling the pharmacy to cancel the refills (public humiliation). And the big one - handing over the pills I currently have to my husband to (gasp!) flush. I can already tell I'm going to regret turning myself in and wish I could take it back in about three days. Part of me is saying "Self, don't do this. You can manage this. Don't do something you can't take back. You'll be sorry." I'm not sure I've ever felt this vulnerable. Part of me thinks I just made the most stupid move of my life. Summerpup |
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02-27-2007, 02:45 PM
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| Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: tampa florida
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| What a Team!
Mr. and Mrs. Pup: I am so impressed. Do it. Yeah, I know the part of ya...But... What a game plan!! Both your friend who is a Doctor I surmise, and the pharmacy people, will be so PROUD of you, you have no idea. I know a Pharmacist or two. They get sick of junkies. For one to be as strong as you are and come in and present yourself not "humiliating" but instead HUMILITY, will make their day. I am so proud of you Pup! Waldo P.S. Tell your Husband I think he is a good man. |
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02-27-2007, 03:52 PM
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| Take it like a bear... Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: In the den
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Everything you are doing is right. Everything you are doing will make your future together brighter. Just trust. Let go. You don't have afraid anymore. Stagebear
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